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writes:dear all...i have been chatting and phoning a guy for the last 2 weeks....every day...at length..and we met at the weekend....the date was great... and we both said we wanted to meet again.... we did sleep together and it felt very natural....but since that date.... i have very few texts or calls and all mostly by me... he has texted back but not as much...do you think there is no future..or he is acting cool?as he likes me alot....i cant understand ..but need to have some advice..... am i wasting my time on this guy? or should i perserve?
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Hello,
Any more news on this? Did he keep in touch? Hope things are well, Hannah.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): You really like this guy? You hardly know him. He got what he wanted,but you obviously didnt. He has probably backed off because he see`s you as an easy lay. Move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 May 2010):
Of course you're not getting paranoid. He's just said that. He said he would text later and he didn't. Stick with your plan not to contact him today. But even if he does, he doesn't sound all that bothered.
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reader, tinasworld +, writes (11 May 2010):
tinasworld is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdate.....
i actully spoke and chatted to this guy last night...and he said nothing was wrong was i getting..paranoid! me....he did say he hasnt been feeling well. but this could be a excuse..for him not to text or call me as much....?
he said he would text me later!!!nothing arived that eve...am i paranoid? or am i reading the right signals that he isnt really interested?
thank you for all your advice.....iam still not clear as what to do..i really like this guy...
i wont contact him today and see if he does...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 May 2010):
Oh dear. My learned female aunts have all the said the same thing. From a male's point of view, I have to be honest and say that you've been used. You always need to take your time getting to know a man and what he really wants. I think you've do better to move on.
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (10 May 2010):
I think you should ignore him and just move on. Seems like he just used you for sex. Do not contact him. If he does, see how it goes. But do not sleep with him again unless he shows some emotional connection with you, orelse you would just let him use you again.
Shyt happens. Dont worry and just forget it.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (10 May 2010):
2 weeks is a short time before sleeping with someone if you are expecting a relationship out of it. This is especially true if it was the first time you had met.
I suspect he hadn't got to know you well enough to see you as a potential girlfriend or relationship material. Maybe you could turn it around by keeping your distance and seeing if he starts to get in contact more. Just don't sleep with him until you see signs he sees you as a girlfriend. You'll know this by him talking about things you could do in the future together, and by him opening up and wanting to spend time with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2010): Hello
Hmmm seems as though he's backing off. Do you know for sure whether he has a gf or wife? Or maybe just wanted a fling?
If your the one making most of the contact he doesn't sound that interested. Maybe as him flat out if this is going anywhere.
Good luck
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (10 May 2010):
Hi,
hmmmmm, I'm not sure at the moment. You will have to wait for about another week or so. See if he asks for another date? See if he responds more? He could be just enjoying the moment and thinking over things....speed, timing etc.
If he doesn't respond soon though, I'd be inclined to just move on and chalk this one up to experience. I've met a few of these myself and well........let's say I've been disappointed.
But leave it for a week and see what happens this week. I hope things go well, take care, Hannah.
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