Is my fiance cheating, or am I paranoid? Please Help!
Q. I don't know how I can tell if my fiance is flirting and possibly seeing my best friend. He seems to be constantly tugging her hair or tickling her or something. When I talked to my best friend about him flirting with her she said she didn't think ...
A. 25 May 2010: Most likely you are paranoid - however - I think there is something to be said for but feelings. Sometimes we can tell in our gut that something isn't right. I think I would tell your boyfriend that when he touches and tickles other girls, i... (read in full...)
Hubby’s neglect driving me towards another guy
Q. Hi, I am in some confussion..... i had a fight with my husband ..NO ...lets say it... he again talked with me very rudely and when i stopped talking and ignored it... he got angry that i am upset...yes i was upset ... i cant smile if someone ta...
A. 25 May 2010: I want to start with the feelings of love that you are feeling towards this older friend that you are talking to on the phone. I believe those feelings are real. You have strong feelings towards him because he is filling the role of emotional ... (read in full...)
He says it's over -- is it?
Q. Ok, this is going to be a long one but I really need as much advise as I can get. So, I was with this guy for over a year. In this year we got very serious. We lived together, had a boat, a dog, a quad. Our friends are even the same people. We moved ...
A. 20 May 2010: Will you listen to yourself! If you stay with him - you two deserve each other. A relationship with this much indecision and drama is destined to fail!... (read in full...)
He's married but he still wants to sleep with me.
Q. ok...so i have been talking to my ex-boyfriend who is married and he keeps begging me to sleep with him again....apparently he doesnt care that he is married if he still trying to sleep with me. When we were togeher our sex was outstanding....he ...
A. 19 May 2010: Seriously, he is using you for sex. Have some self-respect and stop answering his calls. And find a man who is available.... (read in full...)
He says it's over -- is it?
Q. Ok, this is going to be a long one but I really need as much advise as I can get. So, I was with this guy for over a year. In this year we got very serious. We lived together, had a boat, a dog, a quad. Our friends are even the same people. We moved ...
A. 19 May 2010: I hate to quote Dr. Phil, but here goes. "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior." Do you want to be in a relationship with someone that is so tumultuous? Do you want to go through this vicious cycle of break-ups for another year? ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to lose me? Why does he still want us to talk if he doesn't want us to be together?
Q. so my ex and i have been talking and getting along pretty good recently, the thing is we are not together but at times he acts like if we are he tells me he loves me and stuff. i am the type of person that does not like to be played so i told him he ...
A. 19 May 2010: I will put it short and sweet, using your own words. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. He is coming to you because he is lonely, and you seem to be willing to fill in that loneliness at a moments notice. You deserve better than this! ... (read in full...)
Why does he look at women so much, when we are on a date?
Q. Is it common for a man to look at alot of women when you are with him? My b/f often does this while we are out together. Sometimes it is at men and sometimes at women. I notice it is mostly at women. He does this alot of the time. It does get kind...
A. 19 May 2010: I am one of those people that is easily distracted by others around me. I find it hard to not pay attention to conversations around me, beautiful people, playing children, barking dogs. However, I do find it disrespectful if say I'm speaking to ... (read in full...)
Disgusted by my boyfriends interest in porn.
Q. dear cupid, i feel so disgusted. this morning i went online to listen to music and as i was typing visited porn sites started appearing in the browser. i love my boyfriend, weve been together for 3 years, recently moved in together. hes always b...
A. 19 May 2010: I suggest, as a first step, sorting out your feelings about this. Is porn a deal-breaker for you? Like, is it ok with you if he looks at porn occaisionally and you would rather just not know about it? Or do you prefer he not look at porn at ... (read in full...)
I've lost my sexual appetite at 22.
Q. Okay, here's the thing. I never thought that I will reach this stage, It's not my thing to ask advice from the internet but I'm just confused and uncertain. I've been dating this guy since 3rd year highschool. I'm 22 now. I graduated colleg...
A. 19 May 2010: Lack of libido could be a sign of a health problem, or depression. Do you show other signs of being depressed? I think you should seek help with a counselor. You are at a pretty pivotal yet stressful point in life and depression is not uncommon.
