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writes:Hi, I've been with my boyfriend (fiance) for two years and we're good together you know? But recently he hasn't been calling me during the day I mean I don't work because I'm in college and he's in University. But he used to text or call when he woke up or sometime during the day. But now he doesn't call me. I call him. This started after he got seasonal work for christmas and I understood because he can't have his phone on during work and he's busy. But he isn't working these days and isn't even in University today but it's 6:30 PM and he has't called or texted once. Can anyone tell me any reasons for this? We don't live together and only see eachother on weekends its tuesday today... I spoke to him yesterday but only because I called him. This is really upsetting me and I'm not sure what's happenning. Can someone please give me some advice as to what to do? And any advice as t why this is happenning?I'm really upset and confused......
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): My boyfriend is actually doing the same thing to me. Everday we usually IM and talk on the phone. I realized that I'm always the one that make the first step to call or IM. Recently, he was interested in another person and since then everything has changed. Maybe your boyfriend has feelings for another person and is trying to deal with it. It hurts my feelings too. I've spent four hours online today trying not to IM him even though he has been on the entire time too. Makes me feel worthless and unloved. Maybe you should just ask him if anything is bothering him and see where it goes from there. good luck, i wish you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): I think he's just being lazy. Chances are when he got his seasonal job he felt a sort of freedom over not feeling obligated to call you every day. And now he's just continuing that behavior. He shouldn't feel obligated to contact you every day. He should do it because he wants to. After two years its not abnormal male behavior that he doesn't place a high value on your texts & phone msgs. Just let him know you'd at least like text msg each day or likewise ignore him like he does to you.
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reader, Ember13  +, writes (30 January 2008):
I don't think it's that big of a deal. Do you really need to talk to him every single day? Maybe he's really busy and tired so he sleeps in, wakes up late and then goes to school. I wouldn't worry about it unless it's been a week or so without any communication. I wouldn't like being with someone that HAD to talk to me every single day. Sure it's nice but sometimes I might be busy.
But if it's that important to you that you're freaking out over it then tell him. I also wouldn't worry about you calling him and him not calling you. Some guys just are lazy and don't like to take the initative. Or maybe he comes to expect that you'll call him. I don't know - those are just some hypotheses.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Don't hesitate to call him out on it. Gently tell him that its upseting you when he doesn't call or text. If he continues to not call or text, don't text or call him too. Wait till he gets a clue and calls you. If he doesn't after a week, then something's wrong. He's either losing interest in you or he's guilty about something.
Get to the bottom of the problem.
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