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Is it okay to try weed?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to smoke weed with him but I won't because I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. do they contain mutual elements? or would it be fine if I tried it?...
A. 11 January 2009: 'I am very smart and I know I won't get addicted.'
Narrowminded? Honey, if you're stupid enough to get all high and mighty on some stupid drug fine, that's you're problem but seriously, you say you're smart, you go to PA classes....then WHY do y... (read in full...)
How do I deal with Crohn's disease?
Q. i have a rare disease called orofacial granulomatosis also known as crohn's disease. i have been bullied for over 4 years now because of this actually i think its longer and i havent had a proper real boyfriend because no body wants me some people ...
A. 23 December 2008: Hey I have Crohn's disease! And Chronic Pain Syndrome, and Wheat Intolerance :) Just falling apart eh?
Well having Crohn's disease hasn't affected my life. I'm 19, in the army and I'm doing all right. I have ulcers on my anus although they got... (read in full...)
Help! I want to leave my husband.
Q. I have been married to my husband for 5 years. For the past 2 years he has blamed me for everything that goes wrong in our relationship. He constantly moans so much so that it has eventually made me feel down and depressed. I work in the day and he ...
A. 23 December 2008: Hi, first of all I'm sorry about the dilemma. Have you ever tried marriage counselling? He might not know just how desperate you are. If he refuses, you know he definitely doesn't want it to work so leaving would be best I think. Have you got any ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to try weed?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to smoke weed with him but I won't because I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. do they contain mutual elements? or would it be fine if I tried it?...
A. 23 December 2008: Allergies aren't the only bad thing about weed...how about..addiction, health and money too?
I agree with Ready For Love...why would your boyfriend want you to smoke weed...if he's hooked it doesn't mean you have to be. You wouldn't think he... (read in full...)
Am I putting myself at risk by doing these things on webcam?
Q. am i putting myself at risk? I have fantasies about guys watching me masturbate, so much that find myself getting people i meet in chat rooms to watch me on webcam. I dont let people that i know watch me as this would be very imbarising at scho...
A. 3 December 2008: Yes you are, the internet is wacky in a way. Pictures and videos have a way of spreading on the web look at the Vanessa Hudgens incident. Chances are someone you know will find out. Fantasies are supposed to just stay as fantasies. I hav... (read in full...)
Help me choose the right path... should I give my virginity to him?
Q. Hi everyone. Please help me to select the right path. I love a guy very much . He also loves me the same. We r emotionally attached. But due to some family problem we can't get married.He asks me to give my virginity to him before my marriage. I ...
A. 3 December 2008: Hi, look, nobody on here can choose what's best for you, we can say what we think about the situation, tell you what we would do but this is a matter you eventually have to sort out on your own. My advice would be that sleeping with him, having... (read in full...)
I think have thrush - what do I do?
Q. Hi, this is quite embarrassing but I don't know what to do. I think I have thrush, and I think I have had it for almost a year withoout realising! I want to tell my mum, but I'm really scared. I have told two of my friends, but they don't know what ...
A. 3 December 2008: Don't worry about it, it won't be really serious, just more uncomfortable because you've had it for a year.
If you don't want to tell your mum, have you got a older sister or a cousin, an aunty maybe that you'd rather tell? Go to the chemist ... (read in full...)
Am I taking his 'manhood' away?
Q. Im an auto mechanic (almost all the commuter's request me) and also fixed everything around the house (like the night table). This really bugs my husband because he says that cant care of me and Im taking his "manhood" away. I mean come on if he ...
A. 29 November 2008: Hey. Tell him it isn't the 18th century anymore...women can be police officers, firemen (or women, whatever) and all sorts. But don't tell him that, it might upset him :) I would say that Petina1 has suggested something good, just give him a list of ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I will mess this one up because I don't know how to make out! Anybody have an advise on this?
