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4 October 2012: Happiness - such a simple thing, yet nobody seems to be able to achieve it. So, working from my own experience, I have devised these little tips to hopefully help all you unhappy folk lighten up a little. These are just a few ways I've learnt to m...
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How do I get my 73 year old husband to wash every day?
Q. How can I get my husband of 73 to wash everyday? He gets upset when I pull away from him as even a kiss makes me feel sick...he never brushes his teeth, I change pillow cases every day as they are smelly and greasy! We have single beds now...I ...
A. 25 July 2014: It's such a shame that this has driven such a large wedge between you both! I completely sympathise though, it can't be pleasant. Honesty is the best policy, sit him down and explain how you're feeling about his lack of personal hygiene. Does... (read in full...)
Is there any way to trust my boyfriend again?
Q. Is there any way to trust my boyfriend again? After a gut feeling that something wasn't right, I have found on two separate occasions that he has been messaging other girls inappropriately. the messages were SO hurtful. I confronted him and he wants ...
A. 5 October 2012: In my opinion, this person doesn't deserve your trust and you don't need him in your life. You could do so much better.
If you really want to make this work and re-build your trust for him though, this is possible. You just need to work at it da... (read in full...)
I want to be dating my friend but don't think he feels the same
Q. Hey everyone, thanks in advance for reading, here's the issue... So a little while ago I got out of a relationship of one year. He's a wonderful person, but we just couldn't work any more. Pretty soon after the break up I started hanging out w...
A. 5 October 2012: You both obviously like each other so I say you should talk to him about this! Certainly don't 'keep your mouth shut' as you deserve to know where you stand either way.
Best of luck!... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard for him to make his decision if he knows his happiness is only with me?
Q. I have been attached to this guy for a month plus now. And he used to be working in Singapore, whereas I'm a born-Singaporean. I had broke up with my ex-boyfriend a few months back at the start of 2012, and so I went online Facebook to search for ...
A. 5 October 2012: You're welcome! I don't think you should spend all your time trying to convince him to choose you. As i'm sure you'd rather him choose you because he WANTS to, not because you've persuaded him. You'll be okay!... (read in full...)
My LDR has just told me he has met someone new and intends to marry her. Why am I so emotional over this change?
Q. My long distance boy friend has confirmed to me today that he has a new woman in his life and he may marry her. Why am I so sad and crying? Please help me. I am an adult and should know better than getting emotional. he wants me to write to h...
A. 4 October 2012: It's completely normal for you to be upset, you're not exactly going to be thrilled about the whole idea. Adult or not!
It's extremely strange that he wants to you write to him about how you're feeling, but remember that you don't have to do that... (read in full...)
Making love versus masturbation: why can't I provide the same level of pleasure for her as she manages alone?
Q. Okay I have never used this before so here goes. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 years and our sex life is good. but I know my girlfriend does things on her own, and and she goes through multiply orgasms! Using her own techniqu...
A. 4 October 2012: I honestly wouldn't worry about this at all. Many women achieve multiple orgasms through masturbation and don't get the exact same results from sex. She just knows exactly what she likes, she knows her own body better.
You could always just ask her ... (read in full...)
My husband is constantly putting me down.
Q. My husband who is in denial has been putting me down for years for one reason or another. I will point it out to him as he is doing but he sees NOTHING wrong with it. I have question his love for me, but im so sure that he is NOT nor has ever lov...
A. 4 October 2012: Your husband is a bit of a bully in my opinion. You don't need this dragging you down at all. You deserve to be treated far better than this. I recommend that you end this relationship, why would you settle for a bully when you could find someone ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend does what he wants without considering my feelings
Q. My boyfriend and I have had a rocky relationship to say the least. The first year of our relationship he had an emotional affair with an old girlfriend. He even kissed her once and even though he told me about it, I have never fully trusted him ...
A. 4 October 2012: You're not being unreasonable. Due to his past behavior he now has to be more understanding and sensitive with you about these situations. If he's cheated on you before he should be making tremendous effort to prove to you that it's not going to be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's outgoing personality is causing some trust issues with me. How can I deal with this, or should I even deal with this?
Q. Hi there, I am in a big mess and I need some good advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for around 7 months now. He has a very friendly nature and is able to have conversations with almost anyone and everyone. He makes friends with fem...
A. 4 October 2012: Firstly, I can understand your worries over the Ex. If this relationship is to continue healthily, then he needs to stop any communication with her, especially if he is being sent inappropriate images of her during their chats.
As you said, he's... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard for him to make his decision if he knows his happiness is only with me?
Q. I have been attached to this guy for a month plus now. And he used to be working in Singapore, whereas I'm a born-Singaporean. I had broke up with my ex-boyfriend a few months back at the start of 2012, and so I went online Facebook to search for ...
A. 4 October 2012: Well, this does all sound very confusing! In my opinion this 'Kahlon' sounds like a very complicated man, do you really want to be dealing with all this?
If you're insistent on pursuing this then you just need to wait for him to make his deci... (read in full...)
Married to a Serial Cheater. Our baby will be born in January. And your advice about what to do about this situation would be?
