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*unya84
writes:Me and my husband have been together for almost seven years we've been married for almost 2 . Here lately he's been on facebook a lot and it's really starting to bother me he adds women he claims he doesn't know and comments on their posts one woman even told him sweet dreams the other night which i found a little odd. This facebook thing is really getting old . He has added women that he works with which is totally fine but a perfect stranger , and when i ask him about it he says he wants to socialize with people more !!!! y all of a sudden is he getting into socializing specially on the internet ? am i not doing something right ? is he looking for someone new so many things have ran thru my head and it's really gtting the best of me. and to top it all off he added 6 people and said that he didn't do it...they were all like those porn girls that send ya invites and want you to come check out their video's .....what should i do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): He says he socializing, and with women he does not know? Sounds odd and sounds more like he is flirting. Don't let him pull that "You are jealous and insecure" act with you. My bf very clearly and repeatedly exhibited rude and disrespectful behavior, and I had the evidence to prove it. But, instead of discussing his behavior, he evaded the 'real' issue, and said I'm insecure and have an overactive imagination. I told him he doesn't get to play that BS game with me. I saw what happened, over and over. Still he refused to discuss what actually happened. So, my point is he will probably try to make it like you're being unreasonable. You are not. He is displaying behavior that is threatening the welfare of your marriage. Does he take the marriage seriously? If so, what he is doing is not okay, and it would make any wife or girlfriend very uncomfortable.
Does he have pictures of you and him together on his facebook? Does it say in his profile that he's married? If he is keeping mention of you from his profile, then I'd tell him he and you are going to counseling, else it's divorce. If you're not an important or major part of his facebook profile, then he's probably got cheating on his mind.
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reader, Merilee  +, writes (15 October 2010):
I dont think doing the .. if you can do it, I can do it .. is the best thing.
If your husband wants to go on FB and chat ... ultimatly there isnt a thing you can do.
I would suggest getting him to do things with you, away from the computer.
Go see a movie, go bowling, a nice romantic dinner, a bubble bath together.
What you really need is to reconnect with your husband. He is getting something from these women, that he isnt getting from you.
Or you could leave.
I dont say that very casualy either.
I had a conversation with my fiance the other day. I dont drink and I detest drunks. I told him, ( he has a drink maybe 2x a year at family funcitions ) but I told him that if he ever started drinking, that I would move out. I said, I may not divorce you, but you dont have the right to make me live with an alcholic. He agreed that was fair.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (14 October 2010):
 uhh. 30 mins ago me and my sis were discussing the damage facebook has caused to men.how men rely on facebook for everything.
your guy belongs to the mass.
not good news right?
i should tell you to break up with him but hes not just a boyfriend of 2 months.he's ur husband.
i think if u keep nagging about it,he will use fb more and more often.
what u need to do is...do the same thing. pay him back sweety.
once he sees ur talking to hot men,he should get alarmed.
then GET HIM TO DEFEND YOUR THESIS.
this means get him to talk to you about how he doesnt want you flirting on facebook.
then you can say he's right but if ur going to stop doing that he should stop doing it too.
good luck:)
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