His ex is GORGEOUS so now I have massive insecurities! How do I stop obsessing about her?
Q. This is very juvenile but its been driving me nuts so I am going to ask for help anyway... I found my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends myspace profile the other day (I admit, I searched for it out of curiosity). And she is GORGEOUS. And smart. And funn...
A. 18 March 2008: hey stop it!
dont worry(:
dont try to compare yourself with his ex girlfriend
i mean
why do you worry?
its YOUR boyfriend now
he doesnt love her, he LOVES you! he accepts your body, he thinks you are beautiful, besides his last relationship do... (read in full...)
Does this prove anything?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. Ever since school has started this boy in my class has been flirting with me which I think is nice. But this is when he gets confusing, he's nice and flirty and then he gets gross. One time I was talking to my friend by my ...
A. 21 January 2008: make him stop
your body is private
he is not your boyfriend
make him respect you... (read in full...)
My son has been behaving sexually towards his sister, how do I handle it?
Q. Hi All, can someone please give me advice on the following: My 12 year daughter had left a note in her bedroom, which I found when I was cleaning her room, it said, Dear Mom, I think i'm pregrant with B...'s baby love S... This I asked her ...
A. 21 January 2008: that's a difficult situation
the best thing is to keep a really good communication with your daughter, dont lose it we need to know if your son continues... and about him you should send him to a psychologist now because he needs help goodluck... (read in full...)
What do you get for a new boyfriend for Valentines Day?
Q. I've been dating this guy a couple of weeks. We've known each other 6 months or so, so I do know his likes and dislikes well-ish. (He's into cars, BMW's, enjoys drinking and going out, quite into his appearance - meaning he likes to look good/do ...
A. 21 January 2008: you can buy him something good to drink (:
or you can make him something creative like a box
full of winner tickets!
the prizes: a kiss, a hug, a date to go to the movies, different stuff
or you can buy him something tipical like a box of ch... (read in full...)
Friends doesn't seem like enough...do I like him more than I thought??
Q. I have a male friend who told me last year that he liked me. It came completely out of the blue and i wasn't really sure how i felt so i spent some more time with him. The more i got to know him the more i liked him and we get on really well. He...
A. 7 December 2007: Give him a try (:
you are not losing anything
instead you are gaining something beautiful
yeaah yeah maybe you are not physically attracted to him
but you said being just friends is not enough
maybe theres something ?
let yourself be happy... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my fear of rejection?
Q. dear cupid i seem to have a major problem in asking girls out and cant seem to get myself to. i seem to have this fear of not being good looking (chek out myspace n tell me you think myspace.com/mohamed1991, but plz dnt post nothing ther if ...
A. 7 December 2007: well first of all
for women the looks are not that important
whats most importan is the personality
but first you need to have a LOT of confidence in yourself
that in this moment you apparently dont have...
to lose the fear of rejection go to a... (read in full...)
I'm falling for him, but I don't think he's interested. Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. dear cupid i am really stressing i have a really good friend that is a boy who i am starting to fall in love with more and more. but he has told me who he fancies and i asked if anyone else that he knew fancies me but he said no. he doesn't have ...
A. 7 December 2007: well if he doesnt like you then why are you going to stop a really good friendship...
my advice is just for a while try to seek someone else, look for other options and lets see how your friend reacts
if he gets jealous then you can tell him how ... (read in full...)
Love, what is it?
Q. What is the difference between saying "I love you" and "I am in love with you"? Is there a difference?...
A. 29 October 2007: I believe theres no difference, because its the same meaning just in different words.... (read in full...)
Is this normal or am I going mad?
Q. hi i was wondering if people had any advice. basically this guy asked me out and thats all cool but the only thing is that my mum is becoming so awkward when i talk about it. shes like who else are you going with? she dusnt realise its a date and ...
A. 29 October 2007: Hey ellie, well yeah, i had the same problem with my mum, it seems she doesnt quite understand you've grown up. Maybe you just need to have a serious conversation with your mum, make her understand you are going to have a date with a guy that you... (read in full...)
Help!, how can I tell if I'm a Lesbian?
Q. Okay, well here's the thing...I am having trouble with the fact that I don't know whether I am lesbian or not. I don't know how to put this all in words but, it seems that everytime I see a girl you would consider hot I automatically start thinking ...
A. 29 October 2007: Relax, dont be scared you are passing through a stage where everything seems so confusing! but hey dont worry, its common. My advice, give it a try with guys and girls. After that things will be clearer. Decide which one you like better, maybe yo... (read in full...)
