Do I forgive my husband for cheating with a Thai bar girl?
Q. I recently learned, by finding pictures on my husband's computer, that he had an affair with a Thai waitress. We have been together for 17 years and I believed our relationship was solid. If I did not fully trust him I would not have allowed him ...
A. 20 March 2011: Its really an individual choice. Do you want to be with him, or dont you. Can you live with his cheating, and possibly future cheating ? Only you can answer this. But if you forgive him and stay, you cannot ever use it against him or toss it i... (read in full...)
Masterbating with friends, is it normal???
Q. Just wanted peoples opinions on this one... So here i go i guess :( Me and my friends masterbate together, we've been best friends during high school and we all finished last year and now we're all 18 and can legally go to the strippers etc... ...
A. 20 March 2011: Well, I've had alot of friends in my time, and never ever have I done or thought of doing something like that. On the other hand, there are people out there who are into swinging and S andM and whatever else, I don't do any of that, is that norm... (read in full...)
My partner has been emotionally withdrawn for 3 years
Q. I am at my wits end with my partner. She has been emotionally withdrawn for at least three years now due to her own emotional issues. She feels a lot of fear and is upable to go out. She is finding it hard physically to get up of or get into bed. ...
A. 20 March 2011: You probably didn't see it coming because you werent that intune with her needs. Many years ago I filed for divorce. My ex told everyone, he didnt see it coming. I had been telling him, asking him, begging him to change for over 2 years. I ha... (read in full...)
Do couples share their passwords with each other or is it a trust issue to deal with?
Q. I have a question about trust. Im having an issue with my bf keeping his password from me. I know its because of trust and im trying to work thru it but with all thats happend its kinda hard to.my question is how many of you share your passwords ...
A. 19 March 2011: I have his, he has mine... (read in full...)
My partner has been emotionally withdrawn for 3 years
Q. I am at my wits end with my partner. She has been emotionally withdrawn for at least three years now due to her own emotional issues. She feels a lot of fear and is upable to go out. She is finding it hard physically to get up of or get into bed. ...
A. 19 March 2011: What ever happened to for better or for worse. Divorce and seperation are on legal grounds of drugs/alch. abuse - physical or emotional abuse - or living completely difference lives, irreconsilable differences. Are any of these in your situation ? ... (read in full...)
How to pave the path to the U.S for love?
Q. Hi, I am ManUnderEarth, my situation is really lil typical. I am of 23, and I am in love with a women of 35. and I am in India, she is in US. So I am really mad in her love. My problem is my family will never except this relation. and I fe...
A. 23 February 2011: If you haven't met in person yet, then you cant even think about moving there, as the USA immigration law doesn't allow it. Unless you're some rocket scientist or something. Some ultra athlete or a student. Or you have alot of money. Your... (read in full...)
My husband's mid life crisis...
Q. My husband of 19 years seems to be going through a mid-life crisis. How do I get him to stop thinking he would like to cheat and come back to me?...
A. 19 February 2011: In all honesty you cant. He is his own person. You can tell him that if he does it will be unforgivable, and you will be gone. You can try, if youre willing, to be the person that he thinks hes looking for. What is he looking for ? More attentio... (read in full...)
We hardly see each other, and every time we do, he starts a fight! What's going on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year, we have been working faithfully at keeping our relationship together and it's been a success as we live so far apart. We see each other every two months and the day before he leaves, for no reason ...
A. 17 February 2011: When my fiance used to leave me - we live in different countries and see each other for stolen long weekends every 3 months - we try anyways.
But that first weekend he took the plane home, we kissed, and he walked through customs. He never look... (read in full...)
My husband's ex is driving me crazy. Please, any tips on how I can handle this situation better?
Q. My husband's ex in 2006 took their daughter to Indiana, to live closer to her boyfriend (who was in prison for child molesting)... When she came back a year and a half later she sued my husband for child support. DHR agreed with her. She should have ...
A. 22 January 2011: First off ... you need to stay out of this. This and every other matter about the child, is between him and his ex. As is the monies owed from there union. Your job is to be supportive to your man,and loving kind and giving to the child.
S... (read in full...)
So do LDRs ever work out?
Q. do long distance relationships ever work out? ive been seeing a this girl for a little over 2 years and we are in love. the thing is that she got an opportunity to go work in europe for 2 years and she decided to take it. We both want her to stay ...
A. 10 January 2011: Absolutley !
It takes alot of commitment, understanding, and communication, and there has to be an end in sight.
Its only 2 years, and you can always visit. With skype LDRs are much easier to stay in touch. Visit some web sites that give you idea... (read in full...)
Separated for 12 years but not divorced -- am I being too picky?
Q. I have been talking(texting) to this guy i met online for about a month. He told me he was divorced and had 2 girls and I didn't mind at all.........I love kids and I too am divorced so.... Today I met him for the first time and during conversation ...