Q. i dont no how 2 make out and i dont want 2 mess up i love this boy...
A. 29 November 2008: Well... you can't really give advice on how to make out can you? My first time I had no idea but keep your eyes closed, otherwise it's just freaky...then if you're going to go further, like tongues, just...do it. When it comes down to the crunch, ... (read in full...)
Other than diets, exercising and starving myself how else can I lose weight?
Q. Hello, I'm new to this site and just had one main question if you could help I would really love it. Well to start I'm 16 years old. I weigh 130 About. I'm just under 5 ft. To me I'm am fat although my family and friends say I'm normal. Plus for...
A. 29 November 2008: Hey I was just reading back my post and I realised that I hadn't included the link, here it is:
http://www.armyfit.mod.uk/
Please stop starving yourself, it isn't healthy and wether or not you lose weight, you're damaging yourself and I s... (read in full...)
He wanted me to stick my finger up his bum! Why?
Q. my bf and i was having sex the other day when he wanted me to stick my finger up his bum, why did he want me to do this, he said he liked it mut my nails where to long, i was going to do it again last nite but he said no why did he want me to do it...
A. 27 November 2008: Maybe it was just a spur of the moment thing and he might not want to do it now. Talk to him about it, when you aren't having sex, and see why he wanted you to do it.... (read in full...)
Do all women expect you to read their minds to some degree?
Q. Girls keep leaving hints, sometimes I get them sometimes I don't. Of course I don't really mind when it comes to little things, but when it comes to huge emotional issues it seems to come out at an unexpected moment. Unexpected as in "how was I ever ...
A. 27 November 2008: I don't. But I know lots of women that do. If a guy started doing that to me I would be freaked out and unsure of a lot of things. How on earth are you supposed to figure out the situation when all they do is leave little hints here and there? ... (read in full...)
Stomach bug or Pregnancy?
Q. Ive been sleeping with this guy for about 5 weeks, and im really scared im pregenent, Since yesterday afternoon during work i begain to feel faint, and had to go to the toilet 3 times as i had a bad stomach, i also felt like i needed fresh air ( ...
A. 27 November 2008: Go to the doctors and see if you're pregnant or not (maybe do a test beforehand) and also make sure you haven't caught an STD or something of this guy. I hope you get whatever news you're hoping for.... (read in full...)
Other than diets, exercising and starving myself how else can I lose weight?
Q. Hello, I'm new to this site and just had one main question if you could help I would really love it. Well to start I'm 16 years old. I weigh 130 About. I'm just under 5 ft. To me I'm am fat although my family and friends say I'm normal. Plus for...
A. 27 November 2008: Oh my god. STOP IT!!!! Seriously, starving yourself isn't going to get yourself anywhere. It's the worst thing you can do and you will suprise your boyfriend when you two go out and you faint. How do you expect to get anywhere on the amount of... (read in full...)
Are guys like wolves on online dating sites? It's unbelievably hard being a woman!
Q. I tried an online dating site. Out of curiosity I set up a fake female profile to see what it's like from their end. It's absolutely ridiculous! What an eye-opening experience. I got bombarded by messages. The guys were almost like wolves. It...
A. 27 November 2008: Well, if the guy is honest and just themselves it works for me although I hate it when they just say one like like, "Hi, how are you?" That's the worst. If they seem genuinely interested then the girl will most likely respond. If the message is just ... (read in full...)
We have unprotected sex regularly, how come I don't get pregnant?
Q. Hiya i seriously need help :( well basicaly im a 15 year old girl i lost my virginity at the age of 13,and now im 15 ive bing having sex with my partner on a regulr basis(every weekend) on a saturday but the thing is we hardly use a condom but what ...
A. 25 November 2008: Wait I need to get something straight... is it you just are curious as to why you haven't gotten pregnant or do you want to be pregnant and wondering as to why you aren't? If you didn't want people saying you shouldn't be having sex at your age ... (read in full...)
I am depressed, have a girffriend who understands me, but I don't want to lose her by talking about my problems, what should I do?
