Guy canceled our date because he was super exhausted from work. Do u think he was really exhausted or blowing me off?
Q. I had been talking to this guy from online for a week. He was amped to meet me and the night before we met he told me that he only dates one person at a time, he asked if im gonna meet anyone else and i said no that i only planned to meet him, we ...
A. 12 January 2012: well he canceled last night *wednesday* in the evening around 9pm. i called 15 min after and left that voicemail sayin i understood and for him to let me know when hes free etc. i havent heard from him but seein he said he was exhausted, i figured ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is into the "it's not you, I just have no interest in sex right now" phase. How do I handle this?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months. Im 28, hes 34. When we met all was well and we were intimate but shortly after we met, he lost his full time job (he had 2 jobs a FT and PT)now he just has the pt which is barely anything, and his car died/ ...
A. 13 December 2011: I know he's going through a tough time, im there for him and I'm trying not to think about sex but It's very hard. Do you know if there's anything I can take or do to dull my sex drive?... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??
Q. My ex called me after 8 mo or so.. saying he missed hanging out with me etc. When we were dating, he was going through a custody battle, living with his mom because he was helping her out (she had back surgery) and they fought alot. We ended on a ...
A. 30 May 2011: yeah weird right? i didnt know what to say so overall i said okay then, to him not wanting to talk about it, and basically next time to lemme know if he cancels, cos thatd be great and basically let him know if he gets sorted out and wants to make ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??
Q. My ex called me after 8 mo or so.. saying he missed hanging out with me etc. When we were dating, he was going through a custody battle, living with his mom because he was helping her out (she had back surgery) and they fought alot. We ended on a ...
A. 30 May 2011: i sent him a msg today asking what happened and he said " i dont want to talk about it ok"
and i said ok then, "if we make plans another time and you cant chill, please lemme know..thatd be awesome. ttyl"
im not sure what happened.. he went from... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??
Q. My ex called me after 8 mo or so.. saying he missed hanging out with me etc. When we were dating, he was going through a custody battle, living with his mom because he was helping her out (she had back surgery) and they fought alot. We ended on a ...
A. 29 May 2011: cindycares - .. no thats a different ex, i recently told that ex to quit calling me unless he wanted to fix things because i didnt like being jerked around. This post is about the ex bf before him lol. Dear Mandy - Thanks,.... its weird, w... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??
Q. My ex called me after 8 mo or so.. saying he missed hanging out with me etc. When we were dating, he was going through a custody battle, living with his mom because he was helping her out (she had back surgery) and they fought alot. We ended on a ...
A. 28 May 2011: Im not obsessed w my ex at all and I have moved on...i havent msged him for sometime now. Not sure what your talkin about but thanks.... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??
Q. My ex called me after 8 mo or so.. saying he missed hanging out with me etc. When we were dating, he was going through a custody battle, living with his mom because he was helping her out (she had back surgery) and they fought alot. We ended on a ...
A. 28 May 2011: Thanks. Ill def see what he wants, feel it out a bit n I guess we'll see what happens... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??
Q. My ex called me after 8 mo or so.. saying he missed hanging out with me etc. When we were dating, he was going through a custody battle, living with his mom because he was helping her out (she had back surgery) and they fought alot. We ended on a ...
A. 28 May 2011: I enjoyed his company when we were together and im still attracted to him...i guess im just nervous cause he seems waaaay happy or overly excited to see me..sayin he missed.me,.that im beautiful, he cant wait to see me etc. this is good stuff.im ... (read in full...)
My Ex is ignoring me, I miss him and was nice, why is he being this way?
Q. Currently im trying to cope with the fact my ex is ignoring me. I broke up with him a cpl months ago because he was too busy for me and seemed to be going through a depression and being overwhelmed by work and school. So instead of listening to my ...
A. 28 May 2011: i did tell him i regretted breaking up.. it was never a true break up.. it was just taking a break.
when we were together - i tried being there for him and all he did was push me away. how can you be there for someone..when they dont want to see u... (read in full...)
Is ignoring my ex a good idea or will it push him away? I miss him!
