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writes:Hi Guys,Just wondering what the signs of cheating or possibly cheating with someone might be.My boyfriend and I live together and are very happy, however I recieved a text one night when he was drunk at a BBQ to pick him up so I set off for him and the received another text that read 'going home now so do not text me x' which I thought really odd, my heart sank and I didn't know what to do. Eventually I got over it but now the suspicion is set in my mind, so much so that I checked his internet history (which I know is an invasion of privacy and shouldn't have done it' but found that whilst I was at my parents as well as loads of porn sites visited that he had been on a few peoples dating profiles and sites.This may just maybe my imagination running wild but I am concerned and don't want to lose him as the best thing to ever happen to me. Any help would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): Not sure if I've misunderstood something, but he didn't just tell you not to text him, he told you not to text him kisses. Is that correct?
Whether one is for or against porn, the 'actors' and 'models' are unattainable fantasies. The women behind the dating profiles are far more easily accessible and therefore a greater threat.
I can't imagine a reasonable explanation for this so don't waste time asking for one. And I don't see how you can get past this. I'd end it. No fuss, no drama. Just tell him what you found, that you think he's keeping his options open and that you're not prepared to make a big investment under those circumstances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): hi sweet. . I am sorry to say this and I so hope i am wrong. . Texting saying 'do not text me' . . Think about it? Why wouldd you ask some one not to contact you at home? . . If you ask him he'l probably deny it. . I.ve had things like this, when the obvious facts have been staring me in the face I chose to not believe it. . You deserve better honey . . I hope as i said that i'm wrong but take care x
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 well, young lady he probably isn't cheating yet. but in all honesty men tend to think about cheating a lot more than women do, That should come as no surprise since men are much more interested in sex than women(generally speaking). I'd do two things to ensure a "solid" monogomous relationship if I were a women. I'd find out what types of fantasies he has and fulfill them as much as possible. And two,I'd ask him to talk about his feelings whenit comes to other women cheasting on their mates. If he thinks it's "no big deal" then I'd worry a little but if he's like you and thinks monogomy is sactred then quit your worrys.
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reader, littleBB  +, writes (3 May 2011):
The porn should be no problem since most people watch porn and unless it interfeers with your sexual life it shouldn't bother you. The fact that he goes on dating sites might be susicious, but not necessarely, because he might have done it out of curiousity. The text seems very suspicious, but might be a misunderstanding. Does he seem secretive? Does he stay out late without an explanation? what does your gut instinct tell you? You should confront him about the text and the suspicion you have, expecially the text.
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reader, Honey Sweet +, writes (3 May 2011):
 I know how you feel. I really do. Ive gone through so much pain about the same thing from the last few years. Guys our age are like babies... they dont know what they want 24/7. especially when theyre drunkj.... x It makes them a differnt person. They dont know when they go to far with other girls when theyre are taken...
When you recieved that twxt, that doesnt sound too good sweetheart... xxx have you tried and talk to him. and say why did he send that TO YOU... sum it up. Try to. I know its sickening. But you deserve so much better.... x
Give me an email xxx hope everything goes okayxx the whell allways spins back as I alllways say xoxo
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