Can I get help to pay my mortgage?
Q. i hope someone can give me some advice my husband has just left me with two children and a mortgage to pay i have just started the process of claiming income support and council tax benefit but i can not seem to find out if i can get any help any ...
A. 10 November 2006: You are doing all the right things to get income support and other benefits but to find out all your entitlements its best to get in touch with your local Citizens Advice Bureau. The counsellor who takes on your case will tell you exactly what you ... (read in full...)
Is this true about child support in Florida?
Q. I live in Florida, and my mom has been saving up all my Child Support Checks and put them in an account. I heard that once you're 18 the money unused by the parent, gets handed down to the child? Is this true?...
A. 10 November 2006: This is one of those Chinese Whispers that gets distorted each time someone repeats the story. The best way to find out the actuall facts is by calling the Child Support Unit and asking them what the ruling is.... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but he can't accept it! Do I just ignore him? Any suggestions?
Q. Iv just finished with my lover about a month ago because it wasn't going anywhere and we wanted different things in life and for some bizarre reason he wont accept it.He keeps txting me and asking when we can meet up again and have a coffee? or he ...
A. 10 November 2006: Rejection is the most bitter sweet sensation in the world and when it happens to you, all you can think of is getting that persn back on your side and into your life.
Meet him on neutral ground to 'talk" but invite a friend to join in as witness ... (read in full...)
Whe they like me I don't like them. When they reject me...I want them!! What's wrong with me?
Q. hi there i dont know what is up with me im young and attractive but i have a problem with men If a guy likes me alot and is 'over keen' then i dont like them usually...but when they go off me i want them back I get very very very attached, al...
A. 10 November 2006: My! my! you're a bundle of insecurity and baby girl charm. The reason why you get pouty with the guys you dont want is because they are making the effort and chasing you. Somewhere along the line, you were spoiled rotten by your parents and were ... (read in full...)
She wants sex all the time! But I don't enjoy it as much as she does. Is this normal?
Q. This girl I am seeing likes to have sex a lot. We do it maybe every other day. I was a virgin when I met her but I've never liked the sex we've had. Is this normal. I feel I have a better orgasm when I masturbate than when we're doing it. ...
A. 10 November 2006: Bless! she has read in a magazine somewhere that giving your man sex anytime, any place, anywhere is sexy and cool. If you actually sat down and talked she would admit that she thought thats what you wanted from her. Tell her its a bit like eating a ... (read in full...)
Shall I mix work with pleasure with work at the xmas party!?
Q. Hi, I really like this guy at work, we sometimes chat when we see each other on breaks etc and on e-mail, I have just found out he is single, what should I do next? We have a Christmas Party coming up in 5 weeks, should I wait until then as I don't ...
A. 10 November 2006: Statistics have proved that most people find their life partners through work relationships. I sense the attraction between you is mutual so go for it and turn it into more than coffee breaks and emails buddies. The xmas party will put the seal on ... (read in full...)
He is going to break up with his GF for me but I'm just not sure of his intentions...
Q. So there is this guy i have been talking to and he says he likes me but now he has a gf. Whenever my friends ask or he asks he says he doesnt like me and he doesnt want to start any drama so thats y he doesnt say i like her aswell. Yester...
A. 10 November 2006: Darlin' you're deluding yourself if you think he is going to dump his girlfriend and start a meaningful relationship with you. He wont dump her but if he can keep you hanging on a wing and a promise and have you as his bit on the side, that is what ... (read in full...)
He is going to break up with his GF for me but I'm just not sure of his intentions...
Q. So there is this guy i have been talking to and he says he likes me but now he has a gf. Whenever my friends ask or he asks he says he doesnt like me and he doesnt want to start any drama so thats y he doesnt say i like her aswell. Yester...
A. 10 November 2006: Darlin' you're deluding yourself if you think he is going to dump his girlfriend and start a meaningful relationship with you. He wont dump her but if he can keep you hanging on a wing and a promise and have you as his bit on the side, that is what ... (read in full...)
He's dumped me but still wants to be friends... what do I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and yesterday we agreed to split up because he was saying he doesnt love me like he should and that it doesnt feel like a relationship anymore, he said he loves me like a friend and our relationship ...
A. 9 November 2006: I sense he loves you as a person but is just not into you sexually. Stay friends as its nice to have someone to cuddle and have as an escort for going to places with. he could turn into your best friend if you stop wishing for him to be your lover ... (read in full...)
I cant come inside my girlfriend...why?
Q. iam 30, and masturbate almost daily for past 16yrs. problem is dat i find it very difficult to cum in my girl. been dating her for 4yrs. she disvirgined me. she has to suck my nipple while i make luv to her b4 i may cum. why? i need your help. t...
A. 9 November 2006: The best way to come inside your girlfriend is to sit on a hard back chair, get her to sit on your hard penis and let her ride you while you sit still. It always works so give it a try.... (read in full...)
