I am too scared to leave him for fear of what he might do!
Q. I have so many troubles about my current boyfriend.For 2 years,I was taking good care of him.He didn't have work and no proper place to live.I was paying his rent and buying his groceries,giving him money for his fare everyday to look for job.I end ...
A. 5 October 2009: Yes, things might get worse for a while if you dump him. But things will definately get worse if you don't. It's called Protection Order. You file it with your courthouse. When he harrasses you, or shows up at your work, you call the cops. The ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pressuring me to go farther than I want
Q. my boyfriend wants more then just kissing..he gave me a hickey i didnt want it.... he is making me feel uncomfortable by touching me!!! and i told him to stop and he yells and says its like we are just friends nothing more... and he has slaped me ...
A. 5 October 2009: Leave him now. The abuse will only get worse. If you have sex with him you will regret it down the road, if not immediately. He is abusive and he is pressuring you to do something you don't want to do, meaning, he does not care about how you ... (read in full...)
Should I try to help my friend that's addicted to drugs?
Q. My friend is doing very dangerous things to himself. Most of myself knows that I can not actually get him to stop the destructiveness that he's fallen back into. But he asked me for help, but does he really mean it? It did sound desperate, and he ...
A. 5 October 2009: I have been there done that. If he was serious, he would be doing it now, not waiting for you to hold his hand. Addicts seldom see how bad it is till they hit rock bottom and all of them are sorry and not happy they did the drugs but that won't ... (read in full...)
What can I tell him during love making to turn him on?
Q. i need advice on what to say to my lover while we are making love something to turn him on even more...
A. 26 September 2009: Well that depends. Sometimes the most conservative person really likes raunchy talk in bed. Sometimes it would turn someone off. I have lived with men and never known their freak side, but was told about it later by someone else. My suggestion ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm gay or bi or what?
Q. i know i have feelings for girls but the thing is dunno if im bi or gay. i think guys are nice looking but not attractive really. i've never been totally comfortable wit kissing guys either. so.. am i totally gay? i dont wanna b a freak...
A. 28 August 2009: Alot of people go through these emotions at your age. It doesn't put you in a catagory. You are finding out what interests you. Go with the flow, experiment, and whatever you're going to be, you will. Men and women experience the same thing, ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how long I have to wait - after I take the pill - to have sex?
Q. Last night, I had sex with my boyfriend and I'm on the pill. I've been taking it for a while now, about three months, but I'm not sure how long i have to wait after I take it to have sex. I waited an hour, was that enough, or am I screwed? HELP...
A. 28 August 2009: If you've been taking it regularly for 3 months, you're as safe as you can be.... (read in full...)
Why masturbate in front of them?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him, but i'm not really sure what to do. I don't really masterbate often because honestly i'm not that good a it. He is just so much better at pleasing me than I am at pleasing myself. Also I have ...
A. 1 July 2009: Men like to watch, it's part of their nature. If you don't enjoy masterbating, you're not doing it right. Get a vibrator and trust me, it will be your new favorite hobby. You don't have to get one that is inserted if you're not comfortable with ... (read in full...)
Left with the tattoo, but not him!
Q. My boyfriend and I dated for like about three years, about five months ago, we got matching tattoos. I got his initals and he got mine. We both got it on the back of our neck. Now we are broken up and I am trying to get over it but everytime I ...
A. 1 July 2009: Your next boyfriend is not going to want to see your ex's initals everytime you do it doggy style. He was a part of your life, and you have your memories, you don't need his "brand" on you too. If you like tattoos, get a nice butterfly or Chinese ... (read in full...)
My husband is violent with me but then HE cries and says sorry!
Q. Hey So a couple of months ago my fiance and I (we live together and have a year old baby girl) had a really bad fight and he grabbed me around the throat, quite tightly. Afterwards he started crying and said that we had to break up because he's ...
A. 1 July 2009: Well first, I'll say LEAVE or kick him out. It will only get worse, and he's proved it. If you insist on being insane and stay with him, he may have a chemical imbalance and should see a doctor about his aggression problems. Also there are ... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't want me to go down on her any more
Q. I really loved cunnilingus, in fact I enjoyed it more than receiving oral sex, and for many years it was an important part of our lovemaking, but my wife went off it a long time ago. She thinks she's "dirty" down there. I haven't even seen her ...
A. 1 July 2009: Well, a vagina is like a nose in an armpit. It has secretions, but unlike the nose, you can't sniff. So it is moist always. And like an armpit, it sweats. It's all squashed up in there all day, sweating and moist. It's not a pretty thing after ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but don't want to appear clueless in bed. What moves can I try?
Q. I am a virgin, but I really want to do it with my boyfriend of 3 months, and I don't wanna seem clueless. What moves could I try for my first time?...
