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writes:Me and my bf broke up a couple of months ago. We have not spoken since. However, his best mate has told me that he has a new gf apparantly. But I dont know whether or not I should believe his friend because his friend lied to me so many times during the time I was dating my ex bf.The thing is right, I've seen photos on facebook of my ex bf out clubbing...no females in sight at all!! And I saw him once out clubbing too and there was no gf around (but i didnt talk to him, as he didnt see me). When I was dating my ex bf, he told me that if you have a gf you shoudlnt go clubbing! And on the odd occasion we did go clubbing he wouldnt let me out of his site. So I am wondering, if he really does have a new gf. If so then how come there is no gf around when he goes clubbing? Do you think the friend is just making it up to make me jealous or something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am sorry if I didnt give enough info.
Yeh he was controlling, woudlnt let me go to places such as clubbing, so I lost alot of good friends as thats basically what most 19 years olds so every weekend. The rare occassion he would let me go, he wouldnt let go of me the whole night.
I guess I am wondering if he will treat her like he treated me. I took it pretty personally. I never thought of that until you mentioned it...
But also like I said before, the friend claims to be mine and he told me lots of things which I think were lies during the time I dated my ex, and I just want to know whats true and not, that way it will be easy to move on when I know what really happened type of thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Thanks for the update babes... It gives a little more insight into why your attached in this way. Controlling was he, you didn't get to go out. Maybe your right and he hasn't changed, you waiting to see how he destroys her life too, is that why your still so interested in him?... Tons of assumptions based on very few facts, but what the hell... Update here and tell me I'm wrong....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do understand people change, but i would find it hard to beleive that my ex would get over his controlling tendencies so easily.
when will i move on? good question...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Hi ms anonymous, the thing is, guys say a lot of things about what they will and won't do. But when their with somebody else and start loving them, they'll change their opinions a whole lot. When he was with you he was one person, now he's moved on and he's started to change into somebody else. My ex left 'cause I watched too much TV, his new girl loves TV even more than me, and guess what, yep! he loves TV too now that he's with her. He's moved on, when will you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEmber13 - i already wrote in my original post that my ex bf said he would never go clubbing when he has a gf, and on the odd occasion he did she would always have to be with him because he woudlnt want ANY other guy going up to her. so thats what made me suspicous.
and as for the friend trying to make me jealous, i dont show any jealousy, i do say thats really good for him etc. but he still says things.
DiovanLestat- i called him my ex bf's friend because they are way closer, and i am not sure if i can call him my friend even tho he says hes my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): You didn't mention that this guy was your friend in your post. I thought he was your boyfriend's friend. But it dosen't matter, you can believe him or not, it's your choice. But if your boyfriend dosen't have a girlfriend at the moment, he soon will. He may be young free and single now, but soon he'll find a new girl to love. Why do ou want to keep checking out his business and watch what he's doing. He's your ex, your relationship with him has finished. If you wait around, instead of getting on with your own life, one day you will see him and his girlfriend together and you will see what a waste of time this has been.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): Since you know this 'friend' has lied to you before, there's no point in hanging out with him because you can't trust him.
The real issue is, why do you care if your ex is dating again? If you want to get back together with him, instead of cyberstalking him, just contact him. If you can't do that, it's time to move on and stop tormenting yourself.
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reader, Ember13  +, writes (28 June 2008):
I don't think there's any real way you can know from the info given. Guys go clubbing if they have a g/f or not. And if they have one and do go clubbing, I'm sure they won't be together 24/7. I think the only way to find out is to ask your ex or stalk him for a bit (which I don't suggest).
But I agree with Flynn24, if he has one or not why should that affect you? If you're friend is saying all of this to make you jealous and he/she sees it's not working then he/she will probably stop mentioning it.
Next time your friend says something like " I saw your ex with his new g/f" or something like that just say, "cool. Good for him." or something similar. Don't let this bug you, it's insignificant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think it is my business to know if somoene is lying to me and purposly trying to hurt me, someone who claims to be my 'friend'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): Why is it your business if he does or doesn't?
It ceased being your business the moment the both of you broke up.
Go out and find yourself a new man.
Flynn 24
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