I love him soooo much! But he dumped me and I feel guilty..how can I get him back?
Q. I love my ex boyfriend SOOOOOOO much , everyone has told me that he loves me , and the only reason he dumped me was cos he thought i didnt love him ! =S .. its been a couple of months now ... i feel so guilty ,, and annoyed at myself cos i love him ...
A. 9 November 2006: That love yoiu felt for him made him feel suffocated and he felt he couldnt cope with it. I dont know why you feel guilty but Idont think you and he will get back as in hiis mind I sense he felt it was just too much for him. let him go because in 6 ... (read in full...)
How can you make an orgasm last longer
Q. How can you make an orgasm longer ?? ...
A. 9 November 2006: You eke out the foreplay as long as you possibly can. Do a lot of stroking, licking, massage and hold back each time you feel the need to orgasm and have a little shudder but mentally switch off for a second or two. You can keep it going this way ... (read in full...)
My friend suffers from cancer but I think she is taking my help for granted...
Q. My friend Mary suffers from cancer I always try to be supportive and helpful and even change plans to cheer her up and be with her. Now I notice she takes me for granted and that when she's got entertanining things to do with other friends she's ...
A. 9 November 2006: I know you feel good,kind and useful to a sick friend BUT you have become a doormat. Time to get assertive and start doing what makes you feel good. Make other plans and only see her when you feel you want to. Her illness is not your cross to bear. ... (read in full...)
We both cheated in the past but should we put it behind us and get together?
Q. i am 18 she is 17 and save me form being stuped i bin going out with a gf for 4 1/2 months,we live 2 hour apart and see every week or so and more when it was summer we stay over each over for 2 days.but two night ago we broke up as we love each ...
A. 9 November 2006: You're soooooo young and enjoy the breaking up and makingup more than learning tolove each other as people. You cheated because it was a way to make each other angry and then get the making up. Thats the best part isnt i because when u make up, it ... (read in full...)
My BF isn't very well endowed...what sexual position is best?
Q. Hi i am wondering what is the best sexual position for my boyfriend who isnt that much endowed.. he's got a small penis. I get more aroused by his hands.. at times id prefer a vibrator but i dont want to hurt his feelings as he is the sensitive ...
A. 9 November 2006: The missionary position ie lying on top of him work well when the guy has a weenie beanie. You can stimulate your clitoris by rubbing up and down his body while he is in you. It not only excites him but it will give you multiple orgasms.... (read in full...)
I am newly married but have feelings for another man!
Q. Hi, i am newly married, for about 4months, but i had doubts beforehand. The main reason for this being that i really connected with the older man i worked with prior to my marriage, but put all this down to nerves and fears of not knowing what to ...
A. 9 November 2006: I sense the older man and you never got it together before yr marriage and so you have built up a dream relationship with his memory. Its normal to think of someone else when you are with another but reality has to click in and you have to make the ... (read in full...)
As a married person should you feel guilt for being attracted to others?
Q. What is considered normal as far as being atracted to others while married? Should a person feel guilty about being married and still feeling drawn to somebody else from time to time. Not acting on the feeling, just enjoying it. Is it normal t...
A. 15 January 2006: Dont feel guilty. Its a normal,human response finding others attractive even when your married to some else. Most women dream of someone else when they make love and its all a way of adding spice to our relationships.... (read in full...)
What's the difference between him "loving" me and being "in love with" me?
Q. I found out recently that my husband was having a relationship with a girl on the internet. Although he says it was just for fun, he has now said that he loves me but is not "in love with" me like before. What does this mean?...
A. 15 January 2006: Being "IN love" with someone means you want to be with them 24/7, touch, feel and enjoy sex for as long as possible and you cant imagine life without them
"Loving" someone means you feel warmth/feelings of protection and friendship towards ... (read in full...)
The relationship is wonderful, but he confessed a dark secret: he's 2 years older than he said he was...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. Everything is wonderful, we love each other so much and we cannot get enough of each other. I have never been happier and I know he feels the same way. We have recently decided that we are ready ...
A. 15 January 2006: Oh my gawd! Shock! horror! he lied about his age. Youwait until you get to 30 then you will be happily lying through your teeth about your age.
His small lie doesnt mean he will go on lying about important issues in his life. Laugh it off and teas... (read in full...)
I have no one to talk to about my parents' divorce. Even my older friend wouldn't listen!
Q. Hi My parents spit up this year and I'm really torn up about it. I'm fifteen now and they have wanted to get divorced since I was nine. I have never talked about it to anyone. I decided that I was gonna try to talk to my friend (30), but when I t...
A. 15 January 2006: is there a counsellor at your school? Talk to them because they are trained to help and guide you through the problems you are experiencing. They listen and advise and its all confidential. Find out if there is a pupils counsellor and book a session ... (read in full...)