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Late period, but negative pregnancy tests.
Q. i am about 2 weeks late on my period and have no pregnancy symptoms and 3 negative test. i took another test yesterday morning and it was negative. i do get a little nausea and dizziness but it could just be in my head. i also feel pressure on my ...
A. 19 May 2010: The person who could best help you would be a doctor. Make an appointment with a gynecologist and go see them. Missing a period is not unusual, especially after having taken plan b twice. But a gynecologist will be able to give you a blood test ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get the 'spark' back?
Q. if i love my girlfriend and if she loves me, why arent we moving anywhere, we're both 16, we've been together 9months, and there just isnt that how you say 'a spark' anymore, but i love her is there anyway to get that back?...
A. 19 May 2010: In every relationship, there is that initial spark. That initial chemistry that is all about romance and something new. It's not unusual for that to fade. If the relationship is meant to be, usually that spark is replaced by other feelings - ... (read in full...)
After we have been friends for so long surely it is a waste to throw away our friendhship now?
Q. I have had a best friend since i was about 9,and we have been friends ever since,Im 16 now and we fell out about 2 months ago and haven't made up since. We were so close and although i have a lot of other amazing friends,i still can't help wanting ...
A. 19 May 2010: I think you have been making the right steps by reaching out to her. Keep trying. Alas, sometimes friendships do fade and it may just be that this friendship has run it's course. But if her friendship is important to you, keep trying to reach out ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 19 May 2010: You already feel like you are a bad friend for doing this. Why not trust your gut and detach yourself from this guy, and seek out a boyfriend who is actually available? Why do you even want to be involved with guys that you know will cheat? You ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any advice to pass on to my friend to help her cope with the loss of her Grandpa?
Q. A good friend of mine who I haven't talked to in a while sent me a very personal email about how she's mourning the death of her Grandfather. She now lives a long way away and I was a little surprised to get the email. We're both relatively young...
A. 19 May 2010: You could email her and tell her that you were glad to hear from her, even under such trying circumstances. Let her know that she is in her your thoughts and if there is anything you can do, you will be there for her. The pain of loss fades over ... (read in full...)
His new girlfriend is hassling me thinking I want him back when I am happy just being his friend, what can I do?
Q. A split up with my ex 3 years ago in June and a year and a half ago we got chatting again, we've spoken a handful of times in 18 months. Recently I have been seeing more of him as he is still friends with my brother and is doing all the plumbing...
A. 19 May 2010: I think you should find someone else. Be up front with him, you don't have to be overly dramatic, but tell him that his girlfriend has sent you some messages indicating that she wants you to stay away from him, and you are going to respect her ... (read in full...)
I'm not comfortable with my wife trying out to be a professional cheerleader
Q. Ok so my wife of 13 years decided that she wanted to try out to be a professional football cheerleader (or NHL or NBA). Although I want to be supportive of this, and have been so far, I am not 100% comfortable with this. Any thoughts, guys and ...
A. 19 May 2010: I think your discomfort is coming from jealousy and fear. It sounds like maybe she has been making some changes, and you want to be supportive as long as the changes she is making don't include changing out you!
I think the way you are feeling ... (read in full...)
Could I have gotten pregnant from this?
Q. me and this boy messed around on may 1.we didnt have sex but he was on top of me and his dick went in like the back like where the butt hole is.idk if he cumed in me but when i gave him a hand job he did cum.when i got home my underwear was all wet ...
A. 19 May 2010: You are in the US right? Any drugstore, Walmart, grocery store has them - usually near the condoms. Buy some of those while you are there, too.
The planned parenthood website has some good information about pregnancy testing...
http://www.pl... (read in full...)
How soon will I know I am pregnant?
Q. me and my partner have just started trying for a baby after 5years of beeing together. how soon should i do a pregnancy test after we have done the deed?...
A. 18 May 2010: Check the instructions on whatever pregnancy test you buy, as it varies by brand, but usually you can't test until a few days after you miss your period. For example, if your period was expected to start May 17, you might be able to test May 19 or ... (read in full...)
I knew my boyfriend watched porn, but now I have found out he watches it every day!
