How do I manage their conflicting expectations?
Q. I have been married for a year and I am still in school. My mother is still paying for my tuition and not my husband. My mother does not want me to get pregnant because she wants me to graduate then work to build my future so I can be comfortable. ...
A. 18 March 2015: Put your career first, so that you can earn a comfy future for your family. Your husband will just have to understand that and respect it. Encourage one another to get a career. Then when you are ready to settle down, have kids.
I've been with my p... (read in full...)
Do I fight for her?
Q. So basically, I met the love of my life 3 years ago, we are a same sex couple, I am 34 she is 30, we married in May 2014, we lived together for 2 and a half years, altogether. We fell in live on our 1st date. Then 8 months into our marriage she ...
A. 18 March 2015: Let her have her space.
Give her one final, heart felt letter/text, telling her how you feel about the two of you, and end it with, "my door will always be open to you, if you should ever want to come back to me, to us, but I will only leave it o... (read in full...)
When can a lady have sex so that she doesn't get pregnant?
Q. Hello, three days ago, i had sex with mt Gf. after sex she feel pain in stomach and smell coming from urine and discharge flow from vagina and also condom was not used.after she also used unwanted 72(i pill),we both did sex before 3-4 times. due t...
A. 18 March 2015: She may have a urine infection if there is pain when she wee's.
If she took the pill, she's not pregnant.
If you used a condom correctly, she's not pregnant.
The best thing to do is to take a pregnancy test or go to the doctor's.... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him where we stand, or would that push him away entirely?
Q. I'm still confused, and I'm starting to think that this guy I used to date now only sees me as friend. There has been a change in the physical/ sexual part of our relationship, but nothing else has changed. He's not seeing anyone else, and he said ...
A. 18 March 2015: Are you two fuck buddies at the moment? Because you mentioned that a physical/sexual aspect has changed.
If that's the case, if you want more or just want to know what's happening, I think you should ask him. If he tells you that you're both just... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mother in law that I am not ready to forgive her behaviour?
Q. Hey everyone. Back in December, i wrote on here for advice on dealing with my insensitive, mother in law. Basically, she said some really cruel things to me regarding me infertility struggle. She told me to "hurry the f@*k up to have a baby because ...
A. 18 March 2015: Your husband shouldn't have allowed your mother-in-law to invite herself. He should understand why you're still hurt. Just because she's ill or whatever, doesn't give her the god damn right to use it to control people to bend at her will. It's sic... (read in full...)
Because of her I doubt he wants me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months, he really is great, he works hard and is genuinely a good person. I struggle with jealously issues though, he works with a girl he used to like but she was a bit of a player and went with loads of guys so he ...
A. 18 March 2015: Stop tip toeing around the subject, only discussing "bits". If you want, show him this message right here. Or just tell him in your own words.
Tell him, if you love me, you need to love all of me, that means my insecurities too. Because I love ever... (read in full...)
Repressed memories of abuse are coming back to me, and now I don't want my mother in my childs life
Q. When I lived at home, my mother and I were at loggerheads. She and I never got on. I was a hard teenager to deal with in fairness, my attitude was terrible, although I never did anything really bad. One time, when my mother was giving me a ...
A. 18 March 2015: You need to remember that as the years went by, you came out of your shell and stood up to that monster. You slapped your Mum. You changed the dynamics of the relationship. With that being said, you have the strength to tell your Mum "no" or tell ... (read in full...)
Can I be pregnant while on the pill and having regular periods?
Q. Last week my friend's sister found out she was pregnant and the baby would be born is two weeks. She never had any symptoms or a "typical pregnancy belly". Also she never missed a period,even though they were very irregular. Now I'm scared that thi...
A. 18 March 2015: Take a pregnancy test. If it's negative but you're still experiencing certain symptoms, go to your doctor and explain, he will take urine/blood tests and book you in for an ultrasound all of which will tell him if you're pregnant.
Just to make you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to seem pushy so how do I let him know I am interested?
Q. About a month ago I met a guy online and we hit it off immediately. On our first date we met for drinks and 4 hours later it was still going strong. We had our second date the next night and things continued to progress. He would text me every day ...
A. 12 March 2015: If you slept with him, then he's a dog that you shouldn't bother pursuing. He put in his effort to get sex, and since you gave it to him, he doesn't see a reason to try anymore.
Unfortunately on dating sites, men go on there for that.
IF you ha... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to get married this weekend but I don't want to! I don't love him!
Q. I am supposed to be getting married this Saturday, but i really don,t want to and i am scared. im 21 my dad wants me to marry him but i don't love him, i don't even like him. its not about religion or anything. my dad just thinks he wi...
