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writes:ok my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 yrs. he likes to watch porn hes nearly 25 and a couple of months ago i confronted him on how much porn he was looking at only to find disgusting child pornogrphy on our laptop. he swore it wasnt his and it must have came through a popup. last nite i checked d laptop again and there was more porn, d majority of it adult but their was still some child on it. i just want to know am i overecting thinkin hes sick and that i need to break up with him? pls help as i distraught.
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reader, James the Rocket  +, writes (28 August 2010):
This is something you need to be careful with. If you are wrong, you may ruin his life for nothing.
I have heard that the police can charge people with viewing child porn if they report it, but after doing so too late! It's a bad thing in more ways than one, this child porn thing. I read in my local paper about this, when some guy was accused of this (he had one image - sex offenders are compulsive repeaters, so he's likely innocent) and he was fired... case is ongoing.
Two incidences, of multiple child images you say? I'd say give him 3 strikes and you're out, call the police. Don't tell him this btw!
I am not sure if you have a legal obligation to blow the whistle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): "Are you sure it is porn and not a really young looking 18+? There are sites that hire/provide those kind of porn stars."
The fact that we even have to make that distinction should say something to you. Other than the eliminating the child abuse from making the porn, what difference does it make if he's searching out real children or people who look like children? Shouldn't it be enough that he needs to think they're children to get off?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Are you sure it is porn and not a really young looking 18+? There are sites that hire/provide those kind of porn stars.
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reader, Gandalfrex  +, writes (16 August 2010):
Yo i've been browsing porn for some ten years now... and NEVER has child porn popped up... Never. So this dude has issues.
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reader, Eskim0  +, writes (16 August 2010):
You are ABSOLUTELY NOT overreacting. Child porn is illegal, anyone who watches it, or is involved in making it is breaking the law. It is also now become your duty to report it to the police.
You absolutely cannot be with someone like this. I hope all will be resolved soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): Leave him and alert the police so that they can find the source of the child porn and shut it down. If these are actual chilren being used to make this porn, they are being abused and need rescuing. Please don't turn your back on these innocent children! If you want to protect your boyfriend, then tell the authorities anonomously...but please, please help the children!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 You're absolutely not overreacting. Some people who become addicted actually move to child porn due to desensitization (rather than being pedophiles). But he's most definitely lying about looking. If there was like one site, maybe a pop-up or an accident. Multiple, he's definitely looking it up. I mean be honest, would you want the one you love to know you were masturbating to the sickest of sick porn? I don't think this is a call the police situation unless it seems like obsession with children. However, he really, desperately needs help. Clearly this has gone beyond a porn habit. If he refuses to see there's a problem with not only his excessive porn use, but the fact that he's migrated into child porn, that's when you need to leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): Yes, you need to leave him (he is looking at child porn. Even if it was a pop up, WHY would child porn pop up, I'm assuming it's illegal in your country).
Imagine if you stayed and ended up having children together. Would you be okay with your children being watched by a man who's into child porn? AND if something were to happen (I'm sorry to even make you imagine this) this would destroy you. So don't even start to go there...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): leave him. he won't even admit to liking it. he is sick, and how could you sleep well at night knowing what you know and having him be around kids, younger family, or even your own kids one day?
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (15 August 2010):
Child porn is illegal.
He hasn't bothered to delete it off his computer = he downloaded it. Confront him about it.
Show him the door and show the police his door if he doesn't change sharpish.
Child are being sold as sex slaves all over the world. Taken from their parents and raped and exposed. Fetishes is one thing, but illegal stuff is another. If he doesn't move on sharpish you will need to tell the police. Its highly illegal and if they catch him before you tell them, you could be implicated as you know about it. Scary but true.
This will be very difficult as you've been together a long time.
I wish you much strength.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): If you mean actual pictures of actual children rather than childish looking Japanese cartoons then no, there's no way that just popped up whilst he was browsing for regular porn - it doesn't happen. People that run regular porn sites would not allow it to happen because they know that 99% their customers would run a mile if they see it.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (15 August 2010):
 Well, hon, your instincts are right. If I hypothtically had encountered a site where HIGHLY ILLEGAL child porn was popping up, I would call authorities and inform them of the fact. That'd be the proper thing to do. Out of disgust though, I'd probably have them deleted. Your boyfriend surely is looking at this and for this and its vile. Trust your heart. But you know, thats a crime...he should be arrested for viewin/downloading this and further supporting disgusting pedophilia. The police should be called... Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): LEAVE NOW WHILE YOU STILL CAN..
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reader, Tell Tina  +, writes (15 August 2010):
Hi
No sorry you are not overecting and you need to leave him and tell the police because that is wrong. It could start out as little as just child porn but later on down the line it could get worse. Please leave and tell the police.
Take care
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