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writes:Hello Everyone,I need some advice regarding my ex...We broke up in Feb this year and haven't seen him since. I have recieved a voice mail message and messages stating that if I am home so he can pop over???What does this mean? What could he possible want?I am not interested in him anymmore and have zero feelings...He gave me a letter in Feb when he moved out that he wants to start in one year time again ... with me.. in a relationship!!! I dont think so!!!Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello again...
Firstly would like to thank everyone for their support and time in helping me clarify the situation.
Well, the first column was a bit while ago and he disappeared out of my life pretty much and went into silent. He has now AGAIN started to pop up with an email..or a text message...asking really laime questions...I have ignored them and not answered them at all...
I just had enough and texted him back "I don't understand why you still try to keep in touch" that was it...and guess what no reply...NOTHING!!!
Mind you ...the letter I was writing about before is pretty much approaching 1 year in Feb.
It's messing with my head..as I have moved on..and try to focus on myself and my life...but yet he pops up ...and sets me off track a bit ...as a human would I guess...
I don't want't him back that's for sure!!!
Would appreciate some more advise!!
Thanks heaps
xx
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (31 August 2008):
hiyah, it seems to me like hes got bord and he wants to pick up from where you left off, hes just assuming that when he clicks his fingers youll running, set him straight! or to set the record straight call him and ask him what he wants, if you have no feelings for him then it shouldnt be a problem letting him no this if he does want to get back with you, he had his chance! you seem to of copped well getting over him so dont let him bring you back down. hes back for a reason find that out then carry on as you were, or just leave it altogether by ignoring him he will hopefully accept its over, its up to you
best of luck :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 August 2008):
If it was anything normal then he would say so in the message - eg. I found some of your CDs and would like to drop them over and say hi.
The fact he's being so mysterious about wanting to talk to you in person says to me that he is ready to take you on now and expects you to be ready to jump into bed / marry him now he's decided it's time.
Call him. Ask him what he wants. If he says he wants to talk then ask him what about. If he says it's about "us" then tell him there is no US since you broke up. Do it over the phone so can make it clear you don't even want to see him.
If you broke up with him then you have to be a bit nice, this guy has obviously never got over you and you can be civil and friendly without giving him any hope.
If he broke up with you then he had his chance and blew it. Give him both barrels.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): Well if you really want to find out then call him back and ask him, or let him pop round and find out. If it is something you're not happy with you can tell him!
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (31 August 2008):
 I think you should just ignore him. You have zero feelings for him and no interest to be around him, so just express that through your actions.
Now, if you actually see him, then just tell him you don't want anything to do with him and to stop asking. And that oh, no relationship with you. He had an opportunity and he lost it. Please don't hesitate to do this, if you don't say anything from the beginning, they will get the wrong message and keep on insisting, so yo gotta teach them righ there.
And if he keeps on doing this, put a restraining order against him.
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reader, ItsEmma +, writes (31 August 2008):
 He might want to get back together with you, he might not. He might just want to come and chat. The latter is probably not likley, but there's always that chance. I say hear what he has to say, but if he wants to get back together, tell him how you feel.
~Emma
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