Q. I am married to what I think is a serial cheater. We have been together 7 years married for 4 years. Once caught him on sex dating websites, with hidden email accounts and we put an end to it and communicated on what and why he did it and some of h...
A. 4 October 2012: I'm sorry, but I really don't think your husband is going to change. You deserve so much better than this, there are people out there who would treat you 100 times better. Think about your children too, how is seeing you in an unhealthy relationship ... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? My boyfriend went out with his friends and he had a private nude lap dance provided for his enjoyment.
Q. I've never posted on anything like this before but I'm really not sure what to do. A few weeks my boyfriend went out with his friends just for a night on the town with the boys. At beginning of the night he and his friends went to a strip club ...
A. 4 October 2012: I know that if I were you, i'd feel the same way too. Whether or not this is cheating is entirely down to you to decide, What do you deem as unacceptable in a relationship and cheating? In my opinion, your boyfriend shouldn't have any naked girl on ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I want to talk to her on Facebook, but I'm afraid it's too late and I've lost my chance
Q. Ok, so, this summer I met this amazing girl, who, as it turned out, was a lesbian. She developed a crush on me - everyone knew about it even though nothing was ever said. She would stop and stare at me as I walked past, get incredibly nervous ...
A. 4 October 2012: If you want to pursue this the only thing you can do is talk to her, if your only way of doing this is through facebook, then do it! Do you have her mobile number? if not, ask for it on facebook. I'd call her as it shows her you are actually willing ... (read in full...)
How do I approach the trainer at my gym without looking desperate?
Q. How do I approach him? Will I look desperate if I do? This guy (trainer) at my gym is so cute. He's friendly to everyone and talks to everyone but me:(!! He's always looking at me. He's always in a place where I can see him and he c...
A. 4 October 2012: I think the best thing you can do is have a casual, only slightly-flirty conversation. Dropping hints now and then. IF the conversation is kept casual it can't get awkward if you did happen to discover he has a girlfriend. Be friendly and open. If ... (read in full...)
Any thoughts on how to overcome being overly emotional? I thought we had something happening. Maybe? But now he wants to 'go slow' and not rush thing????
Q. For the past 2 months, I've been dating a co-worker. He's a custodian who specifically is responsible for cleaning/maintaining my office. It's been a bit tough because I work days and he works 3 - 11 pm. He would usually come in to take out my t...
A. 4 October 2012: I think he was scared of a little when you got emotional, and since you guys haven't been together too long he didn't really know how to deal with it. You just need to wait this out and see what happens for now. Take things one step at a time. It ... (read in full...)
We recently gave our virginity to each other but my boyfriend wants to wait before having sex again
Q. Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I (we are both 24) recently lost our virginity to each other. We talked about it together vaguely for about 2 months before, and seriously for about a month before we had sex. We have been seeing each other for a...
A. 4 October 2012: I believe your relationship is going to be fine. Sex is new to you both and I think he was shocked at how emotionally attached to you he felt afterwards. Also, the pregnancy scare could make him anxious about having sex again soon. It may be a good ... (read in full...)
Is physical pleasure the most important thing about sex and does sex turn men into horny, unthinking animals?
Q. I feel alienated from people because I don't believe in casual sex and favour intimacy over physical pleasure. I've been told that my views come from immaturity and that once I have sex everything will change and I will become nothing short of a sex ...
A. 4 October 2012: In my opinion, you are 100% correct. Your views do not come from immaturity. In-fact, those who think sex is just meant for physical pleasure are the ones with immature attitudes!
You have a view on sex which many women will respect you for. It's... (read in full...)
I am financially supporting my boyfriend and it's getting to be too much. What should I do or try to resolve this?
Q. I've been a relationship with this guy for almost a year and, he does not have a job. When we first met, he was working at his dad's company but, he quit because, he wanted to branch out on his own. Well, since then he has not been actively loo...
A. 4 October 2012: You need to sit your boyfriend down and explain to him how important it is that he helps out financially. Remind him that he has children to support and be a role model for. Try and help him get motivated, look for jobs that would suit him o... (read in full...)
How do I move forward? and where to? I'm in a confused state over my sexual identity. I think dressing up as a woman is exciting. ButI identify as heterosexual. This isn't out of denial or fear of being gay or bisexual
Q. I'm in a pretty confusing place in terms of my sexual identity, so I thought I'd ask for some advice. In everyday life I identify as heterosexual, and to pre-empt the confusing aspects of me, this isn't out of denial or fear of being gay or bis...
A. 4 October 2012: 'Well, I guess I feel kind of ashamed' - don't feel ashamed of yourself. You are who you are, people can and will accept you. This question? It's all down to you. Do you think you need to move on from this? Or are you willing to accept yourself... (read in full...)
I am SO in love with this girl who is my Ex Gf. But what do you guys think? She says she can't say how she feels.
Q. Hello again, my name is E.and there is this amazing girl. She is my ex Gf. Her personality is amazing we got together the day after my birthday and we stayed together for 6 months and she was 100 percent with me. she didnt lie, she didnt cheat ...
