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writes:I have been with my bf for just a little over a year. We have been doing the distance thing for about 7 months of it... he's a very attractive, kind person.The problem is, I've been hanging out with this much older guy lately. I mean - he's the same age as my father!! He's 44, and I'm 22! He's a head and shoulders shorter than me, he's missing teeth, and he's balding... but there's just something about him, it's so freaking weird! I have a crush on him!!!!!!!!! I know he feels the same about me, and I don't think I'll act on it, it's just too weird... but he's just such a kind person... he'd give anyone the shirt off his back, everything he does is just so kind... what the hell do I do?My bf is coming to visit me soon, I think he knows that something isn't right... this whole situation is just so messed up! I've got the perfect, young, sexy, attractive man all to myself, and instead I want a construction worker with no teeth! Holy daddy complex!please, help! I need advice...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, just thought I'd update on what happened... everything turned out to be ok. Once my bf showed up, it was all about him. The guy was definitely just a rebound about missing him, and he had a lot of the qualities I was wishing my bf had.
But things turned out better then I expected. The thing that was missing was how he wasn't as much of an animal fanatic as I am. When my bf showed up, he was as much into my dog as I was, so everything worked out for the best, I just didn't know what to do with the emotion that I was feeling at that time.
Thanks for all the help!
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reader, pippy81  +, writes (26 September 2009):
Don't do it you will regret it!! You'll miss out on alot of stuff and when you get older you'll prob look for soemthing else new.
I'm 28 and I have been with a man thats older than my father and now we have 2 children together, his 55 and we have been together since I was 17 so thats 10 years together.
Not happy in the relationship that your in now get out and don't look for that older wiser charm.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (26 September 2009):
Your humor in this is cracking me up...sorry, I'll be serious. I definitely think that if you decide to go with your toothless construction worker friend, you'll regret it later on down the line. You know what you have--but is there something lacking in your boyfriend that this man has or is it just the distance? I'm thinking that it's probably the distance (it could be both) and if you were able to see your boyfriend much more often you probably wouldn't feel the same way.
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reader, purple_butterfly +, writes (26 September 2009):
I wouldnt say I understand your situation but I guess I have a very straightfwd solution to this. I am sure you know what the solution would be.
Nyways id further explain. I am very sure you dont like the old man because of his looks or age, but its the personality. It sometimes happens that you start admiring and liking someone a lot because theyre just so nice. But when it comes to taking decisions in life, you should be logical. Like honestly, do you even expect anyone to say to you here that leave ur bf and go with the old man? Somethings just seem tempting but doesnt mean you act on it. You say youre bf is amazing and plus he is coming to visit you. Just take things slow.
If you still cannot get over the old man, try to make a list of things that youre bf can do for me and the old man cant... Might help!!!!
I am not trying to be mean to the old man. But at the end of the day it shud be about you. Youre just 22 and you dont wanna get into something tht might not end up too great later
hope it helped!
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