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... Send *skSusie a private message | | | *skSusie's profile:My name is Susannah and I'm 29 years old. I've been through alot of different emotional feelings - you could say i'm an emotional roller coaster - and it's turned me into a practical person who has practical, honest and straight forward answers to give.
It's often not easy to be practical - actually even I find it difficult. But if I can do it, you can do it - and if you can do it, then I can do it too. We need people, we need their experiences, their thoughts and their compassion, to help get through the tough times. What's life without a little love and a little help when love becomes tough?
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How can I tell if this guy is interested in me... when I'm also a guy...?
Q. Life is so strange for me... I am married with kids, and outwardly everything looks great - good job, nice house, loads of friends, a few cars, reasonable social life... A lifestyle others would kill for. But, I've fallen for someone else...an...
A. 6 September 2008: Hello English Man,
I really think you are asking the wrong question and focusing on the wrong situation at hand. You asked 'So how can I ask him his feelings, without putting a friendship at risk...'
What about putting your relationship at your ris... (read in full...)
Would the test result be positive even if you weren't pregnant?
Q. I was just wondering because I was a little confused and curious; If you are taking the contraceptive pill, it tricks your body into thinking that youre pregnant by the changes in hormones. What would happen if you were to take a pregnanc...
A. 6 September 2008: Hi Anonymous,
I really think that this type of question should be taken to your doctor - while it's great to have friends all over the world respond to your question on this fantastic site, when it relates to something directed at your health or a... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my height after a comment by this girl?
Q. I went on a few dates with a girl but nothing really picked up. A friend of mine ran into the girl randomly at a party and asked her what she thought of me. She said that I was a good person and a lot of fun but not what she was looking for. My ...
A. 6 September 2008: Hi Cana,
Well, there are two ways you can look at this. One way, is looking at it exactly the way you are looking at it and continue to feel down. Not a very good feeling is it?
The other way, is to realise that there are billions of people i... (read in full...)
What do women think about a guy thats 23 and still a virgin?
Q. What do women think about a guy thats 23 and still a virgin. thats my situation. im not ugly or fat....
A. 14 August 2008: It's definitely not a negative thing - sex is always very personal and should not be a topic which is taken so lightly. Good for you inzlo!... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that this girl is going to ruin my life, and there doesn't seem anything I can do to stop it! Please help.
Q. Hey all! Me and my girlfriend were going out for three months when i found out she was cheating on me. We talked it over and decided to stay together. We continued going out for another three months and then she dumped me for a different guy (not ...
A. 9 August 2008: I recommend the restraining order. This girl is a control freak and because you can get over her quickly this makes her mad - she wants you to adore her and run after her crying and begging for her return, she's probably used to this.
R... (read in full...)
Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage?
Q. Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage? My husband and I are very intimate even though he has to have his short outside affairs for years. He likes to play his little games of conq...
A. 9 August 2008: Hi,
I had the same problem but I just got up and left the situation entirely, i'd had enough. You are just as insecure as he is - but when you leave no matter how hard it is in the beginning, 10 weeks later you are like 'what the hell was I wait... (read in full...)
Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage?
Q. Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage? My husband and I are very intimate even though he has to have his short outside affairs for years. He likes to play his little games of conq...
A. 9 August 2008: Hi,
I had the same problem but I just got up and left the situation entirely, i'd had enough. You are just as insecure as he is - but when you leave no matter how hard it is in the beginning, 10 weeks later you are like 'what the hell was I wait... (read in full...)
I'm ready to leave him but I still love him! I can't trust him!
Q. If a man cheats on his girlfriend when she is pregnant and you stay with him can you trust he will never do it again? Also if a man doesnt help out around the house or with the kids can he ever change? I have been with my boyfriend for 2 ...
A. 8 August 2008: dwauntie, sounds like your heart is breaking and you are trying to keep it together. The best favour you can do for yourself is walk away from this moron. Dont even bother taking him back when he begs, which he will, because he'll go back to norma... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure about my boyfriend - please advise!