The first time we went to have sex for real, he couldn't stay hard! Is it the porn, or something else?
Q. Well my boyfriend and I decided to have sex for the first time but we ran into a major problem. He is having trouble getting completely "hard" and staying that way in insertion. We have never had this problem before while we were messing around and ...
A. 15 January 2006: Its not porn,its not sumthing else. Its pure nerves on his part because the lead up was so intense, it left him feeling unsure that he could actually perform.
The next time you try, keep the foreplay going longer so that the actual deed happens ... (read in full...)
Another guy tried to chat me up at the local and I feel guilty, like I should tell my boyfriend!
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 12 months and I love him very much, though he never says he loves me. We get on very well, other than he is not very affectionate. The other night in the local pub another man chatted me up and I gave him my phone nu...
A. 15 January 2006: being chatted up is gresat for the ego and not a sign that you have been cheating. No need to feel guilty as you havent followed up the guy asking for a date. keep quiet about being chatted up as I feel you and boyfriend have an edgy relationship ... (read in full...)
He said he liked me and wanted to see me again, but he hasn't called or anything! What's going on?!
Q. i dont know what to do, i met some one after a year or so of having depression, i believed he was different from the rest and he proved he was util a few days ago, he went to bed after he called and i havent heard from him since, no text, no calls, ...
A. 15 January 2006: let go love, this girl thought he had found the perfect woman and when you didnt come up to scratch, he lost interest.
Start going out again and meeting new men because this is only a small glitch in your life. Theres happier times ahead of you w... (read in full...)
My girl won't let me love her! She blows me off to spend time with her friends, and plays games when I call her! Please help!
Q. Hi..... I dont know who to turn to but ill make it brief. I am in love with a very special girl. I am 22 she is gonna be 20. We've been through it all. We are fighting constantly.. all the time. And usually it becuase I want to see her but c...
A. 15 January 2006: this girl is plainly not interested in having you in her life so move on and meet new girls. She enjoys being the focus of your attentions but i sense your calls are all a bit of a joke to her.
Move on and find someone who will enjoy your atte... (read in full...)
I love her to bits... But she drives me crazy! Any advice?
Q. I'm having a really tough time at the moment with my girlfriend, family, and life in general at the moment. To start off with, I've been disrupting my family for the sake of my relationship but not getting anything in return to stay for from the...
A. 15 January 2006: i sense you are both growing up and away from each other as individuals. if she is driving you nuts then its time to call it a day. She isnt going to change or conform to your ideals of the perfect woman so let her go and look around for someone you ... (read in full...)
He wants us to get back together but is still seeing his other woman! Am I right not to trust him?
Q. My partner of six years split up with me after sleeping with another woman. Soon after, he decided he wants us to get back together. However, I am not convinced of his sincerity. He has not finished with the woman he was seeing. He says he is scared ...
A. 15 January 2006: tell him to take a hike. he cant have his cake and eat it although he wants to very much. You are absolutely right to listen to your inner voice and dont trust him as far as you can throw him. You can do much better so get out there and mingle ... (read in full...)
Settle for the guy I have (who has no prospects) or look for my first love (who I never slept with)... ?
Q. Dear Cupid, Hello I'm 25 no kids not married and live w/ parents and I am a hairstylist. I've been in an 8 yr. w/ my current boyfriend he's wonderful he's so sweet! But has a low paying FT job and no career education other than high sch...
A. 15 January 2006: darling, you have a treasure in your life and you know his shortcomings so dont try and make him something he will never be.
You've got the verve,the drive, the motivation and the training.You will have to become the breadwinner and let him run ... (read in full...)
Guys: How long do you last during sex?
Q. Question for the guys: How long do *you* usually last, during intercourse? Reply honestly, anon if you like!...
A. 15 January 2006: Some guys are like bunnies and its all over in 10 seconds, others can last 10 minutes. Anyone who says they can go on all night are fibbing because not only is the girl bored/dried up and sore but the urge to pretend to have an orgasm loses its ... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends after our breakup? Ladies, your comments appreciated...
Q. You don't know what you got till it's gone. Those words have never rung so true since my girlfriend of two and a half years broke up with me a little over a month ago. I'm going to put as much information as possible in this post, because I believe ...
A. 15 January 2006: yes you can become good friends once a relationship has ended. keep in regular contact, meet up occasionally and gradually the longings to have sex with her disappear and you get brotherly protective feelings for a close and trusted friend. You even ... (read in full...)
Once a cheat always a cheat?
Q. is the saying once a cheat always a cheat true?...
A. 15 January 2006: Not necessarily because people cheat when they are not getting the happiness they are looking for in a person. Once they find the right person, they suddenly stop all the cheating and settle into cosy domesticity to the surprise of all those that ... (read in full...)
Does she deserve a second chance after having an affair? Will she love me again and not cheat on me this time?