Q. I'm a freshmen in highschool and me and my girlfriend have been going on a good six months now,and we love eachother.We don't see eachother alot,but we don't care because we're both willing to try and be comitted. But the problem with me is that I'm...
A. 22 November 2008: I was depressed when I was 14. You sound depressed but it sounds like it all roots from insecurity. There are worse things in the world than depression, believe me. When you're feeling down, just...try to be cheerful. To those who have never been ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my friend, but I want to have a relationship with him!
Q. I have a classmate...i like him very much....we both are very good friend but i want to have love relationships with him...he always has his concentration on me..His concentration on me is more than what a friend has over her friend...We both have a ...
A. 22 November 2008: Talk to him and tell him you don't want to jeopardise your relationship, but you like him but you need to know if something bad happens, you can still be friends. Talking to him will solve this. Just find all your courage and explain it to him. ... (read in full...)
When is it okay to take back someone who has once cheated and may still have lingering feelings for the other person?
Q. When is it okay to take back someone who has once cheated and may still have lingering feelings for the other person? What can the couple do to get past this and build trust again? Is trust something that once lost is lost forever? He said he would ...
A. 22 November 2008: Trust has to be earned and he blew it completely. I would never take back a cheater now, I've learned from experience once a cheater, always a cheater. If he loved you, he wouldn't have slept with someone else. Learning from mistakes is all very ... (read in full...)
My husband is obsessed with a threesome - but even the guy he wants it with thinks it's a bad idea!
Q. Recently my husband has become obsessed with having a MMF threesome after reading various magazines and online sites about it, and he insists we should have it as it will make our marriage stronger. He also wants me to sleep with his best friend ...
A. 22 November 2008: You've already told him no, but he's still insisting? Wow, that's pretty selfish. Tell him you feel really uncomfortable about the whole thing and he can have his fantasy in his head if he wants to, but don't expect it to become reality. Ask him why ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with depression as it keeps getting worse?
Q. Most of my questions have been answered her so here i go again. i'm 13 years old I have had depression sense i was 12. recently it's gotten a lot worse i mean a LOT worse, anyway I have seen 2 therapists before and now i'm starting on my 3rd. i've ...
A. 22 November 2008: I had depression when I was younger. So when I really felt down, I would choose the brightest, cheeriest outfit in my wardrobe, force myself to look on the bright side and be ready to face anything. It always worked. I talked to my friends when I ... (read in full...)
Since he found out I'm not a virgin, he's claiming I'm "dirt and someone's leftovers".
Q. About 2 months into the relationship, I was curious about whether he was a virgin or not... but he wouldn't tell me and wanted to know if I was. I wasn't sure what to do--tell the truth and have the chance that he might think i'm a slut, or lie. So ...
A. 22 November 2008: What a dick.
Ignore him but if it gets too much, go and tell someone. Tell your friends, they'll back you up.
Seriously, if a guy is acting like that, it;s better to just stop talking to him, not in a childish way but..you know.
Tell hi... (read in full...)
Have you eaten with a guy you liked but he's vegetarian?
Q. Has anybody had a meal with a guy you really liked but he just happened to be a vegetarian? Which is completely fine with me, but I'm just not sure what to eat in front of him. I mean, do I just get whatever I feel like or should I avoid getting ...
A. 22 November 2008: I'm a vegetarian and I don't mind people eating meat infront of me. I don't even care about guys not brushing their teeth before kissing me, like Oblivia said.
Being a vegetarian is my choice, I don't care if other people eat meat, that's their ch... (read in full...)
People will think I'm gay if they find out I'm sleeping with another guy in school.
Q. Im a senior in high school and im starting quarterback,free safety and team captain for my high school varsity football team. I also have girlfriend she is sweet and beautiful, her and I have been sexually active, she doesnt know that i also have ...
A. 22 November 2008: Seriously. Read back your question.
"People will think I'm gay if they find out I'm sleeping with another guy."
I think you are a bi-sexual.
I don't know how you'll stop the guy the only way is..talk to him. Try and explain to him why it wo... (read in full...)