Is this just an excuse?
Q. Ok so I met this girl at the beginning of the school year, and immediately fell for her. she apparently liked me too, so I asked her out. 5 days pass and I think shes avoiding me. that night she tells me shes not ready to get heartbroken again and ...
A. 29 October 2007: ok you should talk to her again, and get things clear
ask her if this heartbroken thing isnt an excuse to avoid you, if she tolds you is not, and you really like her, then wait. Maybe she really is scared to start something with someone new... s... (read in full...)
Part of me tells me not to risk it, but the other part tells me too.
Q. I've been talking to this wonderful girl. We seem to get along well and we seem to be attracted to each other. The thing is that we plan on getting together on Monday where I will be driving up to where she lives. The plan on is getting a room and ...
A. 26 October 2007: Talk to her and decide it together (:
it has a lot of complication to do it without protection
so think it twice
and dont take this decision by yourself..... (read in full...)
What are the signs that she likes me??
Q. Hi, I am at university and there is a girl i find attractive. We work together in practicals etc. Can anyone tell me signs that she may like me too?...
A. 24 October 2007: eye contact
touching you a lot
smiles
compliments
things like that (:... (read in full...)
My friend is depressed. What can I do?
Q. i have a friend. He is in love with this girl, they've been best of friends and one day, they decided to give it a shot. It went alright for awhile till she pulls out. It breaks his heart and he is sincerely sad. After a couple of weeks, they resume ...
A. 14 October 2007: the best you can do, is getting him out of there, go to some fun places like tommy7 says.
Go to drink, party, have a blast. DO things he likes, try to find another girl for him =)... (read in full...)
I want a girlfriend, but their not my age.
Q. I am 15 years old boy, who really wishes to have a girlfriend. I am 2 years behind in school though (Not because I am dumb, but because we moved allot), and am home schooled. Even if I would go to school, I wouldn't be able to have a girlfriend ...
A. 14 October 2007: yeah try to make friends you age (:
then you could go to parties and stuff like that
and i promised you will find girls there
try to go out with your neighbours or look for parties or places where you can think people of your age might be.... (read in full...)
My life is going nowhere fast - how can I become who I want to be?
Q. my life is so empty and i dont know how to fill it. who i am and who i want to be are worlds apart. im 22 and i dont have any friends, still live at home with my parents, i still have acne and my life is going nowhere. i want to be this like rea...
A. 14 October 2007: Ok, first of all you need to lose the fear of meeting new people! i think its an excellent plan to go working abroad next summer, it will help you to start you career and begin your life independently not with your parents anymore.
To be popu... (read in full...)
I am obsessed with my appearance!
Q. How do I learn to love how I look? I've struggled with my self esteem for most of my life. I hate my body and I hate my face. People do compliment me on my looks but I feel that they are probably lying for my benefit. I eat a very healthy diet and...
A. 14 October 2007: Think in how much time do you lose when you feel lonely an depressed about your body, instead of patying and having a blast. WHY you are not happy with who you are? you have people telling you that you are in fact beautiful, you have a boyfriend who ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, is it OK for me to loose my virginity?
Q. im 13 is it okay to loose my virginity im not sure can anybody help ?...
A. 13 October 2007: i believe you are too young to do it
besides, right know you should have fun with your friends doing other activities. Enjoy your age as much as you can and dont try to do other mature stuff just because someone is putting pressure on you.
remem... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid guys only want me for one thing.
Q. i want to be seen for myself and not eye candy! hi everyone sorry to just bombarde you with questions but i have a problem again. its like this mmkay, well i think i have a great personality but no matter what i always get told about my butt and all ...
A. 10 October 2007: Dont be paranoid, you will just have to live with it, because guys are like that... personality counts 20% and physics count 80%, but dont worry when you get into a serious relationship then, thats when your true self is going to count (: so right ... (read in full...)
Masturbation - is it common?
Q. ive always wondered, is it okay to masturbate? is it common or not? everyone goes round saying 'you're a wanker' etc. is this because everyone does it or am i a one off?...
A. 9 October 2007: its very common and theres nothing wrong with masturbation so dont worry.... (read in full...)
I am gay, should I come out of the closet?
Q. im gay, should i come out the closet? my parents are VERY homophobic. just yesterday they saying how being gay is such a waste....
A. 9 October 2007: if you are gay you should not be embarresed from this...
because its something natural, very common.
maybe your parents are not very open minded but eventually they will figure it out that you are gay so its better to hear it from you. The sooner y... (read in full...)
