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writes:I've been talking to this wonderful girl. We seem to get along well and we seem to be attracted to each other. The thing is that we plan on getting together on Monday where I will be driving up to where she lives. The plan on is getting a room and having sex. The problem is that I have been thinking and fantasizing about this time with her and in my mind I'd like it to be unprotected. I know about all the risks involved and am aware that she could end up pregnant but in my mind I wouldn't mind that and would take responsibility for my actions. Is this bad? Should I not go there? Ugh, I'm just perplexed because part of me says I shouldn't risk anything, but the other part of me says to go for it. any help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): What about her feelings towards this. She might consider you a careless idiot and you might not even get as far as sex. Or is she not allowed an opinion. You need to talk to her but don't be suprised if she dumps you.
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reader, dont_worry +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Talk to her and decide it together (:
it has a lot of complication to do it without protection
so think it twice
and dont take this decision by yourself..
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 hi.
the dangers of having unprotected is really a bad idea, sorry to say that pregnancy is not your only problem, i am not saying anything about your girlfriend, because i do not now her,the worst thing that can happen is that you may pick up a STD, some are very painful and you would need months of treatment to clear them, the bad news there are two or more STD that do not have a cure and after a period of time can and will kill you, it is great fantasizing, some times i do that myself, but you must also see the dangers you face in real life,i would wear condoms just for your own peace of mind and safety.
If you know this girl reasonably well, and now she does not have a great hairy husband that could cause you a great deal of damage,then maybe you should go for it.
hope this has helped you,be safe, take care.
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Just one sided. I'd be protected. It's so easy for guys to say, I don't mind, but we also don't carry for 9 months, get fat, go through morning sickness, and have the pain of childbirth.
It's not fair to put her at risk.
You really don't know what's involved in taking responsibility.
I paid child support for 3 children. Now I don't pay as much, because all but one are living with me. But in one year I paid, $17,000 in child support and $4,000 for insurance.
I know the minimum for one child will run you anywhere from $2,400 not including insurance. Depending where you work, they order the business to set you up for insurance. Some you have to take out a family plan which runs at low $90 every two weeks to hundreds every two weeks.
Are you ready for that. It's required if you take that risk and a baby comes along. Don't get me wrong, I love my children to death, but if I had a choice now, I would have done things a bit different than I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): How long have you all been talking? And if the answer is "not very long," then you need to consider that this girl may have done this with other men. If that is so, having unprotected sex with her may not be a good idea. It's better to be safe than sorry! You never know what you're getting into so in my opinion, it would be better to take it slow and use a condom the first time. THen, if the relationship develops, you can have unprotected sex asmuch as you want! Just get to know her first. The sex will last a short time, but babies and (some) STDs last a lifetime!
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