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writes:I don't know what I should do about news I got last night about my partner. We've been together for just over 1 year. SHE'S MARRIED TO A MAN AND LIVING WITH HIM! This explains a lot of odd incidents. Where and how do I handle this mind fck Newyears blues? What made her keep it from me? I'm stumped. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): I'm the OP. I got the news from a woman that I recently met who coincidentally knows my ex. I confronted her and broke up with her all in the same breath. The next day she showed up at my job and physically assaulted me to unconsciousness because I refused to acknowledge her. A few co-workers witnessed the incident and telephoned the police which she was later picked up by the police at her residence and incarcerated. She's been released and even though I have a restraining order against her I haven't left out my home in over a week. I have several stitches in various parts of my face from her beating me.
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reader, Merilee  +, writes (1 January 2011):
Im sorry, but Im not in agreeance with the other posters. There are alot of people who have open relationships and open marriages, this is just what they do, and you may have become an unwilling/unknowning partner.She may be with him for a number of reasons, finacial is usualy a big one. Alot of women cant/dont leave a marriage because the man controls/earns the money.If you love her, with everything you are, you need to talk to her, you need to ask her why.Her response may shock you, and perhaps you might understand her situation more.The thing is, you dont say how you came to learn of this information, is it a rumour ?Ive learned alot about rumours the last few years, there are always 3 sides you know, his/hers/and the truth .. somewhere in the middle of these conversations, you will find the truth. The real question is can you live with it.
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reader, Secretlife  +, writes (1 January 2011):
She played you. She hid it from you because she knew it would hurt you. You need to break up with her. She's not the one for you. Go and find you someeone special that wouldnt ever do this to you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 She kept it a secret because she KNOWS/KNEW just how wrong her actions are/were towards YOU and her HUSBAND. I'm guessing she wanted her cake and eat it too. And she did.. for a whole year. On the expense of you and her husband.
Dump her. Dump her now. There is nothing in that relationship other then heart-ache and drama in the future, let alone the fact that she kept something as IMPORTANT as a marriage/husband from you. What else did she either lie about or keep from you? I know it's not easy to know that someone you thought the world of is not who she made you think she was and that your entire relationship was based on lies and deception.
I'm sorry, time for you to find yourself a honest, truthful, faithful single gal, honey!
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