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writes:I'm really into this girl. Theres a concert coming up. I'm planning to buy the ticket then invite her to go. But i'm not sure if i should do it or will she go with me.The reason... I just broke up with my ex about 4 months ago.My ex is one of her good/best friend. They are having classes together. Usually hang around together.She knew probably my break up is because of her.Should i go and just ask her out to this concert or should i wait for next year? Or never?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionany more other opinions or point of views?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe ugly truth...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): If a new guy pops up and gets to her before you do, it is what it is. Given the nature of your relationship with this girl, your chances of success are slim at this point anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionProbably i'll just wait for another year. which is what exactly i'm going to do...
Next year is our final year. My ex will be going to over seas campus.
This girl will stay and so am i..
I'm just afraid that between now and then there might be a new guy pop out... if u know what i meant..
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 I think you are putting too much emphasis on the concert. This girl either will or will not go out with you--the concert is just one option of many date choices you could make.
Putting myself in this girl's shoes, I would guess that it's a pretty awkward place to be in. Her friend knows you dumped her for this girl and that can't feel good. If they are close, if they hang out and share classes, I think you are probably not going to succeed her. Girlfriends tend to stick together.
A lot depends on the breakup, on the relationship you had too. If you were close with your ex for a long time, if it was a nasty breakup, if there are hurt feelings, the new girl isn't going to want to wade into that mess. If you were more friends with your ex, if it was mutual, if she bears you no ill will and is still friendly to you, you might have a chance.
But my best advice is for you to let it go for now, wait some time until all wounds have at least had a chance to heal and THEN you could broach the topic of a date.
Or you could be brave, ask her out to something--doesn't have to be this concert--and see what she says. Be prepared for "no."
It all depends on the baggage surrounding the breakup. Girls will tend to be loyal to each other, unless you know the new girl is willing to lose a friend over you, you probably don't have much hope. Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the reply. Hope to get more answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): If they are TRULY best friends, I wouldn't count on her accepting your invitation. Most women understand that there are boundaries in our friendships, but some women do choose to break the girl code.
Ask her before you buy the ticket.
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reader, kittykhaos  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Are you and your ex still friends? Talk to your ex about it so then there can be no blame or accusations. If your ex has a problem then leave off for a bit but you should never deny yourself something because it will upset someone unless it will be detromental to there friendship or you don't like her that much. I go out with my ex's best friend, they still talk not as much as they did and not about me but there was no way i would give up a chance to be with my b/f just because my ex wasn't happy about it. Think about if you really like her and if you do take the risk.
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