A. 1 July 2009: Girl, just the fact that you're a virgin is the biggest turn on for that man. I could give you ideas, but the first time has too much going on for you to try to also look like you know what you're doing. You're going to be nervous, it's going to ... (read in full...)
I think my husband is cheating or is going to. Or am I paranoid?
Q. First, I want to say thank you for everyone who takes the time to read this and respond. My Husband of 3 years, I believe has/or has the intention of cheating. We have a 3 month old and a 2 year old. Lately, he has been hanging around a new friend ...
A. 1 July 2009: Regardless of if he's cheating, if his mind and heart are not at home, then forget him. If he doesn't want to be with you, only you, and if he doesn't make you feel special and important to him, than why would you want him? The person you plan on ... (read in full...)
He guards his phone with his life! I'm suspicious and tempted to look through it. What should I do?
Q. I've been married to my husband for 4 years now. I trust him but his behavior with his cell phone gets me thinking. He guards his phone with his life. Wherever he goes, he takes his phone with him. Should I be concerned? I feel tempted to look ...
A. 1 July 2009: You didn't say if this "guarding" of his phone was a recent activity, or if he's been doing it all along. If it's a new behavior, YES, you may have something to worry about. It sounds like he's afraid it will ring and it will be where you can look ... (read in full...)
Husband drunk and made out in the hot tub with mother of my daughter's friend!
Q. OK, I have been married for over 10 yrs now and we have been very happy. We have 2 kids - the oldest is 12. Kast weekend we had a party and my husband drank a lot of beer that night. My daughter had been at a friends house, and the mother "...
A. 26 May 2009: When I read this, I felt you Girl! My mate also does the finger licking, with the "look" (which I'm sure you know what that means) and if I had been in your position, it would have taken all my strength to not remove his finger licking head from ... (read in full...)
Would our ages leave us in an awkward situation?
Q. Sooo... Im kind of stuck. Im a teen, who is pretty um... well, my heart wants some pretty impossible things... Theres a guy. Hes 31. I know for sure that this is love. Obsessive love. I built a shrine for him and burned a flower as an offering. ...
A. 26 May 2009: Girl, this is a disaster. When I was 15, I was in love with a 27 year old. The same crap, thought he walked on water. 16 year age difference isn't bad when your 30, but at your age, you are on two different planets. You are in the time of your ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to have a great male, anal sex experience, which color lingerie is sexier?
Q. I am a male and take on the role of the woman in my relationships with other men. I am a crossdresser and dress like a woman and love wearing lingerie. I give blowjobs and want to recieve anal. I have not yet but my bf wants to do me anally . Any ...
A. 26 May 2009: And by he way, color of lingerie? RED!!!!... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to have a great male, anal sex experience, which color lingerie is sexier?
Q. I am a male and take on the role of the woman in my relationships with other men. I am a crossdresser and dress like a woman and love wearing lingerie. I give blowjobs and want to recieve anal. I have not yet but my bf wants to do me anally . Any ...
A. 26 May 2009: Well "Girlfriend", as a woman that enjoys anal on occasion, I can give you tips from my experience. After all, an ass is an ass whether it's male or female. I learned all my best anal sex tips from my ex-boyfriend who had to have some type of anal ... (read in full...)
Do you like it when a guy kisses you all over?
Q. Girls and ladies only! Do you like it when a guy kisses you all over? And where? ie. cheeks, lips, neck, ear, part of chest. I do it all over, so is this creepy or just passionate coz i alter the pace from very soft to all over :P please tell me...
A. 26 May 2009: Every woman is different. We all have that one spot that when you kiss it, makes up crazy. Here's some tip and techniques that may help. Places: back of the neck, stomach, just slightly to the side, down the spine, and the ankle. Don't just ... (read in full...)
I need closure from him!
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I really need some advice. My partner left me about 3 months ago, just suddenly ignored me then got nasty when I asked him why. I am still really upset because we were so close for the 6 yrs we were together, albeit...
A. 26 May 2009: As much as it hurts, this is one of those things you're going to have to go on and live your life, even if you don't get the answers you want. Some people don't give reasons, some don't even know themselves, but to wait for info you may never get ... (read in full...)
Want a meaningful relationship, how do I get noticed by guys?
Q. well this has been troubling me for a while and I was hoping someone could give me a little insight as to what I should do. I'm 20 years old and I have the hardest time getting noticed by guys it's as if I'm invisible to the opposite sex. They ...
A. 26 May 2009: Sweetie, it's 60% about the confidence you portray. I have a friend who is cute, but overweight, but still knows she is "sexy as hell" and because she believes it, so does everyone else. Now I'm not saying you don't want to take care of yourself ... (read in full...)
She said she wants to take a break but to continue hanging out together!! This is all so confusing!
Q. hey everybody well today i was talking to my girlfriend and out of nowhere she tells me that she would rather take some time off from being with me because she wants to make sure that im the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with. I told ...