I'm a geek. What do girls like in teens?
Q. i was wondering, im a bit of a geek in my school. you know, small, fat, unconfident? im getting better confidence, more people are liking me but i want a girlfriend. i was wondering, what is it you girls like at early teens? how should i get a ...
A. 9 October 2007: men: physical = 80% personality = 20%
women: physical = 20% personality = 80%
dont make the mistake that almost all men make thinking that just because they are not very good looking or they dont have money that they do not deserve ... (read in full...)
Someone who abused me transfered to my college and is starting again.
Q. i am 16 years old with a boyfriend of 18 and we are very much in love. i have clinical depression (external) and my boyfriend is a great support for me , i was bullied all the way through highschool and they made my life even more of a misery than ...
A. 9 October 2007: You should stop letting her control you.
you need to be stronger and let her know you are not the same girl of high school, you have changed and now you will not let her dominate you, she has no right to intrude in your life.
she needs to sta... (read in full...)
Do women find short men attractive?
Q. Ok, I read the one about the lady asking a good question about whether men find tall women attractive. Well, I admit it, I prefer short women,but, for a good reason, I'm short myself! I'm only 5'4. So, my question is exactly the opposite. Do women ...
A. 3 October 2007: to begin
women are not that superficial
at first
yes... they like taller guys
but that doesnt mean you dont have a chance
because women are actually looking for a guy's personality
so it doesnt matter if you are tall or short
good luck ... (read in full...)
Having a gay relationship with my cousin but don't want to break our families' hearts, I'm not even sure I'm a lesbian!
Q. Hi, Last week I finished with my boyfriend because i dont love him anymore. I have been going out clubbing with my girl cousin and she is a lesbian. I've recently started fancying her and i told her how i felt on a friday then she told me she has ...
A. 3 October 2007: i guess you can be bisexual
dont be ashamed of your orientation
its a good thing to be open..
about the thing with your cousin
i dont know how it works for you
but its your cousin
you shoudnt do anything with her.. =S
i believe
and a... (read in full...)
My oldest brother sexually abused me and left scars on my body. I want to tell someone, but I don't know if I could handle it.
Q. This may end up being rather long so i apologise in advance - its just tht i hav never really spoken about it in detail and i need help before it consumes me I think i was about 11 or so when it happend am not sure but i kno i was still in junior ...
A. 25 September 2007: i guess the best thing it to stop blocking that memory, you need to ask for help in some clinic.
that way, you would be much better emotionally.
Next step is to tell your parents or someone
because it seems like your brother needs help and h... (read in full...)
It's so easy for people to say "Just be yourself!" BUT I CAN'T! I'm only like this with girls, though!
Q. Ok, where do I start? I feel so insecure about everything lately. Well most things. For example if I am around other girls I find it hard to engage in a conversation while being myself. Honestly I love my personality and I think I am a great person ...
A. 25 September 2007: i lost my best friend too, because i had to move..
and it was hard at the beggining because ihad to made new friends... aand you know at first i was very shy and quiet
but with time i started to show my true self and now i have many friends... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy to never date anyone but one person in your life?
Q. I have a question... Is it unhealthy to never date anyone but one person in your life? Let me explain.. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and we love each other very much. I never dated, kissed, or made love with anyone else ...
A. 6 September 2007: there are many guys out there and maybe your friends are right, how do you know your boyfriend is the one? If you dont know what's out there? You don't even know what you really need Don't misunderstand me, if you are truly happy with your boyfri... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to be a step mother?
Q. Any advice on how to be a step mother? My husband-to-be has a kid from his previous marriage. I don't have any kids myself. Is there anything I should be aware of in order to have a good relationship with my husband and his kid? (He doesn't live ...
A. 6 September 2007: just try to be sweet and respectful its hard for a kid to find his dad with someone who is not his mom. so dont ever try to be or look like his mom. just be cool, maybe he cand find in you like a escape, like the great step mother who ... (read in full...)
He's a major flirt! It's very frustrating!
Q. What to do? Should I ask him to leave? We've been married for nearly twenty years and have two doting children. But you can bet that almost every holiday we have ends up in frustration and near separation, because of his prolonged eye-contact with a ...
A. 30 August 2007: the happiness of your children comes first and if this situation is affecting the hole family dont think it twice you better start looking for a divorce but first try to see if you can fix the problem the thing is.. that man are like... (read in full...)
I asked her to the cinema but she hasn't called or txt? Why not???
