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writes: I found out recently that my husband was having a relationship with a girl on the internet. Although he says it was just for fun, he has now said that he loves me but is not "in love with" me like before. What does this mean?
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (15 January 2006):
Being "IN love" with someone means you want to be with them 24/7, touch, feel and enjoy sex for as long as possible and you cant imagine life without them
"Loving" someone means you feel warmth/feelings of protection and friendship towards that person. You love them like a member of your family but there is no sexual attraction for them
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reader, jessy66 +, writes (14 January 2006):
I agree if you was honest you would with out doubt know the answer to your own question,generally you can feel the difference,and sense a wanting,a need to be with you,if you cant feel it then im affraid hunny he only loves you in the same way he would a sister or best friend.
good luck xx
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Being a male; I think I'm more than qualified to answer this question. Particularly since I have used this one before on more than one occasion. Whenever you first fall in love, is the best description that should help. The other person seems to walk on water for awhile. Everything about them seems to fascinate you; while just wanting to be within 2 feet of them is not close enough. Head over heels is another way to describe this feeling. Over time; depending upon the individual, you become comfortable with that person. Little things begin to develop that were always there, just overlooked. Like the first 6-12 months I dated my fiancee' she never went number 2. I refused to believe that she ever had to go. While she on the other hand put her best foot forward and held it or went quickly. We all don't want to believe that the other person is fallable. After we get out of our comfort zone we tend to find out things that are not so attractive to us. Let's face it if your first date the other person laughed like a DONKEY and chain smoked like a factory would you honestly keep dating this person? NO! So as we discover or lengthen the amount of time spent with one person we become extremely comfortable to the fact that, we see them as our best friends in the whole world. In other words; treat them like your brother or sister. This is where you love them, but are not IN LOVE WITH THEM. It's a fellowship with the person or a common bond. Happens frequently with parents of children. You've heard people say they are staying together for the children. This is not in love it's just love/respect for the other because they are a parent. His not being in love means that he considers you like a friend or sisterly love. He probably doesn't open doors, buy you flowers, tell you sincerely; he loves you anymore. Usually, whenever we stop trying to impress the other we usually feel this way. The key is that it can be reversed, but only if he really wants to or you save his life.
I hope he comes around.
Sincerely
Ed
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reader, sweetness2022004 +, writes (13 January 2006):
Just loving you could be something you would say to a friend or a family member, being in love with you means you are his only love, total heart and soul. Big difference.
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