Q. I feel silly but I miss my ex. we had a great relationship but towards the end it sucked. We took a break cos he got too busy with school and work and neglected me. He promised itd change but it it didnt. So I said we should take a break. Ever since ...
A. 23 May 2011: If we were married or living together, atleast id see him daily, so there wouldnt need to b that extra time. I love sleeping next to him. Fuck I miss him. I hate that. Yeah he needs to learn how to balance. Not sure he ever will. I hope things get ... (read in full...)
Is ignoring my ex a good idea or will it push him away? I miss him!
Q. I feel silly but I miss my ex. we had a great relationship but towards the end it sucked. We took a break cos he got too busy with school and work and neglected me. He promised itd change but it it didnt. So I said we should take a break. Ever since ...
A. 23 May 2011: its scary to love someone and be afraid to introduce them to your kids.. because what if it doesnt work out..? and then theres that fear of having the kids get attached.. only for you guys to break up and the kids get hurt.
But at the same tim... (read in full...)
Is ignoring my ex a good idea or will it push him away? I miss him!
Q. I feel silly but I miss my ex. we had a great relationship but towards the end it sucked. We took a break cos he got too busy with school and work and neglected me. He promised itd change but it it didnt. So I said we should take a break. Ever since ...
A. 22 May 2011: I decided just to let him know, not to call me anymore..unless hes serious about working things out. This back n forth thing is hurting me etc. if he had broken up with me, I would hate to be ignored....i ts the worst feeling. plus the idea of him ... (read in full...)
Is ignoring my ex a good idea or will it push him away? I miss him!
Q. I feel silly but I miss my ex. we had a great relationship but towards the end it sucked. We took a break cos he got too busy with school and work and neglected me. He promised itd change but it it didnt. So I said we should take a break. Ever since ...
A. 22 May 2011: im interested in getting back together only if he plans to be a good bf.. not how hes been acting recently.. hes only called once so far in a wk.. so if he calls me a bunch.. when do i return his calls? or how do i let him know to only contact ... (read in full...)
Is ignoring my ex a bad idea? I want to get back together but I don't think he takes me seriously
Q. i broke up with my ex because he stopped spending time with me. he had a lot going on in his life, including being depressed and incredibly unhappy with himself (before all of that, we had a blast/great relationship and he talked about the ...
A. 13 May 2011: yeah i hear ya.. i definitely dont want all the bs.
but the thing is he wasnt always like this..
4-5 months of it was great..when hes happy
so im just wondering..if he does get his crap together and is happy with his life..and wants to make it w... (read in full...)
I'm still in contact with ex-bf, but gets me so angry with his flakiness and provocations. How should I handle this??
Q. I've been having trouble with my ex. I broke up with him because he stopped spending time with me. Maybe its the fact he was going to school full time, depressed, unhappy with his life..whatever it is, I broke up thinking itd make me feel better ...
A. 13 May 2011: he actually called me today.. a wk later from when he was supposed to call - i ignored his call.. he knows what he should do to fix this and i think he plays stupid.. i think ill avoid him for a cpl wks and see how that goes.. i want to explain to ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for my ex-bf, whom I still love, to get his act together and come back to me?
Q. I guess im trying to learn how to deal. I broke up with my bf over a month ago because our relationship went from seeing/talking to each other daily.. to still talking daily (he'd call to say hi, i miss u/love u) but barely hanging out. He used to ...
A. 22 April 2011: thankyou lately ive been talking to him alot..but im gonna stop because i feel like im chasing him.. he called me recently because he was super super sick(he makes it sound like hes dying)..(because hes been running himself ragged) but he r... (read in full...)
Will we have a 2nd date?
Q. so im just trying to figure if this date went well. we had alot of conversation, laughed alot.. or he seemed to be smiling alot, joked around. we hung out for a few or more hrs and then when he was leaving he lingered, so i hugged him. before h...
A. 17 April 2011: thanks for all your answers. i dont really think i looked like a party girl.. mainly cause i wasnt drinking, he saw that, and i told him i was staying to sing a song for a friend thats going out of town/then going home. and he texted later..so he ... (read in full...)
How Do I Deal/Be Supportive to A Super Busy BF? He goes to School FT & Works FT.
