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writes:I am a virgin, but I really want to do it with my boyfriend of 3 months, and I don't wanna seem clueless. What moves could I try for my first time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): believe me the guy is more nervous then you just have comunication during and after sex experiment and have a fun safe time!
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reader, daletom  +, writes (1 July 2009):
3 months might be a little too soon, especially if you're only 18. Do you REALLY know why you want to do this, and why HE wants to do it?
Make sure he knows you're a virgin (is he also?) and does some reading about first-time sex. Make sure you have, or will, take some time - anywhere from a couple of weeks to a few months - getting acquainted with each other's bodies and sexual responses with non-coital lovemaking like necking, petting, oral sex, etc.
The article linked by "satindesire" has a lot to say about the physiology, and the responses to her article talk about the mental and emotional factors of first time sex.
If you want a suggested script for your first intercourse, it would go something like this:
- You will have a location with plenty of privacy, bathroom facilities, and plenty of time. At least an overnight; an entire weekend is better.
- Early in the lovemaking, bring him to orgasm. He should know this is going to happen and not fight it. This will help give him control, and last longer.
- As he recharges, he will bring you to orgasm. After your climax you will be as open, lubricated, and ready to receive him as you will ever be.
- Place him on his back. Straddle his hips. Use your hands to guide him as your vagina envelopes his erection. Especially for a younger guy, there is no way he can know the exact location, angles, rate, or depth of penetration that is easiest for you. He certainly can't know how it feels to you.
- Your discomfort may range from "none at all - just the awesome sensation of being filled" to "hurts like hell". Some of it comes from having your hymen ruptured; some from having your vaginal muscles stretched for the very first time as he enters.
- Especially if it is also his first time he will probably climax too soon. That's OK - he will be ready to go again in a few minutes; that will give you time to decide when you want to try again.
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reader, Karlin24 +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Girl, just the fact that you're a virgin is the biggest turn on for that man. I could give you ideas, but the first time has too much going on for you to try to also look like you know what you're doing. You're going to be nervous, it's going to hurt, you may bleed (maybe alot, I did). Trust me, losing your virginity is enough to handle for the first time, work on technique later. P.S. Every guy boasts about how many virgins they have had, and trust me, they keep count like it's a trophy. Make sure this is the right guy and not just a virgin hunter. If he is a good guy, you'll be happy that you can share it with him. If he's not, you'll be a notch on your belt and you'll wish you had waited to share this with someone who is special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): There are no "moves" really. It's quite a natural thing you'll know what to do when you get started.
As long as you don't just lie there, go limp and close your eyes, you'll be grand.
You should do what you need to, to enjoy it, a bit of direction helps with this, like if he's doing something that feels great tell him to keep doing it.
Just make sure you're an active participant and enjoying it.
The best feeling about sex for us guys (most of us anyway) is the feeling of accomplishment that we get from having pleasured our partner.
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