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writes: HiI have a family member who's partner ( female) is a virgin still, altho in her late twenties. She seems unable to partake in sex and was wondering if there is any physical process that could unknowingly stop her, or would it be a mental thing. They have been living together for several years and love each other but the situation is becoming too hard to handle for him.Thanksoldie Reply to this Question
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reader, oldie +, writes (15 January 2006):
oldie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to those replies I have had. The female partner in this case is 28 and still a virgin. She appears to have some mental block about sex, altho i understand there are a couple of rare physical probs that could occur, but in the relationship they have never had sex and it is driving the male nuts
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (15 January 2006):
I sense her celibacy started at the beginning of their relationship. Its possible sex hurt or was too perfunctory for her liking and with the passing of time, thy both stopped reaching out. You can live with someone in a happy, loving situation and each day the need for sex becomes less .This is compensated for with cuddles, hugs and companionship which makes both people feel relaxed and close.
A sex therapist can advise both of them on how to bring back the sexual urges and give them a fulfilling love life. of course, what you may think is deprivation, could be OK for someone else.
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reader, oldie +, writes (15 January 2006):
oldie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think it is more likely mental, rather than a physical problem, but she cannot even talk about it to her partner, which I think is important.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2006): It could be that there is something in her past that she has blocked out because it is simply too bad to remember and this is resulting in some sort of irrational fear towards sex that she cant talk about because she doesnt fully understand it herself!On the other hand you say they live together and they love each other very much, well cohabitation isnt marriage and maybe its more of a morality thing shes waiting until she gets that ring on her finger and there aint nothing wrong with that no matter what age you are!!Who said romance was dead!!!!
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