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writes:do long distance relationships ever work out? ive been seeing a this girl for a little over 2 years and we are in love. the thing is that she got an opportunity to go work in europe for 2 years and she decided to take it. We both want her to stay but we both know that this is an awesome opportunity so that is why she is going. the thing is that well we are very much in love and we wont see eachother often. i am abut to start college in a few months and it will be hard because i will be moving there alone and its not like i can call her whenever because well i wont know if shes busy and also the time difference. So what do you guys think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): I would say I'm currently in a LDR, although I get to see my girlfriend roughly once a month. And yes, it's hard. LDR's require a lot of trust and commitment from both of you.
As you both have some of the most exciting times of your lives ahead of you (you college and her Europe), I'm going to play devil's advocate and suggest you consider parting on good terms. This way you can both go out and enjoy yourselves instead of feeling held back by your commitments. Plus it'll cut out a lot of unnecessary anxiety for both of you (i.e. who's that in your facebook picture etc.).
Then again, perhaps I'm just biased 'cos I've got 18 months of LDR left and feel like I'm missing out a bit on the college social/sexual life. Either way, the two of you need to sit down and decide together. Just remember that you're both pretty young and it's not the end of the world if you decide to part (although it may feel like it for a little while). Plus, there's plenty more fish in the sea, although you may have to catch a few before you find another one that you really like...
M, 24. 18 months before I finish university.
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reader, Merilee  +, writes (10 January 2011):
Absolutley !
It takes alot of commitment, understanding, and communication, and there has to be an end in sight.
Its only 2 years, and you can always visit. With skype LDRs are much easier to stay in touch. Visit some web sites that give you ideas on how to stay connected.
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reader, moon river  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 it can work for you so keep faith in this relationship working and don't wander and you will be fine (that came out a bit biblical sounding)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 I agree. Yes it will involve some hard work on both sides but it can be done if you both make time and effort for each other and as long as you both trust each other then you can make it through it. I know two years seems a long time but am sure you will both see each other now and again and after the 2 years are up you can go back to normal. Just remember how the saying goes distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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reader, Blod +, writes (10 January 2011):
 It can work if you're committed to each other and trust each other. It takes a lot of work but, with compromise, it's definitely possible.
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