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writes:im 13 is it okay to loose my virginity im not sure can anybody help ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Abbeigh +, writes (26 November 2008):
Im 14 and just recently lost my virginity. My answer to you would be wait until you meet the right person because you will probably enjoy it more and there is really no need to rush. That is the one thing i regret.
And hun you will get adults on here saying oh dont be silly your only 13 you dont understand and saying its illeagal.
But remember you only live once live the way you want to :D!
All the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): No on a legal baisis its not okay, but its your choice, im 13 and i plan on loosing my virginity soon, maybe in a few weeks and tbh. im not even in a relationship with the guy, we just got talking and hes perfect for me, just be sure you find someone like that, someone you can trust and make sure you use protection, age doesnt matter really, its up to you, goood luck! (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): No your way too young! wait till you love someone and older and can handle that type of thing!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Hey guys, this is an older thread, as you'll note if you check the original question date, so I doubt the original poster is still reading it. But let me add this useful link anyway.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-really-ready-for-sex--.html
So that future readers may have the benefit of this good article.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): No darling it's not ok. There are so many reason's why it's wrong for you to loose your virginty that I don't know where to start. Over and over I read stories of young girls like you who are scared and frightened because they had sex and are worried that something went wrong.
Girls scared about catching diseases, girls scared their pregnant, girls scared because their boyfriend had sex and now dosen't love them anymore. I also hear stories from women, who become ashamed because they had sex young, and now their husbands don't love them or respect them anymore.
Sex is a beautiful thing, but it's best done by adults who know how to protect themselves, are doing it for the right reasons, with a partner who loves and cares about them. Your virginity should be a very important thing to you. You only loose it once, and it should be done in circumstances that makes you smile and be happy. This rarely occurs when your so young. Wait untill your older and loosing your virginity will be a memory to make you smile.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Hell No! of course its not a good idea. Why would you want to, its that, that beats me. Virginity not just some gross inconvienience (sorry if i spelt that wrong) to get rid of as soon as you can. The first time should be with a person that you love. And I could go on Honey, but its just not a good idea.
Wait a while longer XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): i just lost my virginity last night,im 15 and i was drunk,mistake on my part
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): I understand that you maybe very curious about sex but sweety your 13 and trust me you're just not ready. I lost my virginity when I was 14 to a boy that was 19 whom im met in highschool and didn't know he was really that old. I was a stupid freshman that fell for that a$$hole and he hurt me so bad and messed up my whole life. Everything changed when I started having sex, my grades began to slip dramatically, I started lieing to my mom, I started cutting school and class, and I started hating myself. He would cheat on me and make me feel horrible about myself. After him I slept with 7 other guys because everytime I felt lonely some new guy would come and sweep me off my feet and I'd sleep with them or almost sleep with them. I got pregnant by a 25 year old man,who told me he was 18,when I was 15 and I had an abortion. It was the day after my 16th birthday I was barley 16. He took me to the clinic and waited outside in his car for me. I was in the clinic for a long time. When I asked to see the baby(which was the worst mistake in my life) I realized how beautiful it was and didn't want to go through it anymore. So I left the clinic and went down to his car and told him we were having a girl and he said" why are u telling me that for". He made me go back upstairs and told me to finish what I started. I went through with it although I didn't want to and when it was over I went downstairs and he wasn't there he left me in the clinic which was far from my house. Luckily I had $100 dollars left over from my birthday money so I took a cab home and had to pay 50 dollars 2 get home. When I got home I ordered dominos because I was so weak and hungry. It came up to 35 dollars so all I had left from my birthday money was $15. I had 500 but I spent it buying presents for him and my family since christmas was 5 days away and that was all the money I had. Not only did I get pregnant, je gave me and std, which luckily 4 me was curable.Now I have a boyfriend who is amazing but I have problems trusting him cause of all the things I've been through..sweety you have your whole life ahead of you. Trust me be patient and if you do decide to go through with it choose carefully and be safe.....xoxoxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): Ok, personally, I Think you are too young, but i cant say you scant loose it, you can if you want, but im 14, and dont plan on losing my virginity for a while yet. i want to get my life sorted out before i have sex. You dont want other girls who are still virgin to think you are a slag, and no, you aren't "cool" if you lose your virginity to a really hot guy, Ok? only do it if it feels RIGHT, and if the guy is pressuring you into it, tell him straight; that you would rather wait for someone who cares for you and doesnt care when you have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): I can only give you advice based on my experience I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20 and it was really good that I waited that long. I waited until I met a guy who treated me very well, and cared for me and it's doubtful that the guy you'd be with is mature enough to be there for you. If something goes wrong with him you will regret it for a long time and you can never take it back. This experience may damage your heart and sexual health for a long time. Most people who I know who had sex at a young age are still dealing with the mental consequences (they are insecure, or don't know how to have a relationship that isn't based on sex, I know a girl who regretted her first time so much that she couldn't do it again for 5 years.)