Q. I'm not sure how to treat my ex. I broke up with him because he stopped spending time with me. When we met he was working, had a car and a motorcycle, house etc.. and 4 months later he got suspended with pay(though he lost his job), then had to s...
A. 4 April 2011: i had asked him the other day if we were together.. and he said i dunno.. and i said why dont you know? i told him i thought we'd be together, seeing you started working again. and hes all i just started working. i said well seeing you dont wan... (read in full...)
How Do I Deal/Be Supportive to A Super Busy BF? He goes to School FT & Works FT.
Q. I'm not sure how to treat my ex. I broke up with him because he stopped spending time with me. When we met he was working, had a car and a motorcycle, house etc.. and 4 months later he got suspended with pay(though he lost his job), then had to s...
A. 3 April 2011: to be honest i dunno if we're together. We had this discussion awhile back where he said he wants to be with me but he might have to move and so we didnt get back together. but then he got his job back = not moving. but i need to hear that we're ... (read in full...)
Unerotic water sports?
Q. A girl I'm seeing is wanting me to pee on her. I know lots of people will do this for the erotic pleasure, but she insists that this isn't the case for her. She says its more about the intimacy of it. I'm a little confused by her reasoning. Anyone ...
A. 3 April 2011: did you ask her to explain in great detail what she means? why does this mean, 'intimacy' for her, i mean where did it come from? to me erotic pleasure/intimacy is the same thing.. its all pleasure. ... (read in full...)
How do I be there for him and take everything he says with a pinch of salt so I don't feel so let down?
Q. I've been occassionally seeing my ex (datin for 6 mo). we broke up a few wks ago (I broke up with him because he didnt make enough time for me and promised he would but always had excuses some valid but sometimes i felt he was too lazy aswell).It ...
A. 17 March 2011: thankyou...
yeah moving on is hard..i know that it takes two to make a relationship work..and i wish he wouldve kept on fixing it.. but seeing that hes unhappy in his life or stressed out.. we wont work.
it just really sucks..cos i feel once he ... (read in full...)
Broke up with BF. Hes Making little changes..but is that enough or am I wasting my time?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend.. we have been dating for 6 months. We got along great, he makes me laugh and i could see myself marrying him(he said the same about me and talked bout the future alot) cept for a few important things that bug...
A. 4 March 2011: Well it seems that we were more sexual before and the closer we get..it seems like it's changed. The sex we had the other night was fantastic..obviously because it was makeup sex plus it had been weeks. I don't mind if he has his me time.. or han... (read in full...)
Broke up with my BF. He calls to say I miss you/nice things but wont apologize or invite me out.Why is he being like this?
Q. I recently broke up with my bf (On wednesday the 23rd). Today would be the 6 mo. mark. The last few mo (ever since he was put on suspension w pay from his job (he still has income from the military tho) - hes been diff. Also we started school last ...
A. 26 February 2011: Yeah im not just gonna get back together with him..unless he puts some effort into it. its frustrating though.hearing these i miss yous etc..
if he really cares...he should try to fix it in the end and come back right?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't give 100%
Q. So Im thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend. He's got alot of great qualities - we have a blast hanging out, he makes me laugh and i can see a future with him.He constantly talks about us being married, living together, kids etc. The only ...
A. 10 February 2011: As for the bbqs n stuff.. hes a foodie as am i ..so hes always down for some good food and beer..which is why it angers me about him seeming so whatever bout hanging out
seems hed be more down for it..
today he asked if i miss him.. i said yeah ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's insecurity about his looks has shattered our sex life...how do I make him feel better about himself???
Q. hey so i dunno if im just overreacting but my bf hardly ever wants to have sex. Hes always too tired, not feeling well or in a bad mood cos of work. Now hes on Admin leave and I figure..well work shouldnt be the issue..but it seems we have le...
A. 20 January 2011: thankyou ;) I'm definitely going to try to encourage him without making him feel bad.
he recently said that we should do more active things together. I agreed and said that we should do it.. not just talk about it & I said i was super inte... (read in full...)
My BF is an Insecure Odd Loner. How Do I understand him better?
