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*froman_90
writes:hey everybody well today i was talking to my girlfriend and out of nowhere she tells me that she would rather take some time off from being with me because she wants to make sure that im the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with. I told her i would give her the space she needed but she said that she still wants to hang out, go to the movies, and wants me to continue going to her house. Which really confuses me. Any help would be great and i appreciate it
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reader, Abrasive_Reality +, writes (21 May 2009):
You may have to face the reality of her request.
This could be her way of scouting out other possible prospects without feeling bad for what it is she is doing.... OR she could just be afraid of commitment.
Either way, I think its unfair of her to request such a thing, she committed to you and I think that not wanting the title, which is what seems to be the case, is not really an appropriate thing to do in a relationship.
I think you need to tell her that if she wants a break that you two should take a serious break, meaning time away from each other too... She seems to want her cake and eat it too... that's not very fair of her to ask of you.
There are people that want to play games and there are people that allow such people to play games with them... I think you two would be better off if she just told you where she stands... without beating around the bush and trying to have the best of both worlds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): It is confusing. She says she wants some time away from you, then in the next breath she says she doesn't want anything to change, and that things can stay the same way. I can see why you are unsure of what she means!
I think you should try to get her to clarify what she means, tell her you are a bit confused and would like her to be clearer. Then I suppose it is up to you to decide whether you are happy with what she is asking or not.
Good luck. x
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reader, Karlin24 +, writes (21 May 2009):
 Well, as much as I believe in honesty, we all know that relationships are a little bit of a game in some ways. Do your own thing, let her think you're enjoying your space too. I can tell you that my ex's never looked as good to me as after I broke up with them on say them on the arm of another woman. She's calling all the shots right now and if you let her, she won't respect you. She'll know she can have her freedom and you too. Don't call her, make her call you. Don't be so available to her. Let her chase you a little bit. If she doesn't, then she really is trying to move on, let her go and you move on too.
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reader, jayne_staaa  +, writes (21 May 2009):
i think she may mean she wants the chance to meet other guys too and go to partys or clubs and be young for a bit, but she doesn't want to lose you at the same time, i think your gf's being a bit unfair on you. if your unhappy taking this break tell her that your either together or ur not.
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goodluck
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