Have I just not met the right person, or is it possible I'm not attracted to either sex?
Q. I've never had a boyfriend or even been on a date with a guy. In fact I have never had a kiss or hug off a guy that wasn't meant as friendship. As I'm 17 I just thought I would wait until the right guy came along and that I wouldn't rush into ...
A. 7 May 2011: You are only 17, most girl your age have relationships but are you really sure they feel in love with these guys? I would believe for most young people dating is just some sort of trend, and a way of experimenting relationships and sex. And besides, ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to the wedding, even though he hasn't asked me?
Q. Ive being in a relationship for nearly 7 month now. Its being very up and down and still is, although things do seem to be settling a bit now. Ive thought of walking away lots of times from this relationship but I have stuck it out and I have fell ...
A. 6 May 2011: It doesn't seem like a good start between you and him. If you think his family is not nice why would you want to be invited? If he doesn't want to introduce you to them this is not good, what is he hiding? I think you should not invite him, give him ... (read in full...)
Why all the attention from the attached women?
Q. I work in a fairly large organisation and am a single guy, in my mid 40's, probably one of the few. Being in a company of this size there are many attractive women also working there. My 'problem' (if you could call it that) is that I always s...
A. 6 May 2011: Attached people in general (not just women!) are less insicure because they already have a partner waiting for them at home, they don't have much to lose. They have security. Don't let yourself be fooled, find someone who is single and available, ... (read in full...)
Are there others who find themselves getting attached so quickly and if so, how do you handle it?
Q. First off let me say that I'm in my early 20's and have had so many heartbreaks, I have lost count! I have adult ADHD which I think is what makes me so impulsive in relationships and makes me become attached to a guy way too fast and end up falling ...
A. 6 May 2011: You are still very young and that accounts for most of your problem, but you must learn how to handle your emotional reactions so they don't get the best of you and cause you heartache. The fact that you acknowledge your problem is a good sign, the ... (read in full...)
Does her family history of Diabetes mean she or our future children will develop Diabetes?
Q. My future mother-in-law commented on how there is a lot of diabetic-related history on her side of the family. My fiancée eats a lot of junk food, but is really thin and exercises a lot... is there a disposition for her (or our future children)...
A. 6 May 2011: Type I or type II diabetes? I am assuming type II where there is a family predisposition to the desease but no single gene hereditary pattern. SIngle gene hereditary patterns are more likely to determine deseases whereas familiary predisposition is ... (read in full...)
I am obese and therefore have very low self esteem and self confidence...what should I do?
Q. Hello I am a 25 year old guy. I am about 5'8" tall and weight around 220lbs. By medical standards that is obese! Probably the first thing that you will tell me is "lose weight!" well, I should and I am trying right now. However, I feel very u...
A. 5 May 2011: Go to the gym like someone has suggested that is better, most women, me included don't like skinny men. Besides only stupid people are rude to overweight people, smart people should see your inside beauty. I am sure in this society you also need ... (read in full...)
I need a solution. I'm having an affair with my sister-in-law and don't know how to stop.
Q. So here it goes. I am a married man and have a beautiful loving and caring wife and six months old son too. She loves me a lot and usually we talk over phone for hours in the night before going to bed (Since from last three months I am out of town). ...
A. 5 May 2011: Wow!!! My ex slept with my sis: 1) Why did you do that, down deep inside? Revenge towards your wife? 2) Be careful: you are going to be found out either by your wife or the sister in law is going to spill the beans out of guilt. These things alwa... (read in full...)
Do you regret having sex before getting married?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now and he's 19 and I'm 17 and we've been talking about having sex for a couple of months now and my question is do any of you regret having sex before marriage or just having it at all when you ...
A. 4 May 2011: It's not about marriage, you should ask yourself if you are ready for sex or not. It's your decision, forget society standards and religious ideas. If you are absolutely sure you are ready and love this guy do it, if you are not sure it means you ... (read in full...)
I feel horribly jealous of the attention my husband is giving my newly widowed GF. Please advise.
Q. My boyfriend of 16 yrs and I are very close to destroying us. It's both of us, not just one. he says it is all my fault and that im crazy. we have been close friends with a couple for about 10 yrs now. she and i are/were very close. the guys were ...
A. 3 May 2011: Dear OP, nine women out of ten would react the way you do. You are not being unreasonable here, on the contrary, you are just trying to protect your relationship. Your husband is very wrong, he is not respecting your feelings, he is being secretive, ... (read in full...)