Q. My bf frustrates me sometimes- I dont get him. We get along great, hes fun to be around and funny but he has a habit of joking 24/7.. it seems he can never be serious..even if I'm trying to be.I also have trouble knowing when he is serious - he ...
A. 16 January 2011: both of your replies were great..and helped me alot.
I'm definitely trying to give him room. Sometimes i get anxious over things..like he has trouble giving me exact times when we're gonna hang.. but i try to just appreciate the time we DO have toge... (read in full...)
How do I cope with the fact my bf & I hardly see each other & how do I help him out of his depression?
Q. I'm writing because I want to learn how to cope with the fact that my bf and I hardly see each other. We used to see each other frequently (he used to work the night shift 6pm-6am) and they recently changed his sched. to 6am-6pm. He's a night ...
A. 3 December 2010: I think his boss and few others at the job are assholes.. so its makin it difficult.Im not even sure if he's thought bout getting another job & I never thought bout it cos well..hes also in the military (he works at a naval hospital mainly)& he gets ... (read in full...)
Why does he shut me out when things arent working out for him?
Q. The guy im dating shuts me out when things arent going well for him.Last fri we had a great night and he seemed so happy(normally we hang at his place but this time we hung out at mine and he had never been).He hates living w/ his bro, they have a ...
A. 14 November 2010: i did.. im actually dating someone else now :)... (read in full...)
Why did my ex txt me out of nowhere & tell me hes sorry for not talking to me and that hes single??
Q. Recently my ex sent me a txt saying sorry for not talking to me till now..that he was with in a controlling relationship with this girl and didnt want me caught up in her bs.He then followed with a txt saying "no i dont have the hats and im no ...
A. 5 October 2010: yeah. i understand what ur saying. i mean he showed concern about my health issues aswell but then made a joke out of it. I guess i just find it weird he msged me at all..because hes not consistent..Hes in my life one min..out the next.He flirts ... (read in full...)
Why is my old Ex ignoring me? Why is he so weird with me? He disappears.
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title: Okay so my ex is ignoring me.We talk on and off.We broke up over a yr ago.We've hung out a handful of times since then.He talks to me for awhile and then disappears. Last time We hung out - he kept talkin about how he...
A. 2 September 2010: but if he saw me as a great friend..why would he ignore me??
i could understand if we broke up because one of us cheated.. or we found someone else or we got tired of each other..but none of that happened. He was super stoked about me daily.. ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex ignoring me? Does he hate me?
Q. We had a good relationship.he seemed super into me practically in love with me (calling 2x daily/wanting to see me daily).We ended on a sour note because he flaked on plans + didnt return my calls/msgs.after i wrote a lengthy email pouring my heart ...
A. 26 August 2010: thankyou.:) yeah im fine w/ him not calling for 3 days in general..but considering he stood me up..that was unacceptable - considering its rude and he knew its my biggest pet peeve (even though i was nice about it at first).Im hoping he gets his ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex ignoring me? Does he hate me?
Q. We had a good relationship.he seemed super into me practically in love with me (calling 2x daily/wanting to see me daily).We ended on a sour note because he flaked on plans + didnt return my calls/msgs.after i wrote a lengthy email pouring my heart ...
A. 25 August 2010: I apologized for the name calling and i said i understood he has alot on his plate..
and i also said i hope things go well for him - custody battle etc..
the thing is with the calling.. i never asked him to call 2x a day or anything like that.he... (read in full...)
He's completely flaked on our plans and even though he's still nice to me he's being a little weird...
Q. I'm freaking frustrated. I've been dating this guy for a month and 1/2. He calls daily/every other day (2x sometimes). He doesnt have a car or his own place. We saw each other a lot but i stopped goin as much cos it got expensive (he lives 35 min ...
A. 18 August 2010: his reason for not getting back to me was that he was busy ..
before this.. i had left voicemails..which he ignored, i even emailed..thinkin he didnt receive my voicemails (he doesnt have a cell..it was a house number and he lives with his moth... (read in full...)
Why do men always choose to ignore me or disappear instead of explaining themselves?
Q. So my q is why do some men choose to ignore or disappear instead of say whats going on or explaining. I dated this guy(2-3 mo)who was head over heels into me.We hung out daily,he contacted me daily.He chose to hang out w/ me instead of his f...
