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writes:I have a question about trust. Im having an issue with my bf keeping his password from me. I know its because of trust and im trying to work thru it but with all thats happend its kinda hard to.my question is how many of you share your passwords with your significant other and who doesnt. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (22 March 2011):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah i already have trust issues but really for no reason. Ive always had this issue though. He lets me go on his account but he wont give me the pass. His reason is because before when we were together i
had his pass and still didnt trust him so hes not gonna give it saying im justgonna have to trust him. Im trying to but its very hard and no he doesnt have my pass
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): If there are already trust issues, I can understand why you'd worry about if something is going on behind your back. While I can also understand the need for privacy, if he's ever done anything to give you reason to doubt his honesty with you, it's only natural that he expect you to be less trusting of him. Part of that could be requesting him sharing the password, and if he doesn't want to, give him a chance to explain why not. If you're familar with the excuses (if any from a previous occasion) you'll get, and why, it might just be better for you to move on and find someone who hasn't hurt areas of an relationship. Does he log in as you or know your password to your user account? Have you changed your password since he created the account for you? You might try that to see if he's checking up on you, while wanting secracy for himself. Not the best of signs however. I went through a similar issue with my ex-fiance. He had seperate computer user accounts, and told me it was for a security reason. Then one day I follow my instincts, flagged by his suspicious behavior, and find out he was speaking to a married woman about marrying HER! All this while I was in the middle of having a miscarrage with my first child! You could imagine the pain that was added to my already awful situation. You don't want to end up with a one-two punch like I did, and I am doubt your issue will never be anything like mine, and hope it can be resolved with understanding and compromise between you both.
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (21 March 2011):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo its a password to his account on his pc. He made me an account to. So we have seperate accounts.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 When you think about it, what good is having your partners password?
If something underhanded IS going on, they wouldn't do it on an account that you had the password to... they'd most likely have a secret account that you DON'T have a password to.
If something underhanded ISN'T going on, then you'd just over-analyze and over-react to every little interaction they have with certain people.
So I ask... What's the point?
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reader, supersuper +, writes (19 March 2011):
 Asking for your boyfriend's email is like him asking for the key to your diary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): you could break up and he could do anything with that password...
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 He can give you his password to the 'official' account but have a dozen unofficial accounts which he keeps all to himself...... A bit of privacy is fine in a couple, I'm all for it. Or... you might as well make him buy extra large clothes so you can both fit in one pair of pants (at the same time) to watch each other's every move. You have to feel comfortable in a relationship, not worry all the time. A relationship where you can breathe and feel happy is bliss. You don't always receive what you give unfortunately but hopefully someone in the end will appreciate that.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (19 March 2011):
I don't share my passwords. And I don't want to know my girlfriend's password neither. I'm talking about email account passwords.
Why? Because I trust her for real. Not because I can read her messages. It's very easy to trust your partner if you can see everything he/she does. But real trust exists only when you trust without being certain about that.
If you feel the need to know his password it's because you already don't trust him. And once you have his password you will keep distrusting him. Because you're going to need the recording of every telephone conversation he makes. And son on, there will always be something he does and you don't know. So you will never trust him.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (19 March 2011):
 My husband and I share passwords with each other for convinence, but we respect each others privacy.
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reader, Merilee  +, writes (19 March 2011):
I have his, he has mine
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reader, NadgerBadger  +, writes (19 March 2011):
Me and my boyfriend have each other's facebook passwords but it's only because we've seen each other type them in. We don't go on each other's accounts or anything, I think that's a bit strange.
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