Gave him heads and he refused giving me oral with him tongue.
Q. Last night i was making out with my boyfriend and i ended up giving him a blow job, after that i asked him to give me oral sex with his tongue and he bluntly refused, i begged him and he still refused. I was hurt so much that he couldn't do that to ...
A. 3 May 2011: Thy to compromise with him, ask him how you can make it easier and more confortable for him. Ask him what his fears are about it, if you can openly discuss it it is a good sign. If he keeps refusing and won't try to compromise, you are right you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend will no longer give oral sex, says she hates it. Why did she do it to every guy in the past then?
Q. My girlfriend and me are together for a year now.. and have a decent intimate life.. we stay in different cities so meet just maybe once or twice a month.. Since the past 5months she hasnt given me any oral sex.. and i didnt pressurize her.....
A. 3 May 2011: You cannot force her to do stuff she says she doesn't like but you can ask her gently if there is anything which would make the experience better for her and try to work out a compromise, some girls change their minds. Not two people have the same ... (read in full...)
It is domestic abuse. So why would some try to blame the victim? What's their mindset and the payoff for doing it?
Q. i work with T who has recently been subjected to domestic abuse, and is still having this happen to her, at home. But something happened this week, people talking behind the back of T. And it has shaken my trust in some of my co-workers. Am i m...
A. 3 May 2011: I partially disagree with what has been said. I firmly believe T shouldn't have brought her problems in her job setting, attracting both sympathy and hatred. By doing so she attracted more comtempt than anything else, which is counterproductive on ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or maybe thinking of cheating?
Q. Hi Guys, Just wondering what the signs of cheating or possibly cheating with someone might be. My boyfriend and I live together and are very happy, however I recieved a text one night when he was drunk at a BBQ to pick him up so I set off for ...
A. 3 May 2011: The porn should be no problem since most people watch porn and unless it interfeers with your sexual life it shouldn't bother you. The fact that he goes on dating sites might be susicious, but not necessarely, because he might have done it out of ... (read in full...)
Am I being too jealous?
Q. Why do i get jealous so easily?. I must admit, i am an insecure person. Recently, this woman came up to my boyfriend, and, without saying anything to him, she gave him a hug and he hugged her back, but then she went away from him. I don't know how ...
A. 3 May 2011: I have always had a problem with allowing my boyfriends to hug or otherwise touch other women. It felt unconfortable to me, because according to my standards, physical contact should only happen in close relationships. The degree of physical contact ... (read in full...)
Why am I only good enough to be the "other woman"?
Q. Why am i only ever good enough to be 'The other woman'? A and B are two guys i have met at different stages of my life who have both turned me into the same person - when i am around them the strong confident woman i generally am disappears, and ...
A. 3 May 2011: I am guessing your low self esteem comes from your past abuse, that is all too common, studied and documented. Abuse, especially sexual,is very detrimental and it leaves invisible scars in your souls that take a lot of time to heal and can lead you ... (read in full...)
Addicted to my ex even though he treats me badly
Q. I feel addicted to my ex even though he treated me badly. I finished the relationship but he keeps contacting me even though I asked him to stop each time. I don't contact him but we spoke for an hour the other day after 2 months. I kno...
A. 2 May 2011: You have done nothing wrong. He is the one at fault here and he has used you. There is nothing wrong with you, you just were unlucky to meet this person. Perhaps you have low self esteem?(don't read this as an accusation!) Don't beat yourself up, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has lied and cheated throughout my pregnancy
Q. I'm 33 weeks pregnant my boyfriend has lied to me cheated on me threw my pregnancy everytime I catch him his excuse is "I'm scared your gunna cheat on me or I thought you were cheating on me" I have not not gave him any reason 2 believe I am. I have ...
A. 1 May 2011: I am deeply sorry, I feel for you, you are going through a very tough situation and my advice might sound harsh but I need to tell you that you need to leave your boyfriend asap. He has made you desperate, made you pregnant, has isolated you and ... (read in full...)
Addicted to my ex even though he treats me badly
Q. I feel addicted to my ex even though he treated me badly. I finished the relationship but he keeps contacting me even though I asked him to stop each time. I don't contact him but we spoke for an hour the other day after 2 months. I kno...
A. 1 May 2011: Change your phone number, disappear,pretend you live in another country, dont pick up the phone, avoid him,he will eventually fade. He realizes you cannot resist him that's why he disrespects your boundaries, and by the way that's what he does: he ... (read in full...)
