I'm just not sure on how to proceed. I don't want to keep pestering him about what's going on.
Q. I'm 21 years old, he's 23. We've known each other since college, and he has graduated and I've left due to financial reasons. We didn't really start to hang out until I moved in across the street from him. At the time, I was casually seeing someone ...
A. 6 October 2008: My advice is not to contact him for a week or 2. If he hasn't contacted you by then you can try again. It could be that he's really busy and/or confused dealing with car insurance and what exactly you 2 have. On the other hand you could play up to... (read in full...)
I have been in a secret relationship with a man 15 years older than me for almost a year.
Q. I have been in a secret relationship with a man 15 years older than me for almost a year. It has all happened under the cover of a professional relationship, but with this intense undercurrent of attraction and innuendo. We never had sex or even ...
A. 6 October 2008: My advice would be to talk to him or e-mail him or text him and say that you're sorry for hesistating and you didn't mean to hurt him. You are invested in this relationship and would like to take it to the next level. Please contact you when/if ... (read in full...)
Confused about what he thinks of me?
Q. There is this guy I am interested in. He told me he misses me and stuff too. We met at this party couple months back! He lives in the east coast, and I in the west coast, and now he is visiting here for work. We had dinner the first day he was here, ...
A. 7 September 2008: I think you're stressing out a bit too much over this. He already had plans before he met you. It's unprofessional and rude to cancel on them. Think what if he had plans with you, well made in advance, and then cancelled on you. I don't think you'd ... (read in full...)
Friends or more?
Q. Long story cut short. I've known this guy for about five months now, we've talked really really often for the last three months {it's really rare we don't talk with each other at least once a day, and we usually call/IM each other about three or...
A. 8 July 2008: I think he might like you as more than a friend but I'm really confused with his g/f.
The don't have deep feelings for each other so it's a FWB but with a level of exclusivity. I don't really get this. . . To me it sounds like a relation... (read in full...)
Please help a girl who's out of practice at dating!
Q. I've basically been in and out of relationships for the past year or more. I've completely forgotten what its like to be single and start to date someone. At the same time, my old boyfriend was very hands on.. meaning that he would call me/text ...
A. 8 July 2008: I think it'll always depend on the person. Some people like frequent contact and others don't.
In my opinion, I'd say at least once a week but 2-3 should be ok if you guys have been seeing each other for a bit. From last Thurs, I think it's coo... (read in full...)
My male friend started play-fighting with me. I think he likes me, but should I tell him I like him?
Q. Recently one of my male friends has started flirting with me alot including play fighting, tickling and even cheekily slapping me on my bum! I also like him too but have not told him yet. Should I keep quiet or tell him I like him as I dont want to ...
A. 8 July 2008: I'm in a similar situation. This guy friend of mine is also a little flirty and sometimes there are these moments where I feel attracted to him and I think he is attracted to me.
I want to bring it up but at the same time I don't want to in case ... (read in full...)
I'm really self conscious about my black facial hair, what can I do about it?
Q. I'm 15 and I have quite abit of facial hair, and it is pretty obvious from up close because my hair is black, I jus recently got a boyfriend and I never get close enough incase he sees it, I'm really self-conscious about this, what can i do?...
A. 8 July 2008: Everyone everyone said is valid. You're options are pretty much:
1) Wax - temporary, kinda expensive. Can do it on your own or get it done at a salon.
2) Bleach - hair is still there but a lighter shade
3) Laser - permenantly removes hair but... (read in full...)
Do you think the fact that this guy knew all this means my ex still has feelings for me?
Q. Ok this has been playing on my mind and I could do with a bit of insight. Last weekend I went out in group which included my ex (we split up year and half but stayed friends) Some of the people we went out with were my ex's workmates that I had not ...
A. 28 June 2008: Since it's all second hand info from this guy, I don't know how trustworthy it is. But if you want to find out I'd say yeah, go for it. Start talking to him, see how he responds and take it from there. Maybe it'll lead to something again and maybe ... (read in full...)
I get this jealous streak when it comes to my older boyfriend! Is this because I'm inexperienced?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, and he is 8 years older than me (imonly 18). I find myself feeling jealous when he goes out, as i dont go out hardly ever, and i also get jealous because he talks to quite a few old friends- of ...
A. 28 June 2008: I understand this feeling having had it before and I have contradicting thoughts on this.
First it could be that it's your "intuition" and maybe you do have something to worry about.
But most likely you're just insecure. I'd suggest reading ... (read in full...)
Now 6 years later I'm paying the price.
Q. Hi everyone, this is gonna sound gross, but I have a lot of hair on my stomach and some in-grown hairs on my chest, I pluck them but its obvious that hair grows there, I also have hair that grows around my nipple and a few on my neck and chin. I ...
A. 28 June 2008: If you want to get rid of it forever, I'd suggest laser hair removal. it's expensive but it does remove the hair permenantly and will get rid of the spots where there are ingrowns. Research it a little. But once this hair is gone via laser removal ... (read in full...)
