Why do all the men in my life turn to porn?
Q. LONG story short: My boyfriend is great and I love him dearly. But (there's always a but, right?) I found porn on my computer and now I'm having trust issues. I confronted him and he has stopped (for 8 months now). I just can't quit thinking ab...
A. 29 August 2010: To you and to the poster, let me say this: As a man, when I'm in a down point with no girlfriend, I might look at porn. Or when I'm with a girlfriend, but we live apart and see each other every 10 days or so.. watching porn means I won't cheat. Same ... (read in full...)
My husband's been browsing escorts on his phone!!
Q. Hi all, Just wondered if anyone had any advice for me about a very personal problem... I have recently discovered that my husband has been browsing escorts on his mobile phone (i dont really understand the phone and found this all by accident when...
A. 28 August 2010: Seems it is resolved. Let me just say that this guy is an idiot. Browsing sex or escort sites on his phone?
I don't think it was a secret. He let you into his phone. He just likes the idea of the call-girl.
The sex aids. I hope you didn't buy a... (read in full...)
Child pornography on boyfriend's computer
Q. ok my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 yrs. he likes to watch porn hes nearly 25 and a couple of months ago i confronted him on how much porn he was looking at only to find disgusting child pornogrphy on our laptop. he swore it wasnt his and ...
A. 28 August 2010: This is something you need to be careful with. If you are wrong, you may ruin his life for nothing.
I have heard that the police can charge people with viewing child porn if they report it, but after doing so too late! It's a bad thing in more way... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 28 August 2010: Give up and leave her. I'm not one to advocate the evils of pornography, but it looks like the porno devil got her.
Get a divorce. Try and get the best settlement you can. Try to get evidence of her pornography viewing, so you can get custody,... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting? or should I be worried?
Q. My girlfriend has pictures of herself with another guy on facebook and its really pissin me off! There are about five pics of them and they all seem really flirty to me. He has his arm around her in most of them. They talk on the phone and skype ...
A. 28 August 2010: Facebook is the worst thing to happen to relationships I think. On one hand everyone can see it, so it isn't hidden, on the other, the girls just justify it by saying he's a friend... if you say anything then you are a jealous control freak.
There... (read in full...)
Should I wait for my GF to decide she wants me back?
Q. Update: my girlfriend and I have dated for four months I couldn't help myself and texted her today and told her that I removed the text block and asked her to call me. She did call and I asked her these quesions: told her I missed her, she said s...
A. 28 August 2010: I got a shock when I checked your age! I thought it was teenager asking this.
She is considering unblocking you from Facebook? The problem with Facebook is that everyone can see it. They can see who your friends are. She probably has a boyfrien... (read in full...)
Is this a little odd?
Q. This isn't really a love question as such, but it involves a girl so I thought this was as good a place to ask it as any. So sometimes I play a particular online game. Not a lot but maybe once or twice a week I will play for a little bit and c...
A. 28 August 2010: I'm shocked at some of these answers. Yes, it's very weird. It's ridiculous she gave you her phone number. She's in a relationship and looking to cheat.
She doesn't want her boyfriend so she has chosen texting as the way to communicate with you... (read in full...)
Another guy is telling my girlfriend he loves her!
Q. I'm in a very-LDR, and in recent months I've become really concerned with the amount of interest another guy has been showing my girlfriend. He's in the same country as me. He writes on her Facebook page that he loves her, and he sends her expens...
A. 28 August 2010: Well, he's in the same country as you, so that is something. Leave it for 8 days, then post he a poem or song on facebook to her. Do it so it appears on her wall if that's possible (I don't use facebook). If she takes it down or gets angry with you ... (read in full...)
Why after 8 years do I feel jealous that my wife has dated a black man?
Q. my wife of 2 yrs (together for 8 years), had mentioned casually that she dated a black guy in colllege. Now i feel like Im not good enough to satisfy her beause he was so much bigger. She also has dated a lot mofe guys than me and it makes me ...