Why is she cheating just 6 months into our marriage?
Q. me and my gf have been dating for 2 years, married for 6 months. the other day she left her computer for work left on. i went to switch it off but in the screen was one of these "meet up for sex" websites. i read her messages and she'd been talking ...
A. 1 May 2011: I think you should confront her about what you read, be blunt. Maybe she didn't cheat of you just jet , maybe she's going to, maybe she was just playing around on her pc, you should ask her what is going on, and demand an explanation. Be open and ... (read in full...)
If a guy wants to sex with you does that mean you turn them on?
Q. When a guy says they want to have sex with you does that mean you turn them on? My boyfriend said he wanted to but he won't because we are too young and we are. I rather not be a prego teenager. That would ruin my whole life plans. Anyways this is ...
A. 1 May 2011: Of course you turn him on!!! And of course he wants to have sex with you, no young boy in this world would say no to sex, but it doesn't mean you should, dont rush into things! You are very young, have all the time in the world and guys are ... (read in full...)
What does he mean he can't give me what I want?
Q. What does a man mean when he says he can't give you what you want?...
A. 1 May 2011: It all depends on the contexof the coversation that took place, what were you talking about? It seems to me like a very polite way to say he does not want to be with you long term. I am sorry this is what my experience tells me. When men say that ... (read in full...)
We've never met but he said he loves me. Is this strange?
Q. On the 7th November 2010, i started to talk to this guy online, he is 19 from California and im 16 from London, it wasnt on a dating site. So, we started talking on msn, it became every day that we would talk for at least 3 hours i asked if he had ...
A. 1 May 2011: No, this is not so strange, it is happening more and more nowadays. Yes, people can fall in love on the internet expeciallly if they see each other and talk live to each other, I have seen it happen more than once. Over the net people have more ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if someone actually cares about you??
Q. How do you know if someone actually cares about you?...
A. 1 May 2011: I think you are talking about a possible boyfriend, friend or maybe a friend? Anyway, if somebody really cares about: 1)They respect you and your bondaries, don't pressure you into things and respect your choices your tastes and your personality... (read in full...)
Should I tell my BF it's over? I said No. But He's still pressuring me. he wants to lose his virginity with me.
Q. I am a 14 year old virgin, but my BF , which is 15, wants to lose his virginity with me. We have been dating for not so long(1 month or so) and I'm scared that if I continue dating him, then I'll lose my virginity. At first it was a straight up ...
A. 24 April 2011: Leave him. You shouldnt be pressured into sex. If you feel horny masturbate so you get to know your body too. Having sex with him now could hurt your feelings if you dont feel ready don't do it! besides a month is a short period of time.... (read in full...)
How do you know when your bf is cheating?
Q. How do you know when your bf is cheating on you? Everyone says you can tell. Im just not sure, or if I am just being too suspicious. My bf keeps telling a few white lies about where he is at but I have found out where he is at and who with and I kn...
A. 24 April 2011: He might be cheating, telling lies is one sign, adding girls to fb is another. I suggest you invent a fb profile and try and see if he flirts with you. That might be painful. Good luck... (read in full...)
Questions about 1st time sex
Q. I'm 15 years old, I've been with my boyfriend for 9months. He's 16. We don't have an overly sexual relationship. We're both not ready for sex. Far to many things to worry about at the moment. But my question is, well not a question as such...
A. 24 April 2011: You answered your own question, by saying you are not ready for sex, and you are right because you know yourself better than anyone else in the world and you are the only person who can decide. When you have sex be sure to have birth control and ... (read in full...)
Can someone who was abused never be able to love again.... I miss her
Q. Recently i went through a bad break up. i was separated for over a year and a half when i met this woman and she knew what my status was. i wasn't looking to date but we kept meeting each other professionally and then it just clicked from there. ...
A. 24 April 2011: I am sorry to hear this, but I have to say she probably didn't love you and it would be best for you if you just let her go. As much as it hurts you need to understand it wasn't meant and it is not your fault, there's nothing you can do. ou should ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on me; he says it's "horrible"...
Q. Help! my boyfriend will not go down on me, he says the taste is too horrible, and that it's not just me but other past girlfriends, also. Any suggestions?...
A. 9 April 2011: I am sorry to hear this. Wanting to be the devil's advocate, I would suggest you check with your doctor to rule out any infections, and make sure you are squeaky clean. You can self check to see if you have any abnormal smell down there. Having said ... (read in full...)
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