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*rowneyes73
writes:ok...so i have been talking to my ex-boyfriend who is married and he keeps begging me to sleep with him again....apparently he doesnt care that he is married if he still trying to sleep with me. When we were togeher our sex was outstanding....he keeps asking me to be with him forever...is he crazy..because he is MARRIED!! he must not be happily married. should i sleep with him and show him what he has been missing or should i not cross that line and just be good friends? i do love him
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 He's not acting like he wants to be your friend, so I believe your options here is to sleep with him and be his mistress (which is pretty low) or cut him off.
I'd go with option number 2. His failed marriage is his problem, and you don't want it on your doorstep. You certainly don't want an angry wife on your doorstep. I think the fact that he begs for sex with you is proof enough that he misses the great sex you had. No need to remind him. I think he remembers well enough.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 May 2010):
 There's more to this story, aunts. Here's the link to the new question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/was-that-my-clue-to-get-out-and.html
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 May 2010):
All bull. You'll just be used. And when it goes wrong, you'll be the one made to look bad. Forget him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): *my ex tells me that im the one he would of married if i didnt leave him..is that bull or what*
Yep, 24 Carat BS
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 May 2010):
Why did you leave him?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (19 May 2010):
 He simply wants to use you. If he loved you, he'd be married to you. Don't subject yourself to that lack of respect. He only wants sex. Not to mention what wanting to cheat on his wife speaks about his character.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 May 2010):
No offense, but he sounds like skank. I can appreciate you all had great sex and all that, but the man is married now, he made a commitment to his wife and to suggest this to you makes him sound like a jerk. Sorry, but if I'd heard that from an ex, that would probably be the very last time I talked to him. The disrespect for his wife and family? The assumption that he could still have you AND his wife? The man must have an ego the size of Baltimore. Yuk, yuk, yuk and yuk again.
I rather think that if he truly loved you, he wouldn't be married to another woman. He'd be married to you. He's not, he made other choices. It's what grown ups do.
Relive the happy memories in your head, leave the man to relive his own memories in his head, and honestly, trying to stay friends with him? I think it's a bad idea.
That poor wife. Good grief.
Take care of yourself.
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reader, browneyes73 +, writes (19 May 2010):
browneyes73 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy ex tells me that im the one he would of married if i didnt leave him..is that bull or what
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reader, brklynsis81 +, writes (19 May 2010):
 Seriously, he is using you for sex. Have some self-respect and stop answering his calls. And find a man who is available.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): I wouldn't even be good friends with him. He has told you want he wants, he wants to sleep with you, this has got disaster written all over it. He's you ex leave it that way.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 May 2010):
Far from it. He's probably happily married but wants the extra sex. The answer is don't give it to him, because when the music stops and his wife finds out, you'll be dumped. Don't be used.
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