A. 28 August 2010: I'm assuming she told you he was bigger than you (like may questioners, you are vague). It never ceases to amaze me how insensitive women can be.
She told you for one of two reasons:
1. She is insensitive and it was a conversation piece.
2. S... (read in full...)
Is my BF or his BOTHER the father of my baby?!!
Q. hi everyone lam pregnant but l don't know who is the father my bf was out of the country for 2mnths.l cheated on him while he was not around.l had sex with his brother on the first of this mnth and my bf came back on the 4th of this mnth we had...
A. 28 August 2010: Don't be stupid. If you get a paternity test later on, don't let them know. If it is the brother's that is bad; if not, then you have exposed yourself as a cheater for nothing.
You just had a bit of fun while he was away. Get independent advice f... (read in full...)
Is he using both women?
Q. A guy has a live in Girlfriend that he calls his"girl" but also has a long term lover on the outside that the live in Girlfriend may or may not know about. Would you say that this guy is committed or would you say he's playing games and using ...
A. 28 August 2010: You say long term lover, so he may love both women. As long as no one is getting hurt, it's fine.
Don't stick your beak in. And don't pick on him or he might think you will dob him in and then he may confess to get in first... don't cause tr... (read in full...)
I cheated and he did too but he's lying about it!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years but for two of them he has been incarcerated, while he was away i had an affair and stupidly told him about it. he chose to forgive me and recently returned home. most of the time everything is fine but every ...
A. 28 August 2010: Get the girl to come around and say in front of you both that he cheated with her. Then say you will stay with him if he agrees to not sling up the past any more.
If he says no, forget it. Or if he slings it up later, walk away then.
All tho... (read in full...)
Annoyed with best friend squealing
Q. hi guys, i am pissed off with my best friend, who i used to consider the brother i never had. i thought i could safely bitch about my gf to him while me and my gf are in a bit of turmoil over money and trust, and other issues. he was happy to agr...
A. 28 August 2010: He played you and now he is stealing your woman from you.
Say to her "I'm sorry I confided in my best friend about the problems in our relationship. I was wrong to do that and I won't do it again."
Then go and give him a good old fashioned be... (read in full...)
My wife is helping her sister cheat!
Q. My wife is helping her sister to have an affair. What does that say for my wife and our relationship? I'm very upset about this, should I be?...
A. 28 August 2010: I vote with the first two replies. Your wife has either cheated on you or she will cheat.
She is stupid for telling you, btw, but then women can be clueless as to how we men might feel.
Hire a private investigator. Say you suspect your wif... (read in full...)
Guy threatening to give my boyfriend proof that I cheated!
Q. I had an affair with A, a guy from work. And I called it off after 2 weeks, no more texts, phone calls, email, facebook. I felt really bad and guilty towards to my bf, because deep inside me i know it is not his fault that he has to work long hou...
A. 28 August 2010: Show him your question in this forum. When he reads it he will understand completely and I believe he will forgive you and realise just what a waste of space that man from your former work was.
Your boyfriend will be hurt, but that's natural.... (read in full...)
We had an affair, left our marriages, but now she is considering going back to her husband!
Q. A bit of a long story but the background is important. I was a happily married man (so I thought) until I met somebody else last year. She was also happily married (her words). Anyway, we had an affair and tried to end it by walking away but we ...
A. 28 August 2010: If she comes back to you, have your fun, but otherwise, I think you should go to their place and have a chat with them about the situation. If she shoos you away or he tells you to piss off, say "I'd like to talk with YOU about the situation, ... (read in full...)
I let my ex back into my life but he acts like a total jerk!
Q. This guy and I dated for 9 months. Well towards the 9th month he starts to act odd like he doesn’t want to talk to me so he chooses to ignore me. So I stopped contact with him because I didn’t want to waste my time. Then two months fly by, he texts ...