Does my ex really have a new girlfriend...? What do you think??
Q. Me and my bf broke up a couple of months ago. We have not spoken since. However, his best mate has told me that he has a new gf apparantly. But I dont know whether or not I should believe his friend because his friend lied to me so many times during ...
A. 28 June 2008: I don't think there's any real way you can know from the info given. Guys go clubbing if they have a g/f or not. And if they have one and do go clubbing, I'm sure they won't be together 24/7. I think the only way to find out is to ask your ex or ... (read in full...)
Do you think he cheated/left 'cos he couldn't take the insecurity anymore?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and were together for 18 months. He left his girlfriend of 7 years for me, who he's cheated on all the way through. He'd also cheated many times on his girlfriend of 5 years before that but dumped her for the next. He told...
A. 28 June 2008: I have no idea why he cheated on you and left you. I don't know him well enough to make a judgement call on that.
But considering his track record, I'd say yes he's probably going to cheat on her. I'm one that completely believes in second c... (read in full...)
Do I need to apply sunscreen in the evening?
Q. I have a question about sunscreen. Do I need to apply sunscreen spf 30 in the evening? Such as around 8:00pm and there is still a bit of sun outside. I usually excercise in the evening outside....
A. 24 June 2008: I'd say you probably don't have to but if you're worried it doesn't hurt to do it. If you applied around 5pm you'll probably be fine still.... (read in full...)
It's that time of year when the girls start exposing more flesh... Do they mind it when the boys start looking?
Q. It's that time of year in the northern hemisphere when girls' tops get a bit more revealing and boys start looking a bit more. So, sticking to the topic of hemispheres, how do girls feel when boys check out their boobs? Is it fun? Is more than ...
A. 10 June 2008: I agree. If girls are exposing that much skin they obviously want attention. Why would they wear mini-skirts then as opposed to shorts that are a few inches longer? But it's just impolite and disgusting to stare only at her boobs. ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into these signs? I am too shy to ask him out
Q. There is this guy in my college class and I think he may like me. Not 100% sure. The thing is, we have been in the same class for about 4 months now and he hasnt asked me out or anything. I dont know if thats cause hes shy, if hes taking his time ...
A. 18 May 2008: If you want to go out with me just ask him out! That's what I'd do. Otherwise you could just be waiting forever.... (read in full...)
I said I only wanted sex, and now she only wants friendship
Q. I am a Mechanical Engineer (graduated) who is in love with a MBA girl. I really love her a lot. But I recently did a blunder mistake. Actually her parents are very strict and she says they hate love marriages. But I hardly care about what her ...
A. 18 May 2008: That wasn't a good move at all. Perhaps you just did it to let her off "easily" but it completely ruins your image and reputation. If a guy sent me that msg I wouldn't trust him either. I don't know what you can do to make things better but I'm sure ... (read in full...)
We've been together for more than 10 years but I'm determined not to forgive his infidelity, what do you think?
Q. I found out my husband had an affair a year and a half ago. The only reason it's over now is because the other woman ended it. The whole thing lasted about a month. He was angry that she hurt him, not sure if he tried to win her back or anyt...
A. 18 May 2008: I agree. You've already said that you can't forgive him so to me it sounds like you've already made up your mind. I think now you need to decide what actions you want to take.... (read in full...)
I feel powerless about arguing about his other dates as I am just a friend... with benefits! How will these feelings go away?
Q. Im utterly in love with someone i know isnt going anywhere and never will, it started off as a one night stand two years ago and then a few more since then we have become the best of friends going everywhere together holidays to festivals constantly ...
A. 7 May 2008: It is difficult when you don't know anyone in the area. I also had that problem. I found turning to self help books very helpful, but that's not everyone's cup of tea. If you're able to go visit friends or have them come visit you then that will ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me very much but I got told that he cheated on me the night when my bestfriend died!
Q. I need major help. I have been with my Boyfriend For 4 years. And well a few weeks ago I lost my bestfriend. He died by drowing. "theres a Reason for this". The day b4 he died he told my bf"Treat her right, She's a good Girl". He laughed. And well ...
A. 5 May 2008: I'm still don't really get the drug part but the rest is a little clearer.
He sounds like a jerk to me. He's not being nice or respectful. If you really want to try to work things out, what I would do would be first to make a list of things y... (read in full...)
I can't stop cheating on him and I feel like a witch! He initiated the abuses, then convinced me not to leave!
Q. Ive been in a relationship for 5 years, with a man i thought was wonderful at first. I have a child with him and our own home. But since his father passed away, he spent everyday out with his friends, drinking after work. He had a major problem with...
A. 5 May 2008: I think you should look at yourself and decide what you want. Do you actually want to leave him or not?
If you really do, then maybe you should.
If you don't and you're just getting these thoughts when going out and drinking then you need to... (read in full...)
I feel powerless about arguing about his other dates as I am just a friend... with benefits! How will these feelings go away?
