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writes:I asked a girl to the pictures. She's a good mate of mine. She said she'll tell me next week. She said she'll ring otherwise i should ring. It's thursday and she hasn't! Why not? She seems happy and up for it, but i'm unsure whether i should call her. I always think why cant she? I cant just forget about it, i love her to bits, without her even knowin i do. She's my everythin. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): im 15 and if i was the girl in this situation id feel nervous about calling you and hope that you would call first, so id say call her and ask if she is still on for the cinema, pick a movie you heard is meant to be exelent (id advise the simpsons movie! its hilarious!)
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reader, Juliet  +, writes (30 August 2007):
Frank B Kermit makes a great point, she wants you to go the extra mile! like you, she probably doesnt want to come across too strong.If you cant forget it, which i think you shouldnt, as she likes you as a mate, and said yes to going, you have to do something! I think you only live once, and you can only succeed if you try! Its always harder regreting the things you didnt do! At least if it doesnt work out, you will know you tried, and can say "ah well", instead of the "what -ifs" !! Send her a text or call her causally, dont bring up the fact that you made arrangements,just chat about other stuff if you call, or if you text ask her out straight. like " Hey, fancy going to see bla film, its meant to be crap, so it should be a good laugh ;0) " or etcbest of luck,xx
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reader, dont_worry  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 You need to believe in yourself and like Frank B says she is NOT your everything!call hermaybe she is not so sure about the datebut if you call her and you both feel comfortableobviously you will go to the pictures togethergood luck (:
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Firstly, she is NOT your eveything. That kind of devotion must be earned, and if she does not even call you back, that is NOT earning being your "everything". It is this kind fo neediness that will scare her off if you keep it up.
Next, you are the man, it is your job to pursue. She said that if she does not call you, for you to call her. She wants to see if you would go the extra mile...the emotional need here is fear of abandonment.
Now IF she keeps this attitude up, then you have to consider that you simply are not important enough to her...thus you making her your everything is the WRONG impression to be making.
Call her to set the date, and if she flakes, she is out.
-Frank B Kermit
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