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writes:Right guys and girls i need your help!My best friend is a guy, we've been really close for the last 2 years, but known each other since college. But it has been the last 2 years we've become closer.Its only been the last few months though, that i've realised just how much i fancy the pants of him. Not just sexually attracted to him, i LOVE everything about him, and i mean everything. It is as if he is the male version of me, we get on like a house on fire! We have so much in common its unreal, but then thats why we are best friends. We can talk about anything, tell each other anything. I can really be myself completely with him.I think i've always had a little crush on him, but over the last few months, it seems as tho it is no longer just a crush that i can push aside, it has become more than that, its even possible that i may be falling for him. I don't know what to do. I want him to know how i feel, but i don't think i could tell him because i don't want to risk losing him as a friend. I know there are loads of people who have been in the same situation and i've always said oh just go for it, but now i really do understand how they feel.So anyone who has been through the same, with a good or bad outcome, would be fantastic, please! But also anyone with any other advice, whether you've been through the same or not, will be much appreciated! :)Thanks! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): Im totally in the same position but I'm a guy, so it's debatable if its easier for me or not. I would just tell him how you feel, that you'd want to try being more than friends. Try a 'seeing each other' scenario and see how that works, cause that could win him round, and not make it seem like a big jump if you get me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone! :)
Good to know it can work out.
BUT i have a question for you... How did you go about telling them? Or was it them or made that first move?!?
I want to tell him, but i don't know how. I've got a holiday in a couple of weeks so i was thinking of telling him when i get back. Gives me time to think about how to do it, but any advice would be great!
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Im with my best friend of 7 years. it took 3 years of hard work heartbreak and emotional stress but we have been together for 5 months and i love him more than life its self and i have done for the past 4 years. I was in your situation with a few added stress on the side (i had just come out of a 5 year violent relationship) i couldn't tell him how i felt for fear of losing my friendship with him. eventually he told me, then ensued the 3 years of denial, arguments, sex and heartbreak until he finally manned up (slept with some other girls) and decided he had made the right call the first time. What im trying to say is this, he may feel the same as you, he may get scared this is the worst that can happen and it can still work out in the end. And Katy i agree the first kiss is odd i think i slapped him out of shock and asked what he was doing lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): I had known my now boyfriend all through out school but we didnt really become close friends until college. After around 6 months of being close friends we decided to make a go of things and were still just as happy 2 years on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): Me and my current bf were friends for about a year, there had always been something between us and when we got together it was amazing cos we've got it all, friendship and love (in both ways) the first kiss was a bit wierd but that was it! I really love him, unfortunately I'm of to uni soon and I'm pretty sureit's going to end :(
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