Q. Hi, I've a question on cheating by text. I am with someone 10 years. Up till now the relationship has been good. He goes away a lot for international sports competitions. At the last one (June) he mentioned he gave advice to a fellow sportsper...
A. 8 August 2008: Hi anonymous, Trust your instincts in this case. It sounds like your boyfriend certainly does need a wake up call because you are being hurt. No one ever in the world has the right to make you feel insecure.
Walk away from this guy - I wouldnt even... (read in full...)
How do I get over him now that he's no longer my boyfriend and he's getting married?
Q. My boyfriend is getting an arranged marriage. He is in his country right now and he is having the wedding sometime this week or sometime next week. I cannot even call him my boyfriend anymore, because he is someone else's now. How do I stop thinking ...
A. 3 August 2008: Hi sweetheart, It's devestating I know. It isn't fair that he became your boyfriend when he knew he was going to have an arranged marriage due to his culture requirements. Time heals all wounds. The best way to get over him, because this has... (read in full...)
Hoping and wishing or just being foolish?
Q. dear cupid i feel like i really need your help. I was with my partner for nearly 5 years and because of me being in a large amount of debt we used to argue so we decided to call it a day. 8 months ago. He says we officially split up 2 months a...
A. 2 August 2008: Miss Hayley, Oh my god get away from this man! He's such a loser - you are not a loser. So you have debt problems? You need to focus on YOU, getting yourself out of debt and moving onto bigger and better places financially, emotionally and RELATION... (read in full...)
He was smoking behind my back, should I forgive him?
Q. I love my boyfreind and he gave up smoking for me when we started dating nearly 8 months ago.I found out on the weekend that he has been smoking behind my back and didnt tell me. I forgive him because he didnt want to tell me cause he knew i would ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hello anonymous,
Firstly, get a hold of yourself! So long as he is not cheating, then big deal! He could be doing alot worse.
Secondly, you gave him the opportunity to do this behind your back by telling him what to do.
Your relationship... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gave me an unusual excuse to justify his delay...
Q. have you ever heard the excuse"i stopped to help a disoriontated blind man that was walking out into the street, and gave him a ride. when you ask your supposed exclusive boyfriend what took him so long? and he was only driving 1mile up the street ...
A. 28 July 2008: Anonymous,
What's the reason behind your suspicion? Sounds like your boyfriend has given you past reason to be suspicious of his activities.
Let me know so I can give you a next move,
Regards,
AskSusie... (read in full...)
I'm tired of making time for him while he's often unavailable!
Q. I've been dating this for the past 3 yrs my problem is he works from monday to saturday,he doesn't have time for movies or anything with me we only have a sunday for each other.the problem is that i'm a church goer so i just have time for him for ...
A. 28 July 2008: Anonymous,
Look how old you are! Don't waste your time on this idiot and definitely don't trust him. Time's a ticking honey! This is what you need to do to move on:
Find a hobbie where you can meet new friends! Make sure that the friends you meet... (read in full...)
We split up 3 times before; I am scared of letting my defences down in case he pulls the rug from under my feet again!!!
Q. In the past two years my partner and I have split up three times, we have been together for 8 years in total. Each time it has been because he feels the grass is greener and then he returns begging forgiveness, crying, promising me he will change, ...
A. 27 July 2008: Hi anonymous, I'm 29, we are in a similar age bracket so I'm just going to be downright honest with you. I think you need to move on. This person has left you three times in the past, and from my experience, a pattern is a pattern. What happens in ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to live sexually frustrated or will it just get harder as time goes on?
Q. I am in a situation and wondering if others can share their wisdom. I am in my mid 20s and have been in a relationship wiht a man now in his early 40s for almost four years. Things were absolutely perfect to begin with but ever since we've live...
A. 27 July 2008: Anonymous, I must tell you that the answer to your question "Is it possible to live sexually frustrated or will it just get harder as time goes on?" is simply, no. It is not possible to live this way. You will need to take this issue as a learning... (read in full...)
