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writes:My girlfriend is pregnant and she is always kicking me out. Last week we she said she had the ump and although she said it wasnt my fault she told me I had to stay at my mums that night. I didnt call her that evening because she said she didnt want to see me but the next morning I had a shitty text moaning about me phoning. It turned into a big argument and she ended up taking the bed down (it came from my mums) and dumping it on my mums driveway despite me telling her that I didnt want it. Since then we have had many arguments and havnt seen eachother for over week. She text me yesterday saying that I would not be on the birth certificate because she si unsure who the father is. She then called and said she was just trying to wind me up but it has planted a seed in my head and I dont know what to believe. She now says I am out of order for wanting a dna test when the baby is born.I know nobody can tell me what to do but does this sort of thing sound normal to all you women?xx
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reader, luvmyemma  +, writes (6 June 2009):
Yes. During my pregnancy I was extremely emotional unstable. I would get really mad that I'd start crying and ten minutes later I was just fine. This continued until even a week after I gave birth. When she starts getting mad, just try to be nice and give her some space to let her cool off. Remember that it's not healthy for her to feel stressed or angry and can even make her go into early labor. I got into a huge argument with my baby's dad the night before I went into early labor.
It is possible that she said the baby might not be yours to make you mad. I've done stuff like that and at the moment it seems like it's not a big deal but that's harsh. It's up to you if you go through with the paternity test, just remind her that it's because of what she said.
Sorry I wrote a book here. Just trying to share advice from my own experience. :) good luck!
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reader, cthulhuhugs +, writes (1 September 2008):
 As a woman who has had a baby, I can tell you I've threatened my husband with a knife while washing dishes because he mentioned that I looked like I "needed more sleep". Women react in different ways to being pregnant, and mostly we don't take it gracefully. That being said though, you've got every right to demand a DNA test. If she doesn't want you to doubt her, then she damned well shouldn't say shit lik that. Good luck, and congrats on fatherhood.
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reader, Madam  +, writes (31 August 2008):
HeyI am 7 months pregnant and can tell you that hormones do tend to play tricks on us, but nothing to this extreme. If you have any doubts in your mind re been the dad, then demand a dna test. I have a friend who got one done and it proved he wasn't the dad. At least this way, when you have the result you will know once and for all and be able to get on with your life, whether is it with this girl and you work it out or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): Hormones or no hormones, it would get me thinking about DNA teasts as well if my missus behaved like this. No sane woman would say such things just to 'wind you up'.
Ask her for a list of potential fathers so that when the time comes you'll have some idea who ought to be paying the child maintenance and be hounded by the Child Support Agency.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 August 2008):
Well think about it... if someone injected you with a chemical that altered your body dramatically, and made you grow a 10lb living lump inside you, then you would expect that same chemical to have a side effect on your mind.
She is pregnant and hormones will make her MENTAL. It's really hard and makes no sense in evolutionary terms but I have heard of women really hating their husbands while pregnant, purely because they are off their faces on oestrogen.
It is highly unlikely that the baby is not yours but if it going to cause you to wonder for years and years then get a dna test. She is going to think it's bad of you to do that, but then again, she's MENTAL right now so she's going to not like it when you breathe.
Keep bringing her chocolate and telling her she's beautiful and wait for after the birth to talk about things properly.
Good Luck!! xx
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