A. 17 August 2010: the first one has been cheated on i mean. i never said i love you to the 2nd(recent one) 1st one i did but it was in the moment and besides..he kept hinting that he felt the same and wanted to hear it.. and also from the get go he anticipated ... (read in full...)
Sex was two minutes. He asked me to call the next day but no reply, is he avoiding me cause hes overly ashamed?
Q. [OP original title] Ive posted this pretty much before but there was more to it and needed an opinion. I went on a date w/ this guy.We had ALOT of sexual tension - just super attracted to each other and enjoyed each others company and it seem...
A. 16 August 2010: now that ive msged a few times.. im not goin to msg anymore.. cause 3 is enough (extra one because i didnt think my first one went thru)
we talked before sex and i told him i was never interested in just a sex thing.. but i decided to cause itll... (read in full...)
Sex was two minutes. He asked me to call the next day but no reply, is he avoiding me cause hes overly ashamed?
Q. [OP original title] Ive posted this pretty much before but there was more to it and needed an opinion. I went on a date w/ this guy.We had ALOT of sexual tension - just super attracted to each other and enjoyed each others company and it seem...
A. 16 August 2010: haha well then im a dork. i msged him anyway and said that i know hes busy but that im still down for some future sex/hanging..whatever..and hope he is too and to lemme know either way (seein that he had asked me to msg but no reply?). I guess I ... (read in full...)
Sex was so brief! But was it genuine embarrassment or signs of something else?
Q. I recently met this guy.. we are incredibly attracted to each other.. our chemistry is through the roof and we talk daily.. and tonight we had sex for the first time.Well i was super nervous to have sex w/ him but figured i dont normally do this ...
A. 15 August 2010: Im also wondering because the sex was short..do you think he'll disappear? We havent known each other long..we jumped into sex & I figured why not have a good time even though its not normally my style. He says hes not just lookin for sex (but who ... (read in full...)
Sex was so brief! But was it genuine embarrassment or signs of something else?
Q. I recently met this guy.. we are incredibly attracted to each other.. our chemistry is through the roof and we talk daily.. and tonight we had sex for the first time.Well i was super nervous to have sex w/ him but figured i dont normally do this ...
A. 14 August 2010: thanks for the replies..
I definitely plan on doing it again..lol.i didnt consider what happened a bad thing - i enjoyed it.. i just wanted some advice :) thanks again...... (read in full...)
Why did he reply to my email if he wants nothing to do with me?
Q. My bf and i have been together for a month 1/2. He's always called daily sometimes 2x a day (i didn't ask him to). We hung out daily or frequently. He's currently in the middle of a custody battle, moving, purchasing a car.. We had spent the wknd ...
A. 7 August 2010: nah it didnt sound harsh. i was worried that something couldve happened to him but then i started to feel stupid about thinking that way and thought..hes prob ignoring me and here i think something happened to him but...i was actually thinking about ... (read in full...)
Opinions. If he wanted to break up he'd tell me, ignore me or be slightly rude right?
Q. I've posted before.. but i cant seem to relax.. im constantly thinking. I realized when guys are sick theyre big babies (well some). I'm used to being needed when a bf is sick but because my bf has his mom nearby/her friends to get him things.. he ...
A. 1 August 2010: i hardly call him to begin w/ ..he normally calls me and hes been sick since last sunday. we talked sunday (he sounded fine with me/ just sick).. i called monday (to see how he was feeling/no answer)..and then called thursday - he claims he didnt ... (read in full...)
Opinions. If he wanted to break up he'd tell me, ignore me or be slightly rude right?
Q. I've posted before.. but i cant seem to relax.. im constantly thinking. I realized when guys are sick theyre big babies (well some). I'm used to being needed when a bf is sick but because my bf has his mom nearby/her friends to get him things.. he ...
A. 1 August 2010: thanks for replying - oddly enough i love taking care of people when theyre sick..well mainly a significant other (i was a caregiver for 6 yrs.. im done now lol).. but yeah i like it.. so i know i should be happy he doesnt need me..but i guess i ... (read in full...)
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