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writes:i am 43 and my boyfriend of 2yrs is 27 i just found out im pregnant and i already have 3 kids he has none we are very serious and i thought he might be happy about this but he is very unhappy says hes not ready and does not want it.. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, too old +, writes (1 January 2011):
too old is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks to everyone for all of your feedback, i am keeping the baby with or without him, he is trying to be supportive but i no he is not happy, i hope time will change things.
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reader, Godchild +, writes (30 December 2010):
I must say this is oh so familiar. I cant base my life decision on you. But Im going to say this, I listen to other people about having another kid. I ended two of my pregnancy because i felt force. Make your own decision or you will lived to regret it. I know I am. If he didnt want anymore kids he should of took precaution. I feel like he has no say at this point its all on you. Make the decision for yourself. I wish you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): he's a super super young 27 year old guy! I'm a 28 year old girl and can tell you right now, guys in their 20's do not think long term through many things! He loves you, enjoys your company, but when it comes down to it - he knew you two would never end up together(after all, you're 43 and will not be able to have kids in 5/10 years when he will be). You were not a long term plan, maybe for now, but eventually he would have wanted kids and he would have left.
Not sure what to tell you. I'm sure this isn't what he wants, but now has to step up to the plate. NOt sure if in the grand plan of things he'll still be around in 5-10 years...
Time to have very very honest conversations with him.
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reader, Merilee  +, writes (30 December 2010):
You have a heavy decision to make.
First, do you want the child ?
If yes, then you have 2 more choices, keep the baby or give it up for adoption.
If no, then again, adoption is still an option or abortion.
The thing that gets me, is that if he really didnt want kids, why isnt he fixed ? Why are you carrying this burdon alone ?
I had a friend once, when we were in our late teens, a male. He told me that he wasnt willing to sleep with just any girl. He had to know that if he slept with her, and got her pregnant, that he would be willing to marry her. He did get a girlfriend pregnant, and he did end up marrying her.
But the moral of that story is, why does this 19/20 year old man know this, and your 27 year old doesnt ?
Im sorry to not answer your question directly and instead give you more questions. But this is a life altering decision, and I think once you have made your decision, because you dont have alot of time to really think about it, but you will find out exactly what kind of man you have devoted 2 years of your life to.
I wish you the best, but you have to stand behind your own morals on this one.
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reader, Julliet +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Do what your head tells you to do, not your heart.
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