Smile and be happy. Your guide if ever you feel unhappy. What else helps you to be happy?

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Article - (4 October 2012)

2 Comments - (Newest, 21 October 2012)

A female age 30-35, AuntyAunt writes:

Happiness - such a simple thing, yet nobody seems to be able to achieve it. So, working from my own experience, I have devised these little tips to hopefully help all you unhappy folk lighten up a little.

These are just a few ways I've learnt to make myself a tad more cheerful.

You're standing in your own way:

The way I see it, you're only ever as happy as you let yourself be.

For example - if you're depriving yourself of things that make you smile, you're the cause of your own misery. Simple as that. Now of course I'm not saying you should go out and spend every penny you have on designer clothes because they make you smile. That would be stupid.

Although It doesn't hurt to treat yourself now and then.. I was thinking more along the lines of spending more time with the kids and postponing those work things you just 'have' to get done right this second.

Or taking up that opportunity to go out with your friends and have a good time, rather than stay in just because you feel you should.

One thing you need to remember is that you should never feel guilty for wanting yourself to be happy!

Yes, it's important to think about other people, but lets face it, are you going to be in any position to help another person if you're miserable? Probably not.

Pushing yourself into being happy:

you shouldn't pressure yourself into being happy. If you're constantly pretending to be happy and forcing a smile on your face, the only results you'll be getting is an aching mouth.

From my own experience, the whole 'a mask becomes a face' thing is a lot of nonsense. You may have a different opinion, but I know it's never worked for me.

Embrace your day as it comes, think about things that make you happy, think about all you have to look forward to! Surround yourself with people you care about. Do anything that will make you happy naturally.

Other people bringing you down:

People tend to complain a lot about other people making them unhappy. If this is your case, they either need to shape up or ship out. Dealing with their crap is simply NOT an option for you.

You deserve to be supported and surrounded by people who love you and make you smile. Every relationship has it's ups and downs.. but if yours is constantly down with the occasional good days.. is it really worth it? especially when your happiness is simply non-existent as a result.

Helping others:

A great way to make yourself happy is simply to do something nice for someone else. You'd be surprised how much it helps! Even if it's just buying someone else a gift with money you could've spent on something pointless.. the look on the persons face is 100% worth it, completely priceless. You'll feel SO much better about yourself and feel heaps better throughout the day.

Relaxation:

Stress is something thats inevitable, we all experience it and it's completely normal. What most people don't do is try and relax themselves when stress levels are getting too high. They like to soldier on, when sometimes thats the worst thing you can do for yourself. When stress starts getting you down, you need to nip it in the bud. Take an evening to yourself and do whatever you like to do to unwind. I recommend a bubble bath and your favorite TV programme.

Healthy Lifestyle:

We've all had those nights where we've thought 'the only thing that can save me now is a big tub of ben and jerry's, along with a chinese take-away and 3 bars of chocolate.' we've all done it, and it's great at the time.. until you bloat to the size of a balloon and feel like you're 9 months pregnant with a bag of bricks. The way your body feels is an important factor to being happy! if your body feels good - you will too! If your body feels gross - you're going to too. Healthy eating and exercise is a great way to feel good about yourself and be happy. Start going for long walks on the weekends, appreciate the fresh air and scenery.

Be yourself:

I've found that you're never fully happy until you're not afraid to be yourself, and you're honest with yourself and others about who you are. If you're not comfortable being yourself, how are you possibly going to be happy? Love who you are.

Don't expect miracles:

Nobody can be happy 100% all the time, it's unrealistic to think that you can be. Everyone has problems, everyone gets miserable. It's natural. One thing that we can do is do everything we can to make ourselves happy. We all deserve it.

I hope at least one of these tips have helped you!

Smile and be happy.

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A female reader, Abella +, writes (21 October 2012):