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writes:i have a friend. He is in love with this girl, they've been best of friends and one day, they decided to give it a shot. It went alright for awhile till she pulls out. It breaks his heart and he is sincerely sad. After a couple of weeks, they resume their initial friendship. She knows he loves her and she often uses this selfishly to her emeotional advantage. My friend is patient,. thinking he is given a 2nd chance and half a loaf is better than none.He figures he can , in time, slowly win over her heart. she has been with an abusive ex fiancee for years till it's over. They have a kid togther. The ex fiancee no longer loves her, he uses her pure for sex and throws her away like a used condom after. She keeps coming back to him. My friend is aware of all these and comforts her. She runs to him for comfort.He was recently diagnosed with testicular cancer. He reckons he foesn't have much time left. Once again, she breaks his heart by suddenly cutting off contact. My friend is depressed. Pls advice.
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reader, thewiseman  +, writes (14 October 2007):
 wow. what a sad sad scenario. maybe you should sit down with him and tell him as a friend that she is not worth his time. she obviously has no complassion for your friend and she has just thrown him out like hes nuthin. It breaks my heart to see such a nice man have such a horrible condition for his age and not have a person that is by his side to call his love. But I really think it would be worth a shot if you tell him that she is never coming back and he should move on and enjoy what litle time he has left. I hope this helps.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (14 October 2007):
 hi
I would like to say how sorry i am about your friends medical condition,the relationship you are talking about is a loose loose situation, for one reason or another an abused woman who has a child with an abuser, will never leave the abuser, i do not know why, but it always seems to work out that way, your friend needs to let her go and not bother with her any more, all he is doing is making a bad situation worse for him self, and because he may not be around for as long as he hoped all the stress that he is going through may affect his medical condition, he really needs to stay away from this woman She could be a Danger to him,i now this may seem harsh to you, but i once dated or tried to date a woman under identical situation a few years ago and a few of this blokes friends ended waiting for to come home one night,i ended up in hospital for a couple of weeks, you do not want to see your friend go through that its very painful, please try to convince him that this is wrong, he is not getting the love and affection he really needs in his live right now i hope you find my reply useful, good luck
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reader, dont_worry +, writes (14 October 2007):
 the best you can do, is getting him out of there, go to some fun places like tommy7 says.
Go to drink, party, have a blast. DO things he likes, try to find another girl for him =)
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (14 October 2007):
A good friend would go with him to places where he can have some fun and talk about pleasant things. Give him a few happy hours.
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reader, ohwoesme +, writes (14 October 2007):
So, It sound's like your friend is lucky to have you to comfort him. I think the best advice for your friend would be to take care of himself and focus on his family and friend's if he doesnt have his health he should be focusing on enjoying the time he has..maybe you could get his mind off of this girl and talk to him about other thing's and make him go out and enjoy life..with a good friend..because from what you have wrote..it sound's like you his good friend...expecially if they have told him he doesn't have time left I mean that's serious and I would want to see a friend like that smiling and reminising and not giving up hope with good thought's and good thing's and memeories to think about..
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