A. 8 January 2011: I think the thing here is why is he still married ?
I had a friend, although they were seperated, had new significant others, moved on, in no way shape or form were they together. Except for the medical benefits. That was the only reason was to k... (read in full...)
How can I trust she is not cheating on me with her soon-to-be-ex-husband?
Q. i'm in a long relation ship with a girl and we fell in love with each other. she is married and has a kid but getting divorced now that we're in love (her marrige was not working and her husband cheated on her many times). knowing that her husband ...
A. 3 January 2011: I think the fact that she is divorcing him says she doesnt want to be with him.
Your job right now is to be there for her, be strong for her, listen to her. If you can do this, she will learn to trust you, rely on you, and love you more for it
... (read in full...)
Why didn't she tell me she was married??
Q. I don't know what I should do about news I got last night about my partner. We've been together for just over 1 year. SHE'S MARRIED TO A MAN AND LIVING WITH HIM! This explains a lot of odd incidents. Where and how do I handle this mind fck Newyears ...
A. 1 January 2011: Im sorry, but Im not in agreeance with the other posters. There are alot of people who have open relationships and open marriages, this is just what they do, and you may have become an unwilling/unknowning partner. She may be with him for a number... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but he prefers me.
Q. I'm single and the past year of my life I've spent "having fun." I figured I'm young no use in tying myself down. But now my views ave changed. You see there is this guy and we have known each other for a couple of years. He is best friends with my ...
A. 31 December 2010: Honestly, I think hes playing you.
You say that he says he doesnt want to be with her, but the reality is that he is with her. This on its own says so so much.
You say that you fool around, well, obviously the girlfriend isnt there to fool aro... (read in full...)
Married man or emotionaly unavailable?
Q. I had been seeing a man for over a year, then he broke it off stating he was not ready for a long-term commitment. After 8 months with no contact, we recently reconciled. I suspect he may be married and have tried to ask questions to determine his ...
A. 31 December 2010: Even if he isnt married or in another committed relationship, he definetly shows all the signs that he just isnt that into you. Could be lies, could be hes selfish, could be so many things. But the end result is that you deserve so much better.
Y... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want a guy who is 8 years older than me?
Q. If I'm 19 and wanted to talk to this guy whos 27 is that bad? I'm not saying I want to be his wife or girlfriend, I'm just talk or maybe have sex. Nothing more. Is the gap between use bad? He knows how old I am and I've known him for 5 months. ...
A. 30 December 2010: The age gap is nothing to worry about, who knows, you could end up being the girlfriend or wife, dont rule it out yet.
Just have fun, and enjoy each others company.... (read in full...)
There's no sex in our relationship. Is she cheating?
Q. Hello I have been in a relationship for 7 years with my girlfriend,and we used to have sex every day sometimes to the point where it was a little much.But now for about the last 8 months she has not had sex with me, and I mean NO!! intimacy at all, ...
A. 30 December 2010: Unless she has some sort of medical condition where sex has become painful, I would say yes. She may not be sleeping with someone else, but there is someone else on her mind. If its not medical, shes having an emotional affair with someone.
I woul... (read in full...)
Can you really alter a polygraph?
Q. Ok, my question is I want to give my husband a polygraph test and I want to know that he cant alter the test. The reason I want him to take one is because well lets just say his work takes him to different places over seas for a year to a yea...
A. 30 December 2010: In all honesty, there is a reason why polygraphs arnt really admissable in courts ... its because the machines are sometimes faulty. Now, lets say, he took 3 tests in a row, on different machines, you have a better outlook on the results.
The othe... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but he doesn't want it. What should I do?
Q. i am 43 and my boyfriend of 2yrs is 27 i just found out im pregnant and i already have 3 kids he has none we are very serious and i thought he might be happy about this but he is very unhappy says hes not ready and does not want it.. what should i ...
A. 30 December 2010: You have a heavy decision to make.
First, do you want the child ?
If yes, then you have 2 more choices, keep the baby or give it up for adoption.
If no, then again, adoption is still an option or abortion.
The thing that gets me, is that if ... (read in full...)
We had sex and he told everyone! What should I do?
Q. Im 15 and about a month ago i had sex (i was a virgen) with my 17yr old bf bc i thought i loved him. He promised me tht no 1 would know no matter what but less than a week later he broke up with me bc he didnt want attachments bc hes goin to the ...
A. 30 December 2010: I would tell everyone that hes a lousy lover.
That would shut him up.... (read in full...)
Would the Police treat this as real domestic abuse?
Q. my husband mentally abuses me. i want to call the police but i dont know if they would think him shouting at me and smashing things in the house serious enough....
A. 18 December 2010: If you fear for your life ie: he is threatening to hurt you, then yes.
Other than that, I dont think so.
However, it is a good reason to divorce someone.
If your really not sure, keep a diary, date it, time it, say the weather, anything to ... (read in full...)
My girl friend is sending naked pictures of herself to her ex. Is that cheating?
Q. So the girl I've been dating for 6 months now has been sending naked pictures to her ex, and having conversations with him while telling him that she loves him too, and that he should come over to have sex with her, all while telling me that she's ...