A. 4 October 2012: I'm sorry to tell you this, but I really think you're wasting your time on something that just isn't meant to be. She obviously is never going to be able to settle down with you for long. If I were you i'd move on. Obviously it's going to be very ... (read in full...)
My friend is confusing me. I am openly gay. Could these things my friend is doing be signs of him gauging reactions from his family about possibly being gay?
Q. So, I am in a bit of a confusing situation. I recently transferred to a university. At the orientation, a guy approached me and I immediately got the vibe that he was "gay." His body movement, his gestures, his way of expressing himself...I don'...
A. 4 October 2012: You think this is so strange because you're comfortable and open when your sexuality is concerned. Your friend could be gay, but then there's a chance he's not. There's no way to tell for sure really as I don't think a 'gaydar' is 100% reliabl... (read in full...)
HOT as fire to ICE cold. Might this work if we resolve things? I am making life changes with him, but now I'm scared.
Q. I have a problem. I do not easily let people in, because I know if I ever truly give my heart completely to someone, and they break it, it will be the last time. I know myself. I ended up getting very close to someone I knew for six years, but who ...
A. 4 October 2012: You need to go and see him as soon as possible. You both need to learn to be more supportive of each-other through this. You need to respect the fact that he has had a lot to deal with lately and your relationship may not exactly be his number one ... (read in full...)
I love my sister but I don't know if I can live with her because of the way she is
Q. My sister and I aren't particularly close. I'm the oldest by one year, but we are so very different. She's sociable and i like my alone time. I have two very close friends, that i trust with my life, when she has a multitude of friends and ...
A. 4 October 2012: I think you could both do with some adjustments here, and could both do with taking a leaf out of each-others books. You could do with chilling out a little more, and learning to relax as you're only going to end up stressed. Whereas it wouldn't ... (read in full...)
My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What would be a good classy way to break it off ?
Q. Hello everyone. My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What happened is that he suddenly changed his FB password after adding a girl he used to have a crush on... And lately we just been extremely distant so I went through my Facebook and dele...
A. 4 October 2012: Well done for realizing on your own that you're better off without this idiot. You're obviously a smart woman and
You've definitely made the right choice here.
As for a classy way to break it off? I'd honestly just meet up / call him when you can ... (read in full...)
What does it imply about the intentions of guy A, when guy A told guy B to stop flirting with me?
Q. What does it mean when a guy tells another guy to stop flirting with me the guy that said stop told me he started having feelings for me one week ago and the other guy we just talk a little at school...
A. 4 October 2012: This boy was obviously a little jealous when he got the impression this other boy was flirting with you. Time to get excited.. it's very likely that he likes you!
The only way to decide what happens now is to think about whether or not you like... (read in full...)
How can you trust someone enough to share all your flaws and secrets?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks and we're really connecting. I really like him and I think this might turn into something. But here's the thing, I haven't been in a relationship in three years. He just got out of a long-term one (a...
A. 4 October 2012: 'How can you trust someone so completely with every flaw and secret that you have?' - you just do! when you can trust this person completely, you'll know.
There is no reason for you to tell him everything about you so soon anyway. He has secr... (read in full...)
Just started dating but very little sex
Q. I have started seeing this girl (28 I am 34) a 2 months ago. We liked each other right away and after a few times we made love. We where both traveling the first month so we only got together briefly 3 times and made love. She then came to my city ...
A. 3 October 2012: I understand you have needs, but calm down, it's been 2 weeks! it's manageable.
There could be many reasons for her lack of interest in sex the last 2 weeks, as you said she is very busy.. she may just be tired? Just because she hasn't had sex with... (read in full...)
The heart wants what it cannot have?
Q. This is quite the long and complicated story but I will try and keep it simple. I met a woman about six months ago who revealed to me that she was bisexual very early on. When we first met I noticed that we had a strong connection and the more I got ...
A. 3 October 2012: 'Will this be the classic case of "the heart wants what it cannot have?' - Probably, But thats not your fault as you gave her plenty of chances.
It seems to me like all she's going to do is mess you around. You don't need that. Move on! You can ... (read in full...)
When he walked by me and smiled I was in shock and didn't do anything. Do I ruin my chances?
Q. A guy I like who i didnt think even knew i existed, walked past me and smiled really nicely i was so shocked i didnt really do anything except gawk...now he won't even look at me and when i try to smile at him now he looks away as if on purpose :( ...
A. 3 October 2012: It's all in your head! I think you've gotten so paranoid that you've ruined your chances with this guy that you're convincing yourself he is now purposely ignoring you. This isn't the case and you just need to communicate with him. Talk to him, Make ... (read in full...)
I am truly doubting my decision to break up. Despite his failings, did I make a mistake to break up with him? Help!!!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend last Friday and I'm starting to doubt my decision. Did I make a mistake? We had been together for a little over two years and we had been in a LDR for six months (I was the one who had to move due to my dad's job). I...
A. 3 October 2012: First of all, you need to stop questioning your decision. You have made the RIGHT CHOICE, trust me.
This guy sounds like a weird, controlling idiot that certainly didn't deserve to play such a big part of your life for 2 years. I know you miss him,... (read in full...)
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