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41-50,
*ixieGwen
writes:Recently my ex sent me a txt saying sorry for not talking to me till now..that he was with in a controlling relationship with this girl and didnt want me caught up in her bs.He then followed with a txt saying "no i dont have the hats and im no longer with that girl either" or something like that(i asked him awhile back for some hats his mom was gonna give me) we broke up over a yr ago but have talked, hung out since then.He doesnt know why we broke up(even tho he broke up with me).I chalked it up to im too nice of a person and it was going too well and he freaked.He seemed way too happy with me and then all of a sudden he wanted to break up..as soon as i was goin to leave for a 2 wk trip (fyi hes been cheated on in past relationships)..so till this day i have no clue why we broke up. So anyhoo.. when he sent me this random txt the other day it threw me off.. no clue why he chose to apologize for not talking to me for awhile now and why he felt the need to mention hes single.It also seemed like he was fishing for compliments or something.Im supposed to be getting back surgery and cant do alot of sitting/standing/bending.. he inquired about my health etc and made a sex joke/comment saying that my man meat(whoever im dating) probably enjoys the fact im constantly up and down. I said hah whatever and then followed with im not dating anyone. Not sure why i even told him but.. im just wondering why the hell he msged.i know its stupid but ever since we broke up hes been on the fence bout me.. he tells me i was great to him, and seems like hes dropping hints for us to get together in some way shape or form but he doesnt follow thru. And then now with this txt.. i wasnt sure what to think.although im sure its nothing.. (sorry for the rant...i strayed a lil)
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (5 October 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah. i understand what ur saying. i mean he showed concern about my health issues aswell but then made a joke out of it. I guess i just find it weird he msged me at all..because hes not consistent..Hes in my life one min..out the next.He flirts with me but back away and on top of that even though he knows nothing was wrong in our relationship, things were great and he knows i treated him well.. he still purposely dates women thatre unavailable in some way or to put it bluntly - bitches.He claims hes like his mother when it comes to dating and pushes away the good ones and dates the bad ones. Hes confusing is all..and i guess i shouldnt question/wonder why he msgs me at all..but its hard for me not to.I used to dating men/ having probs/breaking up - normal stuff..but never where its fantastic - the guy(him) talking about moving in together/talkin bout the future and then randomly breaking up. So his actions from then on are always gonna stump me.. i guess.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 It seems obvious to me that he's been with the other girl, it's not worked out, he's on the rebound, you could be a safe bet for him. Then you point out, he's not even bothered about your health issues, just his own sex life. I would stay clear if i were you. No one breaks up with someone if they are so happy. Just be very very careful. You are in danger of him doing this to you again. Hope this helps
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