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41-50,
*ixieGwen
writes:The guy im dating shuts me out when things arent going well for him.Last fri we had a great night and he seemed so happy(normally we hang at his place but this time we hung out at mine and he had never been).He hates living w/ his bro, they have a bad relationship.(Our relationship is we talk/almost see each other daily,he likes me but shows it more when drinking or when hes in a really good mood)That sat we were supposed to hang but he decided to buy a car.He had all the money for a car but forgot that it'd be extra hard to get one cos of previous duis etc.So he became angry and later told me that he ignored all this dui business for a cpl of yrs and now hes taking care of it cos he's tired of ignoring things.Whats good is hes taking care of things/turning over a new leaf (gettin a car,limiting his alcohol etc)What bothers me is that instead of being positive, hed rather be angry and because he's angry - i feel he's shutting me out.When he's in a bad mood - I dont hear from him. I msged him today askin if hes well and inviting him to a bbq for the wknd..this was a cpl of hrs ago but i keep wanting to take it personally and try not to because I know that im not the problem.He's also the type of guy that doesnt like people to take care of him when he's sick.I'm the type of person that cares too much,feels bad for caring too much, wants to take care of him when he's sick, listen to his worries/probs.He knows this and likes it and says it shows I have character/that I'm a really good person and he always says that im such a good girl..and when drinkin he asks me why I like him..its like he cant understand how I could like him cos im soo nice/good.basically im just wondering why he shuts me out, should I leave him alone for awhile? or what can I say to him to make him feel better or let me in.(sorry I went on a rant and sorry this is lengthy)
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (14 November 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question i did.. im actually dating someone else now :)
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reader, Debking79 +, writes (12 November 2010):
 He is probably a bad match for you and he knows it. Trust 'em when they say you are too good for them. That means you are. I am sorry that I took so long to respond, but I hope you let him go. Please don't spend your life trying to fix people.
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