Girl tells me "a secret code" then says I am going to have to find out its meaning. What does this mean?
Q. Hi, There's this girl that I know of, and lately, when smsing her, she'll write "iahfadlfahkl" on her messages, and she says it means something and I'm going to have to find out. It could be something innocent (my guess... I'll think pessimis...
A. 22 November 2008: iahfadlfahkl
Um. No idea.
Although when you say it out loud it sounds like:
I have had a ...
then something else. Weird. Just ask her out to lunch or something.... (read in full...)
What do you do when she tells you she had sex with a stranger?
Q. what do you do if you break up with your girlfriend of 8 months then you date someone else for only a month no sex then get back with your ex then she tells you she needs a break after a week and you get back together and after a month passes in the ...
A. 22 November 2008: "What do you do when she tells you she had sex with a stranger?"
Nothing.
You weren't dating when she did that so why would things be bad?
She's said she stopped it because it didn't feel right because she wanted to be witth you.
Ever se... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and cannot relax for my first time ! I don't know what to do..=(
Q. well..hum me and my boyfriend actually didn't have sex..The thing is that i cannot relax and i contract...=/ I don't know what to do..=(...
A. 22 November 2008: You're not ready.
If you were, you would be relaxed and you wouldn't contract.
Everyone has said listen to your body.
How about listening to your head? Wait a while. Seriously. ... (read in full...)
It itches and burns,(down there). What is it ?
Q. kinda personal but need help figureing this out. so for the past week or so my vagina has been very itchy and burns. it has got to where when i go to the bath room it burns and hurts to even wipe. and after sex it burns twice as bad. i was wondering ...
A. 22 November 2008: It could be a water infection or thrush. Go see your doctor, but put a hold on the sex until it's treated. Sex can cause infections to worsen and your partner may also catch something.... (read in full...)
We can't afford a house as big as I want!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, i was hoping for some advice. I am 26 and I have always lived at home with my parents and my sister-we have a gorgeous,huge house with a big garden and front drive and every bedroom has an en suite and i love it.Also as a...
A. 22 November 2008: What does it matter about size? I know you're not being selfish but lots of people could mistake you for it. Saving up for a big house could take ages. The way I see it, you have a few options.
- You break up with your fiancee, find a rich guy... (read in full...)
I look at porn and enjoy it then feel digusted, am I normal?
Q. im 15 years old and look at porn. i masturbate of it and everything but i feel really disgusted after. AM I NORMAL? my boyfriend thinks its hot, so is it just me that thinks its kinda freaky and disgusting..? helppp!...
A. 22 November 2008: Seriously, don't freak out over this. It's completely normal. Some guys think it's only alright for them to do it but when we bring up the subject..OMG! SHOCK! HORROR! :) But even your bf understands so do whatever you want to. And don't think ... (read in full...)
I don't like giving and getting gifts from my boyfriend, what shall I do?
Q. I know this is a strange fear but I don't like giving and recieving gifts from my boyfriend. I don't mind giving and recieving gifts from my friends either the same sex or opposite sex but it's happened with all my past relationships. I am with a g...
A. 19 November 2008: Believe me, it's really not stupid. I had the same fear too, and as the same as you, only with boyfriends, and it didn't matter if that bf had been a friend previously that I've given a gift to, when I was dating them, I suddenly felt weird about ... (read in full...)
I feel so down and keep crying all the time. What is up with me?
Q. For the past couble of weeks I have been feeling really down, low, I've got no energy, I just can't be arsed to do nothing, but I push myself to because I have a 4 year old boy to look after, he is good as gold bless him, he has even been asking me ...
A. 19 November 2008: It sounds like you're depressed. Go see a doctor, maybe tell the same doctor that you're having these blood tests with. They won't do anything rash, like take your son away but maybe they'll try you on anti-depressants or something. Go to your ... (read in full...)
She keeps ending it when her period is due!
