A
female
age
30-35,
*arksilver
writes:Last night i was making out with my boyfriend and i ended up giving him a blow job, after that i asked him to give me oral sex with his tongue and he bluntly refused, i begged him and he still refused. I was hurt so much that he couldn't do that to me but i did it for him and right now my heart is full of hatred for him and am thinking of breaking up wt him. Pls i need a piece of advice from you guys if i should break up with him or what to do in this situation. . Thanks
View related questions:
blow-job, oral sex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): My man doesnt like doing it either he has done once but thats it
I dont like giving head either but I do sometimes
Just ask him why he doesnt like it
If its coz he doesnt like the taste etc (some men dont like it)
You can buy flavoured lube
Shop around you can buy things that helps lol
Good luck
A
male
reader, dirtball  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 Did he ask for the blowjob?
...............................
A
female
reader, littleBB  +, writes (3 May 2011):
Thy to compromise with him, ask him how you can make it easier and more confortable for him. Ask him what his fears are about it, if you can openly discuss it it is a good sign. If he keeps refusing and won't try to compromise, you are right you should break up with him. Never settle with someone you are sexually incompatible with. In my experience guys who are selfish in the bed are selfish out of the bed as well.
...............................
A
male
reader, Drew21  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 Yeah, i would definitely ask what it is about oral sex that caused him to refuse.
As a guy, i have to say that it IS a very intimidating endeavour. Everything related to oral sex is so much more complicated with the ladies. I was lucky to find a partner at one point who was patient with me and taught me the ropes.
Offer to do the same.
...............................
A
female
reader, cupidus +, writes (3 May 2011):
 Many guys are terrified of this. It's a huge mystery for them. You'll have to ask him why he doesn't and how you can elevate any fears for him, from cleanliness to how to go about it. Don't be angry right of the bat, go slow with this, he's probably going to like it or hate it.
But if you let him ask anything without getting upset and answering honestly it will help him relax.
...............................
|