A. 18 December 2010: Its more a sign that she is still in love with someone else. You are either a rebound relationship or she is using you until they get back together. Either way, I agree with the other poster. Shes just not that into you. And you deserve to be ... (read in full...)
My wife has a list of rules and guidelines for sex!
Q. My wife insists on having rules for sex, no oral unless we are freshly out of the shower. No cumming on her face or in her mouth. And no matter what, I have not convinced her even once to swallow. I love her dearly but, I think this kills the s...
A. 12 December 2010: I think you have to respect your wifes boundaries. I hope that they were discussed before you married so both of you knew what you were getting.
I have rules, no backdoor, no videos, no pain and no extra participants. My fiance knows this, and ... (read in full...)
It's killing me inside that she's meeting new people!
Q. How do i get over my ex? please understand she was my bestfriend, my gf, my everything. We talked 24/7, we were always texting so its very difficult for me because since we were always together. We had everything set, everything planned. It w...
A. 11 December 2010: You need to invest this energy into yourself. Stop thinking of what shes doing, and start concentrating on yourself. What do you like to do ? Start with a hobby, hang out with friends if you dont feel like being alone, hop on the xbox/ps3 or w/e ... (read in full...)
B/f says he can't do LDR anymore!
Q. Alright, so me and my boyfriend have been together for about three months, and it's a LDR. We did great up until last night. He said he can't do this anymore. The distance is killing him. Which it's killing me too, but i get by cause i know ...
A. 6 December 2010: As in any relationship, it takes 2 to work. All you can do is have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. Let him the distance is hard on you aswell but that you are willing to work with him through the rough patch.
LDR is hard, on ever... (read in full...)
Can't buy me love!
Q. If you were a popular girl in highschool but you thought you liked a really dorky and unattractive guy who you've known all your life and he really likes you, would you go out with him? this is for a friend and i couldnt decide what to tell her...
A. 5 December 2010: Absolutley.
If the girl is popular, whomever she dates will usualy also become popular. If she likes the guy and her friends are true friends, they will be more concerned about her happiness than her social standing.... (read in full...)
About my ex long distance relationship...
Q. Why does she call me up some nights and fall asleep on the phone, I don't get it? And then some nights she does not call me up but the past three nights in a row she has called me up and fell a sleep on the phone with me, then last night she did not ...
A. 15 November 2010: If you want to be with her, then ask her.
If you dont want to be with her then quit answering the phone when she calls.
I see this as a head game. I want you when I want you, but I dont when Im busy.
Your rant however is very short, and not very... (read in full...)
Is activating your dating account cheating?
Q. if you met someone online and made your account inactive when things progress between you both is it classed as cheating if you go back online and re-activate your account and look at other profiles without the other persons knowledge? ...
A. 13 November 2010: I look at it this way. Is this something that you hide from your partner, or is it something that you do in front of him ?
Anything that you have to hide, or feel ashamed of doing in front of your partner is essencialy cheating. Because you are ... (read in full...)
He ended our affair, what do I do now?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 3 years, have a 21 month old and had been having an affair for 3 months. He has ended it because he can't bear the thought of me with someone else, we had fallen in love. I just don't know what to do now, how to a...
A. 13 November 2010: I agree with the previous poster. All I could think about when reading your story was how would I feel being the other person. How long would I have to spend waiting for you while you had your cake and ate it too ? When do I become more than just ... (read in full...)
Mature enough to have sex!
Q. am 15 and ready to have sex but everyone thinks am too young, i look at porn but it doesnt resolve my cravings, im very mature, i do everything on my on, i really really want have sex because im ready! ive always be over sexual and am on birth ...
A. 7 November 2010: Its not really about being psyicaly ready, its about being emotionaly ready.
There are guys out there who would love to take your virginity, but then they will be done with you. Do you think you could handle that ?
Relationships start first.... (read in full...)
Do guys accept small breasted girls?
Q. I am a very petite girl with small breasts size cup A. My boyfriend told me he love me for who I am and always kiss and fondle with my small breasts but I feel so sad for him as I think that he loves bigger breasts. I start to feel ashame of ...
A. 7 November 2010: Dont be ashamed of who are you or what you look like. Life and love isnt about appearances, it may catch the opposite sex's eye, but its personality that keeps a person. Its the connection that the 2 people have that matter.
My fiance prefers Bs .... (read in full...)
Facebook is becoming a problem between me and my husband! Any advice?
Q. Me and my husband have been together for almost seven years we've been married for almost 2 . Here lately he's been on facebook a lot and it's really starting to bother me he adds women he claims he doesn't know and comments on their posts one woman ...
A. 15 October 2010: I dont think doing the .. if you can do it, I can do it .. is the best thing.
If your husband wants to go on FB and chat ... ultimatly there isnt a thing you can do.
I would suggest getting him to do things with you, away from the computer.
G... (read in full...)
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