A. 28 August 2010: Close the door forever on him and find someone better. He sounds like a nutcase. That's sad and you may feel sorry for him, but he also sounds dangerous. He stole your money girl!
I think you may log for the time when you were lovers and friends,... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my boyfriend does not hug or kiss me?
Q. is it normal that my boyfriend does not hug or kiss me? We have been together for 4 months and he has requested for blow jobs which i did. No actual sex is involved yet though he had asked. But he doesnt kiss me at all. He only kissed me once o...
A. 28 August 2010: The more feelings I have for a girl, the more I want to hug and kiss her. Especially kissing on the lips. Tongue-kissing can be more of a sexual thing and I like that, but I often like just soft kissing on the lips... we both kiss (am single, but ... (read in full...)
I've been hurt so badly and don't want to get hurt again
Q. Okay, I'm 16 almost 17 years old. I'm breaking down more than ever right now. I've been in two past relationships that were both ended horribly. When I was 13 my first ex decided to treat me like crap and never want to do anything and then have se...
A. 28 August 2010: You need to move to Michigan. Get some support to move to college or something up there, where you can have a dorm room and get meals (you being so young and all) or yes, she will forget about you.... (read in full...)
I think I am attracted to my GF's younger sister!
Q. hi i need help i think i am finding that i am attracted sexualy to my Gf's younger sister. is this normal. it is worrying me thanx...
A. 28 August 2010: Is she attracted to you? If so and you are both over the age of consent, go for it!
This sounds bad, but you say you are attracted sexually, so if you hold back...
I once was attracted to my girlfriend's older sister. She was really sexy. I f... (read in full...)
Is "the effort" ever worth it?
Q. I'm a 20 year old guy. I'm a college student, I'm an aspiring writer and I'm not ashamed to say that I am a geek (comics/movies/video games.) I wouldn't have it any other way. I can talk to women and hold a decent conversation with them but th...
A. 28 August 2010: You're a complainer. Pure and simple. Yes the world is ridiculous and full of hypocrisy. Deal with it.
20 and a virgin. It seems like you are uptight and scared to take risks. Don't worry about what people think.
Yes it is worth to to go f... (read in full...)
Is this RAPE??
Q. im not sure if this is rape... i was messing around with a guy and he started touching me...i didnt care about that but then he started putting it in and i was trying to push him off me at the hips but he was too strong.. i kept asking him to get ...
A. 28 August 2010: It is rape. How old is he?
You may have a hard time proving it is rape. Tell your father or some other guy and see if they can't just give him a hiding.
In the USA he would be staring at 40 years gaol, or life without parole. Mike Tyson only ... (read in full...)
Have a big penis and don't know where to put it.
Q. Im a 20 year old guy who has kind of a wierd problem or dilema. The problem is that I have an above average size penis(8 inches long and almost 6 inches around(its true, Im not kidding)) and I just have no place to put it in my pants. Sometimes ...
A. 28 August 2010: You don't need to trawl for women by advertising you have a big willy. Please stop wasting our time with insincere questions.... (read in full...)
How can I motivate my GF to lose wight??
Q. I've been with my girlfriend now for 15 months. She's always been overweight and it did bother me, and I spoke to her about it and she said she would do something about it. She became very motivated in working out and eating right, but as ti...
A. 28 August 2010: I read your follow up. She is trying, but she needs someone to push her.
You say she only has 400 to 500 calories a day? Candy, ice cream and chocolate is loaded with calories. What looks like a little can in fact be a lot.
You need to get her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his sister cut my hair, but they wont own up to messing it up!
Q. dear cupid , a year ago i let my partner and his sister cut the ends off my hair , something was going on as i could tell from the way thay where giggling his sister kept goin over to the bin an putting things in , i told my friend about what had ...
A. 28 August 2010: Don't drag yourself down to their level by getting revenge.
Your guy doesn't understand how important your hair is to you and his sister is being a bitch.
About the trust thing, you need to just make a deal with yourself to not let him have any... (read in full...)