A. 12 March 2015: You do not have to marry anyone.
If you don't want to. Don't.
Your Dad should not have forced you, he's not allowed to.
You can say no.... (read in full...)
Why is he waiting to get physical?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for over 2 months. During the past 2 months we have text eachother quite a lot every single day and we see eachother at least twice a week for nights/days out and in. The relationship is going very well, we respect eacho...
A. 12 March 2015: You both want to have a long term relationship, which is good. You've kissed passionately but haven't gone much further, this isn't bad. To be honest, it's only been 2 months, that's no time at all really. I didn't have sex with my partner until ... (read in full...)
Curious, maybe even suspicious...
Q. My girlfriend constantly calls me daddy during sex. She also likes to role play that she is 13 and I'm her father coming to her bedroom when everyone else is asleep. Her father is deceased but I know from her mother that they, my gf and her dad, ...
A. 11 March 2015: If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then you should talk to her. Although, I do worry because you said she can't reach orgasm unless the Daddy element is part of things. So as I said before, if you're truly uncomfortable then you SHOULD definite... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty ... but was I manipuated?
Q. hi guys, I am in desperate need of some advice. I just broke up with boyfriend of a year and a half last week. It was long distance with both of us making an effort to see each other when we could. I have a 7 years old daughter from a previous ...
A. 10 March 2015: He manipulated you and I think deep down, you know this.
If at first you didn't think you were wrong, you probably weren't. He was using you as an emotional punch bag, taking stuff out on you, trying to wear you down.
Be thankful he is out of y... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my fiance to call his parents and check in with them when we go somewhere
Q. A little background. When my fiancé was in his late 20's he was in bad car accident and he was in a coma for 3 weeks and rehab and then went home after 3 months. That sent his parents into a frantic mode, which would be a normal response to that ...
A. 10 March 2015: You both need to compromise.
He needs to keep his conversations short and polite on the phone. Or even a text. And you need to allow him to do that.
Tell him he can save the conversation of telling his parents what the place is like, for when he ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for him but I don't know how he feels about me
Q. I think I've fallen for a guy. I actually enjoy laughing at his bad jokes that others dislike and I think he has a nice personality. Sometimes, I feel like he has feelings for me too. I mean he approaches me and talks to me and stuff. But I'm not ...
A. 10 March 2015: The fact you don't even know if he has a girlfriend suggests you may not know him that well.
Get to know him more, his life etc, before you decide to take things any further ... (read in full...)
Curious, maybe even suspicious...
Q. My girlfriend constantly calls me daddy during sex. She also likes to role play that she is 13 and I'm her father coming to her bedroom when everyone else is asleep. Her father is deceased but I know from her mother that they, my gf and her dad, ...
A. 10 March 2015: If you question her about this now, you risk ruining how she feels sexually. Right now, if she's comfortable around you enough to share fantasies, why ruin it? Yes it may be weird, but there are far more weird things out there.
If you feel unco... (read in full...)
Why would a guy want me to meet his family this early?
Q. After a day of knowing him, his mum apparently knew about me and he was wanting me to be introduced to his auntie when I saw him that night(as she was also in the area)....
A. 10 March 2015: Tell him you think things are moving a bit fast.
On the one hand it's nice that he want's you to see his family, but on the other hand, it's so early, you don't even know if this will go anywhere yet. Plus you don't want them to form an opinion of y... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend tells people I'm his ex lover, but I'm not
Q. Im a 16 year old gay (in closet)and im currently noticing that my girl best friend's boyfriend likes talking to me instead of talking to my friend. He looks at me whenever am not looking and he once told people that im his ex lover which was nt t...
A. 10 March 2015: Do you like this guy?
Maybe just talk to your friend, if she is as close a best friend as you say, then she will understand your worries... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into this question?
Q. Hi recently one of my guy friends who I occasionally make out with (when there's nobody else) texted me that I looked hot at a party we both recently went to. A bit later after we were flirting and joking (like usual) he said "can I check where yo...
A. 10 March 2015: If you don't have feelings for the guy, you should consider cutting ties. Or at least distance yourself. Because it seems he has grown feelings for you.
Maybe you need to consider the fact that maybe you do actually like him but you've been play... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel a little resentful towards my wealthy boyfriend for not helping me out when he can?
Q. I ve met my boyfriend 2 years ago and since then we are a couple. I am a widow with 2 teenage daughters. My husband passed away suddenly at the age of 52 from heart attack 6 years ago. He was 16 years older than me and a love of my life, and we s...
A. 7 March 2015: If you want help, ask for it. Yes he hear's your problems, all the time. Yes he gives lifts (which btw you should be grateful for because that's helping out), yes he has the money. But maybe he doesn't want you to see him as a piggy bank that'll ... (read in full...)
