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writes:Ok this has been playing on my mind and I could do with a bit of insight. Last weekend I went out in group which included my ex (we split up year and half but stayed friends) Some of the people we went out with were my ex's workmates that I had not met before, but the guy who my ex is closest too seemed to know who I was as he asked me if I was the ex girlfriend.When I asked him how he knew that, he told me my ex had told him about me months ago and had also mentioned that I would be going out with them that night. He then asked me whether I still had feelings for my ex, and me being not exactly sober admitted that I do. He said he was gonna tell my ex but I begged him not to cause thought it would make things awkward. Then later on we were chatting and this guy said to me that my ex doesn't like the thought of anyone else being with me. I said why hasn't he told me this(he is actualy quite shy bout talking bout feelings and stuff) he said that I'm gonna have to be the one to initiate the conversation as my ex is not the kind of person to make the first move.This has been playing on my mind ever since and now I don't know what to do, it was my ex who broke up with me but it wasn't about any major issues like trust or anything and we stayed really gd friends, but now I'm thinking is it because he was the one who ended iti that's making it difficult to tell me that maybe he regrets it. if I'm honest I have had suspicions he still has feelings for me but wasn't sure if it was just me who was seeing it, the fact that some random bloke who I've never met before knew all this makes me realise that he must have talked bout me a fair bit to him.Neither of us have been with anyone else snce the split either. So what do you think I should do, do you think the fact this guy knew all this mean that my ex does still like me? and do you think I should slowly initiate this conversation? sorry this is so long, it's just I don't know what to do now--so any advice or imput wuld be very much appreciated,thanks!
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be +, writes (28 June 2008):
 I suggest you meet him somewhere, just you and him for a day out or something. During this meeting, mention that you spoke to this bloke and tell him what was said. He might deny having feelings for you, or he might not. If he doesnt, ask him. If he admits it is true, that's when you can admit to having feelings for him too
Just try and bring the subject up: perhaps you might be talking about this "party" and you could say you met this other guy, tell him what was said, etc. Dont seem too eager to get back into a relationship (if that's what you want), in case he doesn't and this other man was lying.
Just be careful how you introduce the subject, or thigs might go a bit wrong
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reader, Ember13  +, writes (28 June 2008):
Since it's all second hand info from this guy, I don't know how trustworthy it is. But if you want to find out I'd say yeah, go for it. Start talking to him, see how he responds and take it from there. Maybe it'll lead to something again and maybe not.
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