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writes:I'm a 20 year old guy. I'm a college student, I'm an aspiring writer and I'm not ashamed to say that I am a geek (comics/movies/video games.) I wouldn't have it any other way.I can talk to women and hold a decent conversation with them but they only view me as a friend. Which I have no problem with. However, it does get to me a little bit espically being a male virgin whose never dated, never kissed and never had a girlfriend.All this usually wouldn't get to me now but I've been thinking a lot. And I've been thinking that the whole "dating" scene. The game as some say, it's just too much bs.Double Standards just piss me off. Like if a guy is experienced he's normal, but if a girl is experienced shes a whore.And if a handsome alpha male type guy is a virgin, then there's nothing wrong with him and he's more appealing but if a ugly fat guy is a virgin it just makes him more undesirable and unwanted.And generalizations are just ridiculous to me. Such as from my experience (I was interested in and talked to a gorgeous woman who is 48.)The generalization that all young guys my age are too immature. Its what she said during one of our conversations, it did'nt pretain to me. But it's really a shame that thats the generalization of guys my age.And like the time my friends all pitched in 50 dollars to pay an escort to lose my virginity. It's just insane. I want to love and be loved.Now I'm thinking that it comes down to a point that it's just not worth it. The effort I mean. It's not worth it to find someone to love if there's so much insanity. Is the effort of finding somebody worth it?Is there any hope?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): Your maturity is part of the problem.
Most young girls would pass up a very mature guy their own age for an immature full grown man. In a hot second.
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reader, James the Rocket  +, writes (28 August 2010):
You're a complainer. Pure and simple. Yes the world is ridiculous and full of hypocrisy. Deal with it.
20 and a virgin. It seems like you are uptight and scared to take risks. Don't worry about what people think.
Yes it is worth to to go for things and have goals. You want to get laid? Go on one of those sex hook-up sites.
Want a girlfriend? Go on a dating site.
You want to be a writer? Stop wasting your time with these forums and start writing that novel or non-fiction book now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): Im surprised you dont have a girlfriend. You dont sound immature at all. It seems like you know a lot. As for men your age, some people do find them to be immature. But not everyone your age is. There are people older than you that are immature and dont care. As for dating, I do agree with you that there are always going to be double stantards and it is bs. Dont go to a prostitute to lose your virginity. There are many other men your age and older who are still virgins. I dont think that anybody should ever really put on "the effort" to get somebody to like them. I find it sexy when a guy talks about what he really likes and talk about who he really is instead of being something else. Whenever you find that special girl, you will know. Dont worry, you will get the chance to love and be loved. You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Good Luck!!!:]
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