Q. I asked a girl to the pictures. She's a good mate of mine. She said she'll tell me next week. She said she'll ring otherwise i should ring. It's thursday and she hasn't! Why not? She seems happy and up for it, but i'm unsure whether i should call ...
A. 30 August 2007: You need to believe in yourself and like Frank B says she is NOT your everything! call her maybe she is not so sure about the date but if you call her and you both feel comfortable obviously you will go to the pictures together good luck... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me ideas about how not to screw things up when I'm dating a woman?
Q. I was at a party at the weekend and I saw this girl I fancied. I was so close to asking her out but my mind kept saying "no don't do it." The reason for this is that, last March, I had my one and only girlfriend (well a date) and we went out on t...
A. 17 August 2007: the best and only way to get the approval of a woman is
to never
need it
and therefore seek it in the first place.
good luck (:... (read in full...)
Are we too young to be engaged?
Q. Im 16 my boyfriend is 17 we have been together a while now and are very much in love. We are considering moving in together at the start of next year. We were talking last night and he said next time we go shopping he wants me to point out some ...
A. 17 August 2007: i believe you are still very young to get married,
yeah maybe you are really in love, but what if you get married and in 4 years its not the same and you want to have fun and date other guys but you cant because you are already a wife with man... (read in full...)
How can I attend art college without being near anyone?
Q. I'm a shut-in. I am 19 years old. I sleep during the day. I would like to get a life, but I can't even handle a part time job. I have never had a friend. How can I attend art college without being near anyone?...
A. 11 August 2007: dont feel like that
you cant continue to live the way you do
dont you wwant to have friends, fall in love and things like that?
in life you will find many obstacles along the way
but you cant let your fears ruin your life
you have to be st... (read in full...)
I feel left out.
Q. In going into my final year at school in september and all my friends are getting into relationships except me. what is wrong with me why am i so unattractive. iv only ever had one boyfriend and that was when i was in yr 7. i recently when on ...
A. 11 August 2007: first of all you have to change that attitude how do you want a guy to like you if you dont even like yourself? then thats where the problem is.. you are young and pretty about the thin thing.. dont worry those are only tendencies of mag... (read in full...)
I have a problem with my family accepting the fact that I am growing up and have a boyfriend.
Q. I have a problem with my family accepting the fact that I am growing up and have a boyfriend. I am 20 years old and a rising sophomore in college who attends a good college in my neighborhood. My parents are having what seems like quite a difficul...
A. 11 August 2007: that situation has to stop because if not, they will continue controlling your life till the end of it. you are mature enough to take your own desicions. your parents are wrong but they cant see it, because they feel they are only protecting yo... (read in full...)
I was raped when I was 7, I'm now 12 and it's ruining my life.
Q. Okay this is how it is: I was raped when I was 7, I'm now 12 and you see it's ruining my life because the thing is I have nightmares about that time all the time so I stay up all night... then I'm late for school and don't concentrate properly...
A. 11 August 2007: first of all, you have to try to learn, to love yourself. you have to accept yourself so others can. i cant imagine your pain or your nightmares it must be terrible. but there are things in life, fears that you have to get through. i k... (read in full...)
I feel left out.
Q. In going into my final year at school in september and all my friends are getting into relationships except me. what is wrong with me why am i so unattractive. iv only ever had one boyfriend and that was when i was in yr 7. i recently when on ...
A. 11 August 2007: i totally understand your feelings! because sometimes i feel the same way you do! and first of all theres nothing wrong with you ok? self steem is very important (guys like that) ;) so just try to have fun, be with your friends, laugh, enjoy li... (read in full...)
I left him a message 5 days ago and he hasn't got back to me, I feel silly; what should I do now?
Q. ok following advice about this guy i would like to be friends with he works around the corner from me we always smile and say hi blah blah, well i did want to follow the advice and just ask him out for a friendly drink but i just couldnt do it so i ...
A. 10 August 2007: congratulations for being brave!
now..
dont feel that bad because he hasnt called,
because thats the way life goes, they are going to be a lot of ups & downs
so dont feel sad if this means a no.
feel happy because you were brave eno... (read in full...)
For all young women
Q. This is a true story of love and lost. When I was 12 years old I met this 15 year guy he was very handsome he had the whole package, my parents loved him, his parents loved me, we spent every minute together, we dated for 4 years before we ever had ...
A. 10 August 2007: you were very brave by having your kid at 16 years old, thats wonderful.
hope you are having a great life with your husband and your kids.
thanks for the article.
... (read in full...)
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