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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): Yeah, actually. He's really sweet,caring, and wonderful and I don't think I'd regret losing it to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2011): Saying "I am sure I'm in love with him" is the wrong way to justify the choice to sleep with your BF.
You might very well find yourself not in love with him later on. Would you still be happy that you've slept with him then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): Thank you guys for answering I'm about 110% sure that I am completly and madly in love with this guy. He is not only my boyfriend but he is my best friend.
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reader, littleBB  +, writes (4 May 2011):
It's not about marriage, you should ask yourself if you are ready for sex or not. It's your decision, forget society standards and religious ideas. If you are absolutely sure you are ready and love this guy do it, if you are not sure it means you are not ready. The topic about waiting for marriage is totally different, most people like to find out before they get married if they are compatible.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 hi
i personally would not marry anyone before having sex with them! to me it would be like buying a car without test driving it first. that's just me though.
you have been together for 2 years already, is this a proper relationship or is it an online LDR? (sorry to ask but i think it is relevant!)
do you trust him? do you want to have sex with him? do you want to marry each other? do you have any doubts that he may not be the right man for you? does he have any doubts that you may not be the right woman for him? do you feel under pressure about this and worry that if you don't agree to sex he may decide he has waited too long already and will leave?
you will probably regret sex if he turns out to be 'mr wrong' but as long as you are quite sure at the moment that he is mr right then that is the best you can do, coz in life there are no guarantees!
xx
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 nope.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): I actually regret the opposite (not having sex with more women before getting married)I had been raised to believe that sex was something special you don't just do with anyone. But, virtually every woman I meet has had sex with a lot of different men. My fiance has been very sexually active with a lot of men for quite a few years, and she tells me she loved sex with all the men she was with. I'd prefer if she viewed sex as being something special, but after being with that many men it just isn't. If you have a steak dinner every single day for 10 years, you can't really say steak dinners are anything special.I wish I had forgotten my notions of sex having meaning many years ago and screwed 100s of women. In today's world, you're just setting yourself up for disappointment if you think sex with your spouse will be anything special. Just go for it, your future spouse isn't waiting for you either.
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reader, sunshine88 +, writes (4 May 2011):
Yes I regret it b/c the guy dumped me after months and months of great times and him telling me he loves me and he wants to be with me forever. once we did it about a week later it was over and also he dumped me on my birthday. Guess who the next guy i met was? My husband who i have been with for 7 years now. I wish i would have saved myself for sure! b/c then it could have been with my husband. I think just save yourself until you feel ready and comfortable if he is a good guy he'll wait he wont be pressuring you into it. Wait for even more time than you think is right just in case the guy has other plans such as mine did. All he wanted from me was my virginity and he was on to the next.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): Ask most men if they regret their wife having sex with other guys before they got together.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 May 2011):
 Not at all. I lost my virginity when I was 19 and didn't marry til 28..
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reader, N91 +, writes (4 May 2011):
 Not at all, it was with a friend who means a lot to me and it made it that much better :)
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reader, TamyKarcz  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 Not at all!
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reader, Gherkinsaregrim  +, writes (4 May 2011):
No. Intact I am very sure I would regret waiting until marriage.
I don't understand why people are so afraid of sex when it's SO natural!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): Personally I felt ready and so did guy I was in love with. I have no regrets, even though we are no longer together, I would never regret it with him, because he was so loving and kind and everything was perfect. I could trust him 100% and still do as friends. So no I don't regret not waiting til marriage.
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