Am I being a fool?
Q. Hello, So I've been seeing someone from a different country. We've been seeing each other for about 3 years. He does not have a steady income. He sells clothes. Jobs are scarce where he is. He always asks for money and it never seems lik...
A. 4 July 2024: I don't want to call you a fool, as you aren't, but you may just be acting foolish because your head is clouded with your affection towards him.
But in this case, it clearly only flows one way. It unfortunately seems like he is using you for your... (read in full...)
I got involved with engaged co worker and made her choose
Q. Hi everyone! Here's my situation: two and a half years ago a new coworker arrived into the company I've been working with for the last 7 years. A couple of weeks after she arrived, she started to flirt with me in a real intense way, I mean, she...
A. 2 April 2024: You are absolutely correct on not attending the wedding.
She clearly is going to be a cheater the rest of her life if she's already courting someone else in the office now that you rebuffed her. Just let her do her thing and don't get involved... (read in full...)
She cancelled our first date because of who I follow on Instagram
Q. I'm 34 and she's 24. We matched on Tinder, eventually transitioned into Instagram, then started texting,and she let me know she prefers talking on the phone. I gave her a call, we talked for nearly 2 hours, finally set up our first date and I was ...
A. 10 April 2022: Great points here. I'll make sure to never let my friend follow women like that on my account again. And yeah, it is hypocritical to find me on a hookup app and act like she has some sort of moral high ground. Oh well. Thanks for your input! ... (read in full...)
If she does not like me why the friend request?
Q. hi aunts advice needed, I work at a warehouse processing materials for shirts and badges for football teams. there is a female at work who doesn’t seem to like me, either because I’m ugly or get on her nerves. I normally don’t do social media, b...
A. 29 December 2021: You can always block her posts and remain "friends" on FB. That way you don't come off weird as accepting a request then deleting it. Maybe she's just being friendly and wants to send friend requests to all her co workers. ... (read in full...)
Does she see things from my point of view
Q. I’ve been friends with a female who I have had a crush on, for many years. we both like each other but have never acted on our instincts. she told me she had a boyfriend, which I was disappointed by. I told her that I have a crush on her and she ...
A. 29 December 2021: You are both adults here. At least she knows where you stand, but life isn't a movie and setting yourself up as a potential option if her current relationship fails might come off as a bit desperate in her eyes. But who knows, I see "I married my ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend lashes out at me when he's stressed
Q. I have a new partner after getting divorced and I have to say I really like him. We have the most amazing passionate relationship and in the last few months we’ve both admitted it’s love, we live quite far from each other but we manage it fine and...
A. 24 December 2021: I would worry. He clearly has problems he has to deal with on his own. These are signs of a highly toxic relationship. Please be careful with him and I wouldn't give him another chance if he has another outburst with you. The long distance will also ... (read in full...)
My longtime friend blocked me because I couldn't pick him up from the airport?
Q. This is a friendship question. I've been friends with this guy since sixth grade and we're both currently 34 years old. He informed me this past Thursday he was flying in to the States where I just moved (he lives in Mexico) and and asked if I cou...
A. 23 December 2021: Thank you very much for your kind and helpful words. It made me reflect on my friendship with him throughout the years.
In the end, he dropped all contact. It's a real shame because we had been friends for so long, but I did my part in trying t... (read in full...)
I'm just ticked off that he ghosted me then texted me like nothings changed.
Q. I met a guy on a dating app and we've been out on 2 dates. I was beginning to like him, then he disappeared after the 2nd date. I texted him last Sunday telling him I had fun and we should go out again. He then suggested we should go see a movie, to ...
A. 5 October 2021: If you really like him that much, sure give him a chance. But don't cancel plans to be with him. And if he ghosts you again he is just using you as a "pick me up" for him, as he probably detected how much you like him and knows he might be able to ... (read in full...)
My g/f is Muslim we are hiding it from our families. How do go about bringing us into the open?
Q. I have been dating a girl for a few months. We met online through a dating app. I feel like she is everything that I have been searching for in a partner. I realize that our relationship is still very young and of course there is still time for ...
A. 7 February 2021: You're in a tight spot. It's admirable that you are willing to convert, but that may not be enough to convince either of your parents. But if you need their approval, it's probably best to come clean sooner rather than later.... (read in full...)
How long do I wait? Stuck in a LDR
Q. Hi I’m in a long distance relationship for a few years now. I’m older and settled in career but he is not. He stilll trying to find his feet. When we talk about marriage, every time he says not now, firstly not ready, then he wants thing in l...
A. 7 February 2021: That answer he gave you about not wanting children but he will give one to you speaks volumes. It seems like he's going to keep postponing indefinitely.I feel he seems a bit too wishy washy for you. ... (read in full...)
How should I react and be around him when I go to his classes?
Q. Hi Cupid I have a crush on a guy at my local gym, he’s a personal trainer and I attend his exercise classes. He’s kind, friendly and warm and easy to talk to. The last 3 months, I’ve been maintaining eye contact with him, we both smile at ea...
A. 21 October 2019: Gym trainers are in a very delicate position. They are essentially need to be friendly and upbeat in order to get more clients. But sometimes it's hard to tell if they are treating you with a more "personal" friendly and upbeat.
It sounds like he ... (read in full...)
Why is my former co worker being like this?
Q. became friends with a co worker at work who I like. she talked to me quite a lot and the conversations seem to flow well. I was sad to hear she was going after three months of being with the company. was in kitchen making a tea and said to her, was ...
A. 21 October 2019: It happens. I once fell for a girl who worked at the office I was in. She too was friendly and accepted my friend request when I eventually left to another job. But she never really bothered to engage with my FB messages. Let it be man. She's made ... (read in full...)