Q. should i leave my girlfriend for having an affair on me after one and a half years of true love with her or should i give her a second chance? can she really love me again and never do it again?...
A. 15 January 2006: She had an affair because you werent making her happy in some way and giving her a second chance is like saying "Look, I will let youstay with me but just be aware that I am keeping an eye on you." What kind of basis would that be for a healthy, ... (read in full...)
She said that dating me would ruin our friendship! Why did she make this excuse?
Q. this girl i asked out turned me down because she said it would ruin our friendship, is that true or did she just not want to go out with me?...
A. 15 January 2006: She's just not into you and her turn down was a kind way of saying "Thanks but not for me". Move on and find someone more receptive to your charms. You wont ever be able to get this girl to feel attracted to you.... (read in full...)
Is her no-sex thing mental or physical? Any ideas to help before her partner explodes?
Q. Hi I have a family member who's partner ( female) is a virgin still, altho in her late twenties. She seems unable to partake in sex and was wondering if there is any physical process that could unknowingly stop her, or would it be a mental thing. ...
A. 15 January 2006: I sense her celibacy started at the beginning of their relationship. Its possible sex hurt or was too perfunctory for her liking and with the passing of time, thy both stopped reaching out. You can live with someone in a happy, loving situation and ... (read in full...)
She let me put my hand on her butt, and she kissed me twice! What does this mean?
Q. I've known this woman for about 13 years and now she's seperated from her husband. The other day I helped her with a monetary problem (I loaned her some money) and then I asked her if I could have a hug? She gave me a hug and I put my right hand on ...
A. 15 January 2006: All the signs point to a lady who is grateful to have you as a good and supportive friend. She is pleased you loaned her the money but her non chemistry kisses and putting her hand on your butt dont mean anything more than thanks for the help.
... (read in full...)
We've been friends for 18 years, but she is everything that I want in a girlfriend! Should I tell her?
Q. I have been friends with a girl for nearly 18 years and about mid last year I noticed that I would get excited when I heard from her and was going to catch up with her. From then on I have thought that maybe my feelings for her have changed and well ...
A. 15 January 2006: She's a woman with finely tune intuition and she already knows how you feel about her.
telling her will put a barier up between you as she trusts you as a good supportive friend but has never in all those years fancied you enough to even try you ... (read in full...)
My foreskin doesn't retract easily. Will it hurt to wear a condom when I have sex?
Q. Hey, let me cut to the chase, my foreskin dosen't retreact easily, if i was to have a comdom on while having sexual intercourse would it still hurt or not? please i need to know thankyou ^_^...
A. 15 January 2006: Yes it will hurt a bit but use extra lubrication. A dot of vaseline or KY jelly before putting on the condom wont pull the skin so that it pinches. Once on it shouldnt affect your performance in any way.... (read in full...)
We fight light cats and dogs, he cheated on me with his son's mother, and now I hate the kid!
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years and I fight sometimes, but when we do it is really bad, screaming , cussing , pushing, He is kinda abusive, but it has got so bad that we do it around our kids. It is driving me up the wall. About a year ago he cheated on me ...
A. 15 January 2006: Open your eyes to your relationship and look at the bad effect its having on those around you. Is that what you really want? Hating someone is merely a way of putting all your anger onto someone who didnt actively pursue him. he cheated on her ... (read in full...)
Feel let down that my husband has gotten lazy, fat and less attractive since we married! I haven't so why has he?
Q. Short Version: If I am taking pride in my physical being-looking after my health and wellbeing as well as my sexual attractiveness for my husband then is it wrong to expect him to do the same? He disapproves of other women "letting themselves go" ...
A. 15 January 2006: I sense he feels worthless in all aspects of his life and knowing he has a comfortable life with an attractive vibrant woman hasmade him complacent.
Suggest that he start a daily power walk with you as you need the exercise and it would be nice ... (read in full...)
I'm not in love with him anymore! How do I tell him without him freaking out?
Q. I've been dating this guy on and off for about 3 years now. I just saw him for the first time in 3 months because we live far apart and I needed space because we were not getting along. I love him but I'm not in love with him. I'm not physically ...
A. 15 January 2006: There is never an easy way to break off a relationship. Honesty is the best way but i feel that after 3 months apart, feelings do change so you can say that these gaps are not good for you because of the lonliness and lack of closeness and you feel ... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my third cousin. Is this wrong?
Q. Recently i have been having sex with my third cousin, it's been going on for the past month now, i really really enjoy it, and i feel like i love him, i cant get him out of my head. But when im not with him i think about the what ifs and get really ...
A. 15 January 2006: Sex with cousins is not wrong but in the Victorian era it was frowned on because of the liklihood of any children being born with genetic defects through the closeness of your family history.
Third cousin is far removed from first cousin so enjoy... (read in full...)
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