I feel as if he just used me... help!
Q. Hi there i am so glad i found this site as i need advice regarding my stupid affair... we met 3 months ago after a row with my partner (we have two children) i was feeling unappreciated and not been shown much affection for a while, i just kinda ...
A. 28 August 2010: Sounds like your boyfriend doesn't do it for you. Make an effort to have a romantic relationship with him, like you probably did before you had kids. Go for it. Get babysitting, go out to restaurants, the movies. Go for a weekend away. It soun... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 3.5years wants space, saying she has feelings for another bloke. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm after some advice. So here it goes. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 3.5 years. We have practically lived together for 1.5 years but have only in our own place for the past few months. Things have been goo...
A. 28 August 2010: Good that you are putting the effort in, but go easy on the 'my beautiful' stuff. Don't be too clingy. Just say "Check the letterbox."
When she finds a letter from you, she will know you love her and that you want her and everything. It's obvious ... (read in full...)
Flirting friends but does he like me?
Q. sorry about the long story but i really need some advice.here goes: i have this friend lets call him f.f and i have been friends for about 3 or 4 years.in the beginning of our friendship i had the hugest! crush on f.he found out but we...
A. 28 August 2010: Right, my advice to you is that I think f is a good fellow and that he likes you a great deal. If you like him too, then you should welcome a relationship with him.
If he was hurt that you didn't dream about him, then yes, he wants you. Whenever... (read in full...)
My older BF said "I could be your dad...". What's going on??
Q. I'm 18, my bf is 34. We've been seeing each other for six months. I'm happy with him and he seems happy too. Lately though, we never seem to go out anymore. We cook at his place, read, watch movies and go to sleep and he clings to me like crazy and ...
A. 28 August 2010: No, he will stick by you if you are pregnant. He sounds like a stand-up guy.
As others have said, people are probably giving him a hard time. Making him feel like a paedophile. At the very least, that he is taking advantage of you.
You nee... (read in full...)
How can I motivate my GF to lose wight??
Q. I've been with my girlfriend now for 15 months. She's always been overweight and it did bother me, and I spoke to her about it and she said she would do something about it. She became very motivated in working out and eating right, but as ti...
A. 27 August 2010: It is almost impossible to change fatties. Have her eat no less than 3 meals a day. If she's not a brekky girl (and from my experience most fat girls aren't) try and get her to have a small bowl of cereal, like muesli. Wholegrain toast is good... ... (read in full...)
My older BF said "I could be your dad...". What's going on??
Q. I'm 18, my bf is 34. We've been seeing each other for six months. I'm happy with him and he seems happy too. Lately though, we never seem to go out anymore. We cook at his place, read, watch movies and go to sleep and he clings to me like crazy and ...
A. 27 August 2010: Don't be so sure he is feeling so guilty, people. I think he is feeling self-conscious. I've had a few older women.. after one or two dates they don't want to go out any more.
For a man it must be worse. It's no longer a 'desperate housewiv... (read in full...)
He got upset that I told his to seek help!!!
Q. I have a bf and we have been dating for nearly 3 years now. I think that he's the perfect guy for me except he has a problem..he has an anger management issue and he's been trying to get better(he's even taking boxing classes to take away the stress ...
A. 27 August 2010: Aha! You know the problem with these angry people? They can't escape from anger cos they get a reputation. He's probably a fair-minded person, am I right? The world is full of unfair people.
All of us have a temper and most of us are able to blow ... (read in full...)
Flirting friends but does he like me?
Q. sorry about the long story but i really need some advice.here goes: i have this friend lets call him f.f and i have been friends for about 3 or 4 years.in the beginning of our friendship i had the hugest! crush on f.he found out but we...
A. 27 August 2010: okay, this is a very interesting situation. I've had a few girlfriends and also girls who were just friends and I think I can go a good way to helping you out....
But there's a problem: your question is confusing where you don't say which boy is s... (read in full...)