Trust is in tatters. He wants me to leave. What can I do? It was not my fault that an ex sent me photos.
Q. When I met my boyfriend I told him that a couple of years ago I got involved with a married man, but that I saw my error and nothing come of it. Today when I got home my boyfriend sent his daughter out and said that we needed to talk in private....
A. 7 March 2015: Have you given your boyfriend a reason to look on your phone? Usually a person doesn't feel threatened like that in a relationship unless they have been provoked, either by insecurities or their other half. For example, the daughter's mother i... (read in full...)
He has anxiety and depression. I need some tips on how to encourage and develop a friendship with this guy to help him feel more comfortable about us as friends, please?
Q. Hi I'm in my mid 20s and would love some advice,. I have a male friend that I am back in touch with from years back. We've always had feelings for each other, but he said he doesn't want a relationship while he is fighting his depression and anxi...
A. 7 March 2015: Your applying pressure without realising it. You've made your needs clear to him already. You want more. But he has made it clear to you, that he isn't ready yet. The best thing to do, is to just be there as a friend. Buy him some essential oil ... (read in full...)
Crushing on my lecturer is gettingin the way of my studies.
Q. I have this really big stupid crush on my lecturer and I can't stop thinking about him no matter what. i fantasise about him kissing me all the time and it's starting to get in the way of my studies as all I want to do is find excuses and ways to ...
A. 7 March 2015: As cute as this all is, it is jeopardising. I think the way around it starts by doing this. Confessing. If it's been a really long time and you still haven't gotten over your crush, you need to tell him. For example; "Hello, I'm finding it diffi... (read in full...)
I feellike I am his Mum, not his girlfriend!
Q. My boyfriend has always been trouble, but I kind of liked it in the beginning. I guess I have grown up where as he hasn't. I like staying in on a weekend or having friends over for dinner but he says I'm boring if I do that and not to expect him to ...
A. 7 March 2015: If you don't get out now, then you'll end up with a kid in the equation and then next episode of Jeremy Kyle. Go to a citizens advice bureau. Tell them your debts and loan and set up a plan of what you can pay on you're own. Leave him. Either tell... (read in full...)
I am not happy with the size of it!
Q. Hello people, this maybe a daft issue but it really gets to me. I have been depressed for ages now and well I feel the most of it is I'm not happy with my penis size. My first relationship ended with the girl dumping me and then spreading th...
A. 7 March 2015: You've already realised part of your problem "ok I may of pushed her away" The cruel bitch you were with who spread rumours about your dick, got so in your head about it that it's ruined any hopes of a successful relationship for you. She was j... (read in full...)
She had oral sex before we got married and I just found this out! Was she a virgin?
Q. I am 30 years old and been married for 9 years. I was a virgin when we got married and she told me she was the same. Till after 8 years of marriage and 3 kids later she tells me that she gave out 20 or 30 blowjobs to two guys before me and she said ...
A. 7 March 2015: She was still talking to one of them two weeks before we got married. She said that they had done nothing and were friends we got in a fight and she stopped talking to him only to throw him in my face a few times later after we were married. After ... (read in full...)
I need a break from him but we live together!
Q. I need space from my boyfriend, but we live together. We've been together over 4 years and moved in together almost a year ago. For the first time in a while, I worked some overtime over the past weekend and have had to work a little later than ...
A. 24 January 2015: At least you can acknowledge that's it's external forces causing the friction in the relationship right now.
Maybe it's not the fact you need space from your partner, more that you need some "you" time. For the next week, every night, plan the next... (read in full...)
I'm rubbish at this dating game, so please help me understand if he wants to see me again or not!
Q. I'm rubbish at is dating game and need some advice please..... On Tuesday night I met a guy at a works leaving do. (Our company is huge and he works in a different office and have never seen him before) We were talking all night until the bar we...
A. 24 January 2015: Cut your losses, he's not worth it. He was clearly interested to begin with and thought you would go home with him, thank god you didn't because it sounds like he was only after one thing :/
Now that he is having to put effort in, he can't be arse... (read in full...)
She had oral sex before we got married and I just found this out! Was she a virgin?
Q. I am 30 years old and been married for 9 years. I was a virgin when we got married and she told me she was the same. Till after 8 years of marriage and 3 kids later she tells me that she gave out 20 or 30 blowjobs to two guys before me and she said ...
A. 24 January 2015: If it was just oral sex, then she was still a virgin.
Yes she kept it from you before you got together, but did you honestly tell her everything about yourself before you met her? Part of being in a relationship is finding out everything about on... (read in full...)
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