The baby turns out NOT to be my boyfriend's but he still supports him, should I meet this other woman?
Q. ive been dating this guy for a five years and he had a baby scare with someone right before our relationship got serious. the baby turns out not to be his and he still takes care of the child just to be a good guy by being a good support. my main ...
A. 27 July 2008: This is a tough question 'yourgirl'. I'd say, considering that your boyfriend made this decision on his own, you would need to respect his decision and allow him to see through the commitment he has made. So, your option is to definitely meet thi... (read in full...)
Is it possible to make yourself like someone?
Q. There is this guy who likes me a lot and have for years. He's very sweet to me and would make a great boyfriend, which is what i really want. The problem is that im not attracted to him at all. I still have very strong feelings for the guy I lost my ...
A. 27 July 2008: Yes, it is definitely possible to fall inlove with someone you currently don't love. It's happened to me numerous times.
How does it happen?
Well you spend time with them. A little bit every day or second day. You talk to them often on the phone an... (read in full...)
I am almost obsessed with the idea of getting married and having kids, should I be thinking about this?
Q. Okay my bf and i have been together for almost three months and i am 17 and he is 19. Anyway, I am almost obsessed with the idea of getting married and having kids i mean what girl doesnt think about that, i just want to know if im being too ...
A. 27 July 2008: Hi anonymous,
I'm 29 years old. I think back to the boyfriend I had when I was 17 and wow, I honestly thought he was the one. But now I think to myself, 'if I married that guy, we would so be divorced by now'.
So, from a professional's perspect... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get mad at my boyfriend for checking out another girl (but a famous one?)
Q. is it wrong to get mad at your boyfriend for checking out another girl but it was at a concert and it was a famous person(carrie underwood? should you trust your boyfriend when going out with him when there will be girls?...
A. 27 July 2008: Hi sexmagnet,
Do you know how to handle this for your own sake, esteem and relationship sake? Do the exact opposite of what you normally would do.
Instead of freaking out that your boyfriend has checked out another girl, point out girls for him ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my chances with this married woman?...
Q. Hi. 3.5 years ago a woman joined my workplace who I was visually attracted to at the time but we never spoke. I was (and still am) in a long term relationship. She married one year later. In fact the first time I spoke with her was when she retu...
A. 27 July 2008: Anonymous, you've shared your story with potentially thousands of readers and you've asked everyone to spare you the insults.
Are you looking for permission to potentially destroy three people's lives.
What you need to do to play this is be hones... (read in full...)
Get ex back? Or let him have my other ex's girlfriend?
Q. Me and my ex had a great relationship for over three months! We broke up because he said he needed a break... I was heartbroken! I talked him into getting back together the next day! A few days later he still wasnt happy with me and broke up with me ...
A. 27 July 2008: Hell no! Don't go back to this guy. I know for a fact that there is someone out there bigger and better for you.
Girls spend alot of time trying to analyse a relationship because they have low self esteem and nothing going on in their own life... (read in full...)
How will he react if I stop having sex with him?
Q. I really like this guy who basically just used me for sex. I wanted to date him but he saw our relationship as "friends with benefits" He said he cared about me and I think he kinda did, he just didnt want a relationship. He did boyfriend stuff with ...
A. 27 July 2008: Anonymous, This guy is just not into you. It doesn't matter about what he says - actions speak louder than words. The fact you had to actually come online to ask people about this must account for something.
Trust me when I say, there is a man out ... (read in full...)
I just can't stop being possessive with my first boyfriend
Q. i cant stop be possesive with my boyfriend he first had sex with me and i think that he is going to want to try it with someone else and he likes to go out with his mates for a game of poole he dosent go out very often he dosent drink i say i trust ...
A. 27 July 2008: Sarah,
Trust me when I tell you that you are only 18 and this is not the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. I've been in your position and spent so many days agonising over the wrong guys, now that i'm 29 I think to myself 'Why didn... (read in full...)
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