Q. hi ok i really need help. i knew that my boyfriend watched porn, and i was a little hurt but i just didnt really think anything of it. but now ive realised he watches it EVERY day even yesturday when it was his BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!! i was with him all ...
A. 18 May 2010: I respectfully disagree with first response. Some guys do occaisionally watch porn but I think this guys porn watching seems excessive. His desire for sex seems insatiable. To me it sounds as though he has a sex addiction. For some women the ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to her about her texting her ex and being so shady in bed?
Q. I am having some troubles with my girlfriend...we were about to go out like a year ago and things didnt work and i ended up dating another girl for about 6 months but then i realized that i really wanted to be with the other girl so i dumped the one ...
A. 18 May 2010: Good communication in this situation is so important. First things first - on the topic of texting, you need to confront her on this. Be really careful in your approach to this... don't put her on the defense, but tell her how you feel. It's ... (read in full...)
I stained my sheet three times... is there any chance she'll still want me?
Q. Well... As my screen name states it all. I am dumb. I recently cheated on my wife of 12 years. I regret everything about it. It does get worse it was with three women. I know that this act is insulting and a slap in the face to her. I dont know the...
A. 18 May 2010: I do think your relationship could recover, but please know it may take a long time for her to regain trust in you. You must be patient and willing to do whatever she asks, regardless of how over-the-top it might seem. Enroll yourself in ... (read in full...)
I fell for my buddy's gf! How do I deal with the guilt of what I did to him?
Q. A few months ago I met a couple who were friends of friends. Since then, I've spent increasingly more time with the girl and guy, while they're together and while they're apart, with others, and just on our own. I've developed what I feel is a ...
A. 18 May 2010: Sadly - I think this is one of those situations where you picked a side, and now you have to stick to it. I seriously doubt that the ex-boyfriend would want to see you much at this point. Talking to him would really be about relieving your own ... (read in full...)
H'es giving up because legally I'm still married!
Q. Ive been dating a guy for 6 months and we both have told eachother that were falling in love with one another. I am still married and have been seperated from my husband for over a year. I just found out our marriage is not going to be final for ...
A. 18 May 2010: I don't think I understand what you are asking. Are you suggesting that you might walk away, because you are afraid that he might walk away first when he finds out about your divorce proceedings? That makes absolutely no sense. Either you want to ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my current bf or go for the new guy? I don't know what to do.
Q. I have a problem. There's this one guy that I've been with for more than a year now. He's my first ever really serious relationship. And I really do love him...and could see myself spending the rest of my life with him. And he even proposed th...
A. 18 May 2010: I don't think the feelings you have right now are unusual at your age. It sounds like maybe your current boyfriend and you are both in school? I know the stress of work and school can make focusing on a relationship hard, and it sounds like that ... (read in full...)
Could I have gotten pregnant from this?
Q. me and this boy messed around on may 1.we didnt have sex but he was on top of me and his dick went in like the back like where the butt hole is.idk if he cumed in me but when i gave him a hand job he did cum.when i got home my underwear was all wet ...
A. 18 May 2010: I there is a slight chance the contact you made with him could have gotten you pregnant. But again, given the fact that you seem to have gotten your period afterwards makes me believe that you are not pregnant. Is there any reason you could not get ... (read in full...)
Could I have gotten pregnant from this?
Q. me and this boy messed around on may 1.we didnt have sex but he was on top of me and his dick went in like the back like where the butt hole is.idk if he cumed in me but when i gave him a hand job he did cum.when i got home my underwear was all wet ...
A. 17 May 2010: Your underwear may have just been wet from your own sexual stimulation. It sounds like you got your period so I would guess you aren't pregnant - its not unusual for it to be brown on the first day. Did the bleeding begin around the time you were ... (read in full...)
Is there's any thing I can eat or drink that would make my belly stop hurting?
Q. Hey, I'm 17 and i was wondering if there's any thing you can eat or drink that will make your belly stop hurting or not hurt as much when your on your period? I tried taken tums it dint help, Also is there drinks or foods that will make it worse ...
A. 17 May 2010: I also experience both heavy cramping and digestion problems during the first day or so of my period. Going on the pill helped me a lot - My flow and cramping are both a lot lighter. I combat the digestive problems by drinking a lot of water and ... (read in full...)