Do you think he’s met someone else or just gone off me or is he busy?
Q. So I'm very confused and wondering what you would do? Should I just forget him and move on (I dont want to) or ask him where we stand or do nothing? Or any other advise... So I met this guy we just hit it off...I'm newly quite single and not s...
A. 5 September 2019: It is odd. But I wouldn't worry just yet. Still to early to tel with him and unfortunately 2 days in is when people might start to play games with each other. Give him a call around 9PM on a weekday if you're getting impatient.... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend might be married. What should I do?
Q. I think my new boyfriend might be married and I have no idea how to bring up the subject. We've been together for almost three months and while things have been good, some of his behaviour has always been a bit off. Nothing I can put my finger on, ...
A. 31 August 2019: Considering you've already been seeing him for 3 months, I think it's appropriate to ask him about his past."Have you ever been married?" is completely innocent. Just find a good time to do so. In person too, as texts can be ignored. ... (read in full...)
I feel so overwhelmed but I don't want to run away
Q. I feel overwhelmed and I don't know how to juggle everything and give it my best shot. Basically, in just under 2 weeks, I'm having my first driving test. I passed my theory on the third try. If I don't pass this practical test, I have to renew my...
A. 31 August 2019: One thing at a time. That's the key. Don't deal with all of them at the same time. Focus on your test. Then focus on moving in. Just go day by day and that will make everything feel much less overwhelming.... (read in full...)
I feel insecure about the wait in our long distance relationship
Q. hello, me and my girlfriend are in an Long distance relationship and talk online. her parents make her study and have taken all form of communication to me away from her and she can barley say 1 word to me per day. she said itd be over in around 10 ...
A. 30 August 2019: I know how you feel. I went through a Yahoo chat "relationship" phase too.
But you need to keep in mind that she's an online only relationship.
You have no idea if she is who she says she is, if she is even a she, if she is just making this... (read in full...)
Wife lied, she wasn't a virgin. What do you think? What should I do?
Q. Ever since my wife and i met she has always been a very conservative virgin girl, her choice and she was very string that it was important to her. I knew she had a BF before me but she insisted she was a virgin and it was very important to her. This ...
A. 30 August 2019: I mean, judging by the evidence she probably did get together with him for one last roll in the hay before meeting you.
That being said, at least it's only one guy. That's extremely rare nowadays.
Her lying to you for that long is not righ... (read in full...)
How to deal with heartbreak and the knock to my self esteem
Q. I got dumped by a guy I was seeing for three months a few days ago, and I’m struggling to cope with the heartbreak. This is as much a rant as a plea for advice. I know three months isn’t that long, but it was intense relationship and we had a gre...
A. 30 August 2019: I really empathize with you. I'm literally going through the same situation. I recently went out with a girl I had gone out with for a few months about a year ago, and back then we had connected in an intense level, just like you did with your guy. ... (read in full...)
I get the attention but come off as disinterested
Q. Hi everyone, I have problems finding a girlfriend. I know what the cause is, I just don't know how to fix it. I have a hard time communicating with others. I find it difficult to pick up social cues. It's not that I'm shy, I just don't have the p...
A. 28 August 2019: I think you should start by working on yourself before trying to chase women. They can see through someone who is only after sex, or is only being "polite" to them. ... (read in full...)
I need to end my marriage but I don't know if I have the strength to move on
Q. I need to end my marriage. But I do not know if I have the strength to move on. My husband has cheated on me 3 years before we got married. We were technically on a break but still had sex so I forgave him. He is the only man I have ever been with ...
A. 28 August 2019: Nothing to feel ashamed about. This is entirely his fault. My mom forgave my dad for cheating on her once, but when he did it again she kicked him out of the house and divorced him immediately. I was cheated on as well in my first relationship in ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has no interest in sex. How can I ignite a sexual spark in her? ...
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been going out for about four months. We're both virgins but she isn't interested in sex at all. She says she feels no sexual desires at all which is frustrating because she's always leaving me with blue balls. She says ...
A. 3 June 2019: These things take time. Especially if you're both virgins. You can't push her to have sex, she will let you know when she's ready.
I was in the same situation as you when I was in college. We were both 19 and virgins. In my case, it took 7 months... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not reply to me anymore
Q. At the beginning of the relationship, we would always talk to each other message each other constantly. Until he stopped talking to me a lot. He asked me awhile back to always reply to him when I came online- so I did. Eventually he started ...
A. 28 May 2019: He's falling out of affection for you.
Just take his hints and move on. I know it's extremely hard to do, especially when you really like someone and you remember the good days like they were yesterday.
But he's not going to change. It's har... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my feelings for my FWB man will go stronger once we go away together
Q. I met a hot guy four years ago on vacation. He was 21 and I was 25 and we lived states away from each other so we decided to hook up during our respective vacations. We knew the distance would mean we couldn't be together so it was supposed to end ...
A. 28 May 2019: I think you answered your own question on the last paragraph.
You two are on very different paths. Your life is also pretty stable right now, you have a house and a son to take care of. He's living an "in the moment" kind of lifestyle that I d... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time, should I break up with him?
Q. Okay, so im 26 yr old female. No kids. Living on my own. I am disabled so i get about 700$ a month to pay all my bills rent and food. It is very hard to live on that amount per month bc the rent and utility bills alone are that each month. Anyways, ...
A. 28 May 2019: I don't even think this is even a relationship.
Please don't take his abuse anymore.
Please end it, you don't deserve that from him or anyone. ... (read in full...)
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