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writes:Hi recently one of my guy friends who I occasionally make out with (when there's nobody else) texted me that I looked hot at a party we both recently went to. A bit later after we were flirting and joking (like usual) he said "can I check where you stand like with us do you still only want to hook up?" and also he kept asking if I hooked up with another guy and when I told him it wasn't his business he said "is it not?". Am I reading too much into it or was there more to his question than just making sure I didn't like him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): If he didn't want more from you/with you then he wouldn't even bother asking you these questions - he'd be nowhere to be seen, most of the time.
He wants more. He's trying to pluck up the courage to ask you to be his girlfriend but wants to know where he stands.
You say you go to him when there's no one else. Sometimes, not always, it's the one we go to when there's no-one else who turns out to mean more to us than anyone else in the world.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 March 2015):
 It's okay you stuttered saved me the time to basically repeat what you just said ;)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 March 2015):
 Ooops I seem to have stuttered...
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reader, CattyCat +, writes (10 March 2015):
 If you don't have feelings for the guy, you should consider cutting ties. Or at least distance yourself. Because it seems he has grown feelings for you.
Maybe you need to consider the fact that maybe you do actually like him but you've been playing along possibly? Have a serious talk with him
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 March 2015):
He wants to know where he stands. So SHIT or get off the pot. He doesn't WANT to play the same game as you.
If you don't really care for him, and JUST see him as a dude to kiss when NO ONE better is around - tell him that you don't see anything serious with him.
Does he have the right to know who you hook up with or IF you hook up with other guys? No, as he is NOT your BF and he hasn't exactly tried to date you either.
IF you are interested in him, TELL him. If you are not, tell him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 March 2015):
He wants to know where he stands. So SHIT or get off the pot. He doesn't WANT to play the same game as you.
If you don't really care for him, and JUST see him as a dude to kiss when NO ONE better is around - tell him that you don't see anything serious with him.
Does he have the right to know who you hook up with or IF you hook up with other guys? No, as he is NOT your BF and he hasn't exactly tried to date you either.
IF you are interested in him, TELL him. If you are not, tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): It might just be that he has feelings for you and is watching out for you , i wouldnt read too much into it , if you want to keep it just with making out then let him know :)! Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): I think you're reading it for what it is. Seems pretty clear to me what he wants to know.
He may be catching feelings for you, or plans to start seeing other girls. He asked directly where he stands with you. He's being considerate of your feelings, and he asked all the right questions. Is there another guy?
Answer his questions. YES, IT IS his business! He has a right to know, and not be caught off-guard from some jealous guy who doesn't like the fact you're messing around! He doesn't have to place his life on hold for you; and he has the right to move on and see somebody else; if all you want from him is sex or "making-out."
Be honest, he's not there for your entertainment and pleasure. He has rights and feelings like you do. Don't get jealous, if he just decides to dump you; and go find somebody who really cares.
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