I can't tell you what to do, but if you do it, make sure it is your decision, and that it is not influenced by what you think is expected of you. You always have the right to say no, even naked in the bed, if it doesn't feel right.
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reader, sweetnsoursauce +, writes (16 October 2007):
 I can't tell you not to lose your virginity at this age, but I can at least advise you to think about it. I would only have sex with this person if you wanted to have a serious relationship with them. I can tell you that I lost my virginity at 14, and after the guy dumped me (I had been dating him for 6 months by that time) I regretted losing my virginity to him. I still deeply regret what I did. Think about it before you do anything you will regret.
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reader, Tellme +, writes (14 October 2007):
It's up to you, but your virginity is something special- you only lose it once. To be able to offer it to the man you marry someday is priceless. I know a lot of people who regret not being able to offer up something so precious. You are an amazing and unique person (don't let anyone tell you otherwise), so feel free to enjoy being a teenager. There's no rush (I'm a 20 yr old virgin and proud of it). There's that one special fella that you'll find someday- save it for him, and you.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (14 October 2007):
 remember its illegal until your sixteen, and by the sounds of it your not ready if u need to ask us, and doubting yourself. i lost mine at fourteen and have regretted it ever since...just think more before you do anything i do think you shouldnt do it yet though
sparkii x
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reader, keely-h +, writes (14 October 2007):
 anything under 16/15 is slutty i adivise you to wait and think of what your class mates will say please re think this
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (14 October 2007):
 The fact your asking us our advice on when the right time to lose your virginity is leads me to think that your really not ready, you should wait till you know that its right for you when you know you will know, just remember when you do deiced to have sex be careful use a condom and never let anyone force you into something your not ready for!
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reader, theoc_biggest_lover +, writes (14 October 2007):
 I think, personally, you are a bit too young. Be happy with your life, wait, for now. I'm sure you will be a lot happier if you wait til later in life,no I'm not saying, wait til you're 35 to have sex. But wait you are more mature, and be able to be glad you waited..
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reader, dont_worry +, writes (13 October 2007):
 i believe you are too young to do it
besides, right know you should have fun with your friends doing other activities. Enjoy your age as much as you can and dont try to do other mature stuff just because someone is putting pressure on you.
remember its your life and YOU decide, but my advice is that you should wait because its not the right time yet, good luck (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): No, if you have to ask us Aunts if it's okay...that means you are too indecisive and far too young to make this very serious decision. So don't do it. When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to remember: one, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to wait until you're totally sure about it. If you decide to put off sex, it's OK - no matter what anyone says. Being a virgin is one of the things that proves you are in charge of you, in charge of your life. And it will show that you are powerful enough and mature to make your own decisions about your mind and body. Be strong and use your head, hun Good luck
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (13 October 2007):
 If you seriously have to ask then you know the answer is no. you are too young and you shouldn't be in hurry to loose your virginty. want to know why the teenage pregnancy rate is always going up - because not enough girls question their maturity, if they did they would realise they are too young to smoke, drink, drive, vote and defo too young to have sex. asides from anything else, there is far too much hype surrounding it anyway.
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reader, x-wanttobehappy-x +, writes (13 October 2007):
 hi.. well i lost my at 14, it your choice when you want to do it..
but make sure you feel ready and be carfull
do it because you want to do it not because you feel pressured into doing it
hope that helped..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): Gona agree with flower girl, you should wait and have ur first time with some you really care about and it is illegal to have sex under the age of 16!
Good Lucky CheesyA. XoX
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reader, flower girl +, writes (13 October 2007):
 I know there are going to be some people that will disagree but i am going to say i think you should wait and thats because i was about the same age when i did and to this day and i am nearly thirty i wish i had waited, believe me there is nothing all that great about it at that age babe and i think it's far better to wait until you are older and in a loving relationship.
Take care.xx.
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