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writes:I am a 14 year old virgin, but my BF , which is 15, wants to lose his virginity with me. We have been dating for not so long(1 month or so) and I'm scared that if I continue dating him, then I'll lose my virginity. At first it was a straight up "NO", but now I'm starting to feel horny. I want to try it, but I still want to be known as a Virgin..I'm honestly scared because it will be my first time. I love this guy though...And it'll be tough to let him go. what should I do?..Plzz..Help me..decide if it would be best to stay or to leave and to lose my virginity or not. Thank You
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reader, Foo' +, writes (4 May 2011):
Foo' is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!..Alot!!..I really thought it through and I WON"T have sex..Yet I won't leave this guy either..I'll Just wait to see what will come..And again, THANKS!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): Please don't do it.
I had a boyfriend when I was 14 too. He wanted to have sex really bad. and I almost gave in also, but in the end I said no because of this website and people telling me it was a mistake. (we'd been going out for 2 months)
In the end I broke up with him because he almost raped me.
I AM SO HAPPY TO HAVE NOT HAD SEX WITH HIM.
He is the worst loser in the whole world and saying no to him was the best thing I had ever done.
Now, I've been dating this amazing guy for over a year, and I am pleased to say that I lost my virginity to him after seven months.
My advice to you is slow down, if he tries forcing you into it, kick his ass for me.
a better guy will come around, I promise.
Love ya!
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reader, Rose22  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 okay if you really like the guy dont go jumping into leaving him, that wont achieve anything but heart ache.
hes 15 your 14 the situation is oh so familiar... at 14 my bf was 15 he had experience in sexual activites but had never had sex. He wanted to have sex with me but i wanted to wait untill atleast 16. he respected what i wanted and thats what you really need this bf to do. he needs to back off and let it happen when you are ready for it to happen. okay i also no how you feel when you say that sexually you want it but you want to be able to say "im a virgin" this is a label and you need to make the decision of which is more important to you.
in my situation i ended up waiting till 15, now this is not because i was pressured it was because i made the decision that i was ready for the act to happen. i had weighed up the pros and cons and decided what was more important. This is what you need to do.
if this boy does not respect your decision then he is a loser and should be left. both of you need to be in the at together. thats all there is to it.
if you do decide to do it...and in my opinion waiting a little longer would not hurt you or him..then make sure you use protection!
im not here to tell you what not to do and what to do i want to tell that if you do decide to do it then it needs to be safe and you need to feel secure that this realtionship will last. As there is nothing worst than finding out later that the guy was just in it for the sex and you had givin away the one thing that you cannot get back.
also one more thing youve only been together a month! i think you need to wait for your realtionship to develop more in order to make the right decision. i had been with my bf for 3 years b4 we finally decided to have sex.
so good luck! i know youll make the right choice....
all the best
redrose
xxx
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 April 2011):
 If you said no, and he still keeps asking, get rid of him. Tell him to either be willing to wait, or you'll find someone else who is willing to. Be confident enough to let him know that the world offers you options...
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reader, cuteandchic93  +, writes (24 April 2011):
If you think you have to wait, just wait. If he really loves you, then he's gonna understand it and he's gonna wait too!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (24 April 2011):
 It is most certainly NOT for the best. Now is not the time to lose your virginity nor is it good for your to surrender to his pressuring. You have only been dating him for a month! Are you so certain that this is the person you want to lose your virginity to? Just because he asked? Just because you 'feel horny'?
I hope that helps.
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reader, littleBB  +, writes (24 April 2011):
Leave him. You shouldnt be pressured into sex. If you feel horny masturbate so you get to know your body too. Having sex with him now could hurt your feelings if you dont feel ready don't do it! besides a month is a short period of time.
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