I'm completely in love with my BF... but I can't stop hooking up with other men!!
Q. Sorry for the long comment- I've been dating my boyfriend for two years now and i'm completely inlove with him- i think. when i think about him it's wonderful, and i love kissing him and he has the sweetest eyes. The problem is that i often ...
A. 27 August 2010: 420sunrise, I can't believe what I wrote here!
As a man, I would like a 3some myself, for the thrill of having two women go down on me at the same time, mostly. Also, it would give me the feeling that even if I get cheated on, I'm still a worthy m... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 3.5years wants space, saying she has feelings for another bloke. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm after some advice. So here it goes. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 3.5 years. We have practically lived together for 1.5 years but have only in our own place for the past few months. Things have been goo...
A. 27 August 2010: I have to agree with tennistar88. All the red flags are flying furiously. For some reason, women just seem able to look you in the eye and lie much better than we can!
But even if you are right and she isn't cheating, the other guy has massive ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend never lets me know where is when late and I'm always afraid of something bad happening!
Q. My fiance and myself have been together for more than 3 years, lived together for more than 2 and have a toddler and an infant together. He has a full time job, half day on fridays and I am a stay at home mom. he is a good person but really incon...
A. 27 August 2010: Your concerns make sense, but I would gather it must be very tiring to have to report in all the time if you work late constantly.
You don't seem to fear him cheating and it doesn't sound like he is. Unless you have let yourself go, then that is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend didn't seem too thrilled to hear from me after her vacation--WHY?
Q. Hi, I'm just really confused right now. And I really miss my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I are both 20 years old, and we were doing very well before she left for a week long vacation. We've been spending nights together, sharing a lot of ...
A. 27 August 2010: You're jumping the gun a little bit. I would be worried if she didn't contact you after day two of being home. Mind you, I would be fretting all that long day! She was probably just tired.
It can be confronting, the idea of a spouse losing i... (read in full...)
We had an affair, left our marriages, but now she is considering going back to her husband!
Q. A bit of a long story but the background is important. I was a happily married man (so I thought) until I met somebody else last year. She was also happily married (her words). Anyway, we had an affair and tried to end it by walking away but we ...
A. 27 August 2010: Oh shit! By cheating with a cheater ye have reaped what ye sowed. But you did the right thing in the end by leaving your wife rather than staying with her and cheating.. the lesser of two evils.
It's wrong for her to be going back to the ex-husba... (read in full...)
I'm worried about bachelor party, strippers & lap dances!
Q. Hello, I'm getting married and well, of course I'm excited. My fiancee is great. He truly is. But I have a bit of a problem regarding the bachelor party. I don't think he'll cheat. But of course there will be strippers. it's a tradition, and...
A. 27 August 2010: As a man, I dread my bride's hen night (I'm single and don't have a gf, am projecting). Far from the innocence of girls going out and cheering at Manpower or Chippendales in G-strings, bachelorette parties have evolved to a stripper or two going to ... (read in full...)
My brother walked in on me!
Q. I had bought some lingerie at victoria secrets and I was trying it on in my room and my brother happened to walk in and see me in it and made a comment. It was kinda weird. He told me I looked good in it. Is that suppose to be flattering or ...
A. 18 August 2010: Nothing wrong if he was aroused. The whole point of being 'good' is that you withhold from doing something you may want to do, that is against the moral code.
Take it as a compliment and don't mention it again. If anything, talk normally to him t... (read in full...)
I'm completely in love with my BF... but I can't stop hooking up with other men!!
Q. Sorry for the long comment- I've been dating my boyfriend for two years now and i'm completely inlove with him- i think. when i think about him it's wonderful, and i love kissing him and he has the sweetest eyes. The problem is that i often ...
A. 18 August 2010: I think stopping your behaviour is only going to make you resent him. Um... what's your phone number? Just kidding! I think the best thing to do in a perfect world, would be to tell him it's ok for him to have fun if he wants, or maybe get another ... (read in full...)
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