How do I get an introverted girlfriend to open up?
Q. My girlfriend is 18 and im 19 and she is very introverted and never really talks about her problems to me or anyone for that matter. I wish she would open up to me more so I can help her out because she is going through alot right now. She also ...
A. 29 April 2010: In my opinion, 8 months of friendship, 3 romantic is still pretty early. Give her space and time to come to terms with her feelings on her own timeline. If this is too difficult for you, you should end the relationship because it is only a sign of ... (read in full...)
He kept on talking to his baby-mama, his other son by another woman is a brat, and I just don't trust him. It breaks my heart!I
Q. When I married my husband, it was after he cheated on me and I knew the girl was pregnant. But I listened to his apology and believed he was sincere and loved him regardless and was ready to take on the challenge. After we got married, I found out ...
A. 27 April 2010: Ahhh! The first word that came to mind when I read all of this was - DRAMA!!!
It sounds like you both have together several children from different relationships. Having a child with someone whom you are no longer involved with is quite a tric... (read in full...)
How do I get an introverted girlfriend to open up?
Q. My girlfriend is 18 and im 19 and she is very introverted and never really talks about her problems to me or anyone for that matter. I wish she would open up to me more so I can help her out because she is going through alot right now. She also ...
A. 27 April 2010: My instinct is to tell you that if she is unable to communicate her feelings with you, your relationship will have problems down the road. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to "make" her be more open. Continue reinforcing that you are ... (read in full...)
Painful Pap Smear Test
Q. I had my first smear test today - it didnt go well the nurse started and then said it would be easier if i come back to see the doctor. Im now booked in next week. The problem is it really hurt and i dont want to go back! I know how important it...
A. 27 April 2010: I think between now and then you should find a few relaxation techniques that you can use during your exam. Being relaxed during the exam will make it so much more comfortable.
I know this is easier said than done... thinking about it likely is m... (read in full...)
If she loves me shouldnt she want to live with me?
Q. I love my gf and she tells me that she loves me more than anything in the world but whenever I mention us living together she is not intersted. when we are together we have a great time, i can feel the love from her and we feel like we are in o...
A. 31 October 2008: You don't mention how long the relationship has been going on. I think that is a pretty important element of reasonableness. But I think she is being straightforward in her feelings about it at any rate. Why would you want someone to move in with ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to bounce back from this "rough patch"?
Q. I have been with my highschool sweetheart since i was 17 im 21 now, I am engaged to him, he is 24. obviously i am young and naive about how the real world is most of the time. My fiance and I have been having a really rough time together. We havent ...
A. 28 October 2008: I am also married to my high school sweet heart. Even though I love him tremendously I think maintaining a relationship through your early to mid 20's is one of the toughest things to do. You are both changing so much. One of the things thats ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop spreading lies?
Q. A few years ago I got out of a long term relationship and one of my friends, let's call him Mark (who is 10 years older than me) was right there to be my shoulder to cry on. The problem is that he got me really drunk and kissed me. It turned out ...
A. 28 October 2008: When Mark opened himself up to you, and you rejected him, you hurt him deeply. Don't get me wrong, you had every right to not reciprocate his feelings, but the simple fact is he felt rejected, and has acted out as a result. It is unfortunate that ... (read in full...)
Help with my Ex-Relationship!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. I was really hurt and very upset. I've been emotional about this whole thing. We were 2gther for 10 months, but we've been knowing each other for 6 yrs. He wanted 2 break up bcuz he cudnt handle our ...
A. 28 October 2008: Please don't take this as harsh, but the truth is, you cannot go back to the way things were. That is the nasty part about life in general. At this point, I think it is better to move forward and put this relationship behind you. Dealing with a ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship doomed?
Q. I need advice on my current relationship. He is a great guy I think I am in love with him. I am not sure if it is for the right reasons. My husband committed suicide in front of me 1 year ago. I am sure sure if I will ever really get through ...
A. 28 October 2008: I think that maybe you are overthinking things a little. It sounds like neither of you want to rush things, and I think that is for the best. I think it's too hard to judge if the relationship is "doomed" without knowing the current status though. ... (read in full...)
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