A. 21 May 2009: Well, as much as I believe in honesty, we all know that relationships are a little bit of a game in some ways. Do your own thing, let her think you're enjoying your space too. I can tell you that my ex's never looked as good to me as after I broke ... (read in full...)
Are my chances of dating him doomed?
Q. Hello. The other night I slept with this guy who I have known for roughly 5 years, but we very seldom saw each other. We finally hung out the other night and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. I am not like that at all, and have ...
A. 21 May 2009: Did you ruin your chance? Maybe. From my experience, I never had it work out with a friend, or even someone that I didn't know very well, having sex too soon. I'm not saying it couldn't work, but you jumped a bunch of steps if you were looking ... (read in full...)
She's older, should I go for it?
Q. should i make a move? There a girl across the road from me a few years older, anyway she's proper fit and i well fancy her, she's really nice and whenever she seems me she's smiling and says hi.. should i tell her i like her and see what she thi...
A. 21 May 2009: Of course you should give it a try. Ask her to go do something fun with you. In case she's worried about the age thing, don't make it sound too much like a date, but more like two people going to do something fun together.
That way she can get ... (read in full...)
Can sex with a younger man be a good experience?
Q. I have been friends and seeing a younger man. We have a good time. I am considering the possibility of sex with him. Can sex with a man that is 10 to 15 years younger be a good idea? Can sex with a younger man be a good experience? What...
A. 19 April 2009: I'm 38, and occassionally, I have relations with a 23 year old. First of all, you hold all the cards, which is fun. He will work his ass off to please you. He may fail. But he's young, so in 10 minutes, he's ready to try again. He's looking to ... (read in full...)
How about sex positions on the stairs/banister?
Q. Are the stairs a good location for sex? Did you do it on the steps or the banister? What positions did you use and enjoy? Was it a fun location for sex?...
A. 19 April 2009: Yes, Yes, and Yes. Stairs can be great. You may end up with some bruises and sore spots depending on position but it's always hot. Doggy style works best for this as you control the angle by which step your on. Do it now while you're young. As ... (read in full...)
Unleashing an animal
Q. Ok so the boy I'm in lust with right now has fairly animalistic tendencies when he is aroused and he's afraid that he'll hurt me. So he pulls away. And I need some help on tips to get him... fired up and riled up so that he won't worry so much abou...
A. 19 April 2009: Personally, I like the beast in a man when it comes to sex. The question is, will you? You aren't specific on animal tendancies so it's hard to answer this, but go with this. If you want him riled, and if you're not afraid of what his tendencies ... (read in full...)
He said, "I want to make love to you"
Q. A few days ago, for the first time, I got naked with the guy who I was seeing. He got really horny and whispered, "I want to make love to you." I thought he was just horny so I didn't respond to it. 30 minutes later, he asked me if I wanted to make ...
A. 19 April 2009: Wow, so many issues here. First, the "make love" issue. If he truly wants to "make love" to you, he will wait till you're ready. If he wants to have sex with you, he will lose interest quickly, and you'll know you were right for waiting. Second, ... (read in full...)
Kissing disaster
Q. Okay well I've been thinking and I do love my boyfriend BUT... there's a problem - he has braces and in the next couple of months I'm getting braces too but I'm a little bit scared to kiss him just in case something goes wrong. Can we still kiss ...
A. 19 April 2009: Sweetie, I had braces for years. Not a problem for kissing. If you go further, I would suggest being careful during oral sex and I can fully assure you the braces can get caught on delicate skin. Use your lips as a barrier... (read in full...)
Convict? or cop?
Q. I am a 38 yo single woman with high IQ and very practical. Here is my issue. I broke up with Ryan a few months ago because he was living with another woman and didn't seem ready to make that step. He is the perfect image of responsiblity, lawful, ...
A. 19 April 2009: Well since I last wrote, I broke up with Heath as he has mental problems that became too much for me to handle. Possesive, demanding, emotionally abusive. He didn't mean to be that way, but it was beyond his control. He was in the process of ... (read in full...)
Convict? or cop?
Q. I am a 38 yo single woman with high IQ and very practical. Here is my issue. I broke up with Ryan a few months ago because he was living with another woman and didn't seem ready to make that step. He is the perfect image of responsiblity, lawful, ...
A. 29 March 2009: Ryan moved in next door, Heath freaking out... (read in full...)
Convict? or cop?
Q. I am a 38 yo single woman with high IQ and very practical. Here is my issue. I broke up with Ryan a few months ago because he was living with another woman and didn't seem ready to make that step. He is the perfect image of responsiblity, lawful, ...
A. 27 March 2009: Thank You soooo much to those that gave me advise. It felt really good to not feel so alone in this decision. I still am trying to decide. Heath is looking for full time job, states if I stand by him, he will be everything I ever wanted, he will ... (read in full...)
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