Q. I am in a relationship with the most beautiful woman but she keeps ending the relationship when her period is due. She says she can't help it but she hurts me so bad. Don't know if I can take any more hurt. I love her more than anything. What ...
A. 19 November 2008: Ouch that is some serious PMS! I know you're upset and probably fed up too. Have a long chat with her and try to sort it out. Talk to her and explain how you feel, how you want to help her. And if it just gets too much, try not to spend so much time ... (read in full...)
I feel like she's replaced me and I really miss him.
Q. hi. so ive got my best friend and hes a boy. were soo close and i love him to bits. hes soo important to me and we're always together. but recently we started getting closer than friends but decided that we would be better off as friends. but now he ...
A. 19 November 2008: Talk to him. Maybe he wanted to be more than friends so when it's been decided to stay as friends, he's either went in a sulk or he's hurt and doesn't want to spend time with you for either the reason he's angry or likes you in a different way you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so lazy!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and I love him with every beat of my heart, he's amazing, he's everything a girl wantss in a boyfriend, I'm 19 I work part time every day, he doesn't work nor go to school, I brought it up to him once and ...
A. 19 November 2008: I don't think you have to break up with him. Just try and get through to him by talking. Plead with him that you want the relationship to work and he needs to try and help. Tell him if he doesn't want to help it work, then maybe you do need to break ... (read in full...)
My parents caught my BF fingering me and now they won't talk to me.
Q. HELPP! my parents caught my bf fingering me... and they havent spoken to me since (it happened last night and havent talked to me all night and today) are they disappointed..? sad? will they ever get over it? im so depressed right now because i ...
A. 19 November 2008: Wow. Teenage flashback. When I was 14 my brother came in while my bf was fingering me. He just went red, turned around and walked out. He didn't talk to me for a fortnight. But it's different when it's your parents. It's like an unwritten law that ... (read in full...)
Should I tell a teacher?
Q. This is a personal question, but it is not relationship based. My name isn't actually Bella Hudson. In my school, there is a list on our wall of students good at science. I am on this list. The thing about my name is that if you add a letter to the ...
A. 19 November 2008: Cross it out.... (read in full...)
I like a guy who is younger than me soooo much.
Q. I like this guy who is younger than me. Whenever I waken up I always have a smile on my face because I know I am going to see him and whenever he talks to me or gives me a hug I get butterflies. The other week, he and I had a couple of drinks a...
A. 19 November 2008: How much younger? You have to be more specific. It says you're 16-17 so I'm guessing around 14-15?? Maybe? If you like him, go for it. ... (read in full...)
Is it morally wrong that part of my attraction to him is the lifestyle he can provide me with?
Q. A few months ago met a man who seems to be very attracted to me.. And I'm considering dating him. The problem is that I have trouble believing that he is really interested in me. He is a partner in an oil trading company, rich, good-looking, and ...
A. 19 November 2008: I wouldn't exactly say it's wrong for the reason. I mean, people are attracted for all reasons, you're attracted for his wealth. To date him just for that reason, it's kinda harsh on him don't you think? I mean, I'm not saying you have to love him ... (read in full...)
Did I lose my virginity even though it was just his finger?
Q. if i am a virgin and someone sticks there two fingers into my vagina like a shove almost and i bleed afterwards is that losing my virginity? because i have been very close to losing my virginity before. like one time i thought i lost it because ...
A. 19 November 2008: It doesn't matter wether or not your hymen is 'busted' you are still a virgin. Even tampons can tear the hymen. Even though I've said it in another post and every other person has also told you so.... YOU ARE ONLY A VIRGIN IF YOU HAVE SEXUAL INTE... (read in full...)
Did I lose my virginity even though it was just his finger?
Q. if i am a virgin and someone sticks there two fingers into my vagina like a shove almost and i bleed afterwards is that losing my virginity? because i have been very close to losing my virginity before. like one time i thought i lost it because ...
A. 19 November 2008: You're still a virgin. 100%
The only way you lose your virginity is if you actually have proper sexual intercourse (sex)
... (read in full...)
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