Q. Im utterly in love with someone i know isnt going anywhere and never will, it started off as a one night stand two years ago and then a few more since then we have become the best of friends going everywhere together holidays to festivals constantly ...
A. 5 May 2008: I agree with Daniel, if you can't handle it then get out of this.
He's already laid it out for you, you're friends with benefits and he's going to continue his current behaviour. I was/am in a similar situation where I'm in an "open relation... (read in full...)
How do you know if you're in the "friend zone" with a guy?
Q. how do you know if you're in the friend's zone with a guy?...
A. 5 May 2008: I'd just ask him to be certain.... (read in full...)
I think I am picking up her rich habits. Am I changing? What should I do?
Q. well to begin with i am a hard working teenager,because of my excellent grades i got into this prestigious university meant only for rich kids..when i first came to class i felt really lonely because i wasnt like any of the rich kids..but later on i ...
A. 5 May 2008: Do what you want to do. My suggestion is to self-assess yourself and see who you were before and who you are now. You must have changed if you notice it and your family does but actually pinpoint in what ways you have changed. After you've completed ... (read in full...)
My mom says my girlfriend is taking advantage of me. Is she right?
Q. ok so here is the deal.. my mom tells me my gf of 7 months now is taking advantage of me. in this short time she has given up her apartment in an attempt to move in with her dad but she is never at his house she is at my house 5 days out of the ...
A. 5 May 2008: I don't know if she's purposefully taking advantage of you. She could jsut not be aware of what she is doing. I think you should sit her down and have a talk. If she's a reasonable person she might realize what she's doing and either contritube more ... (read in full...)
What do you do after two break-ups and someone you love wants to try a third time?
Q. what do you do when someone you love a lot breaks up with you twice to be with someone else and then wants to get back together?...
A. 5 May 2008: I disagree with the people here. I don't think it's a cut and dry case and depends on the situation. I think that if you have both changed in such ways that the reason you broke up in the first place is gone and you both want to try again, then go ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me very much but I got told that he cheated on me the night when my bestfriend died!
Q. I need major help. I have been with my Boyfriend For 4 years. And well a few weeks ago I lost my bestfriend. He died by drowing. "theres a Reason for this". The day b4 he died he told my bf"Treat her right, She's a good Girl". He laughed. And well ...
A. 5 May 2008: Your post is a little confusing b/c of the wording. I don't really know what to say but if you could fix up the last paragraph at least please. But the one thing that I will comment on is "he can hang out with his friends but you can't hang out w... (read in full...)
How do I convince her she needs to grow up and work on this relationship with me?
Q. Dear Cupid.... I have been with the same woman for 4 years and we are still living with her mother If anyone out there knows how tough that can be I sympathize. I can never get her to admit when she has done something that hurt me because ...
A. 5 May 2008: My first question is are you actually age 18-21? And you've been together with this girl for 4 years? I can understand living with a parent at that age still. But otherwise, look at this objectively. I'm actually going to ignore everything excep... (read in full...)
I am in an open, long-distance relationship which I've screwed up!
Q. I've been seeing this guy and we've been long distance since September. We've decided to remain in an open relationship until I go back to his city at the end of May. I broke up with him about 6 weeks ago because it was too hard to handle but that ...
A. 23 April 2008: Yes, I agree with the condom statement. They definitely reduce the transmission of STDs but they aren't 100% effective. There are some STDs/STIs that condoms do not offer any protection for at all. He and some other people state that if you trust ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is getting a divorce, now is having second thoughts, he still loves his ex and me, what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9mths. When we were friends he was honest to tell me he was divorced (no kids) so when we got together it never crossed my mind again until November 07. He mentioned that he got a divorce letter so I got ...
A. 8 February 2008: To give another point of view, if you really want this guy (and he's not a dishonest guy, it's hard for me to tell from what you said) I think you should fight for him. I'm not sure exactly what you should do since I don't know him but I don't think ... (read in full...)
I call my boyfriend, but he doesn't call me anymore. Why?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend (fiance) for two years and we're good together you know? But recently he hasn't been calling me during the day I mean I don't work because I'm in college and he's in University. But he used to text or call when he ...
A. 30 January 2008: I don't think it's that big of a deal. Do you really need to talk to him every single day? Maybe he's really busy and tired so he sleeps in, wakes up late and then goes to school. I wouldn't worry about it unless it's been a week or so without any ... (read in full...)
We are long distance and I think he is cheating on me. Now he has asked me to marry him, what shall I do??
Q. Hey, I am very confused about what to do. I have been in a relationship with someone for the past five years. We are both in our 20s. He has cheated on me repeatedly. I went to work abroad 1 and 1/2 year ago but I would come back for summer holidays ...
A. 12 January 2008: I'm going through a somewhat similar situation. It's hard because you feel one thing but you think another. You know that this behaviour isn't acceptable and you don't like it but at the same time you care about this person very deeply and you don't ... (read in full...)
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