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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey all! Me and my girlfriend were going out for three months when i found out she was cheating on me. We talked it over and decided to stay together. We continued going out for another three months and then she dumped me for a different guy (not the one she cheated with before). I was heartbroken and thought that i wouldn't find anyone else. However, i then met someone at a party and we really hit it off. We started dating but then my ex, who had dumped the guy she left me for, found out i was dating this new girl. She asked to meet me and it was all fine, we talked about what had happened and she then asked me if i would take her back. I told her that i was happy with my new girl, but she didn't take this well.The next two months, my ex had a long string of one-night-stands and kept showing off her new 'boyfriends' in what i guess was an attempt to make me jealous. after this failed she began calling all the time, at all hours of the night, calling up my girlfriend and talking about all the sexual things we had done, and asking if we could have threesomes. My girlfriend put up with this at first and i tried desperatley to talk to my ex but she wouldn't stop - and my girlfriend left me.I had an enormous row with my ex and shouted at her for ruining my relationship. She told me that she just wanted me to love her and give her another chance. Eventually, i agreed to give it a try and go out on a date with her. We went to a restaurant together, but on the date she kept looking at other guys, and i am sure she actually made out with a guy in the toilets during one of her 'make-up breaks'. It went horribly. and i told her that it wasn't going to work. This, as i expected, didn't please her.It's now two weeks later and i have met this new girl who i really like, and she seems to dig me too. My ex says that if i start going out with her, she'll tell the girl that i'm having an affair with her or some rubbish. I'm afraid that this girl is going to ruin my life and there doesn't seem anything i can do to stop it. I don't want to put a restraining order on her because i think that's going a bit far, but i can't think of what else to do. Please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): This girl needs professional help; BUT that is not your problem; ignore all her calls and messages; all forms of contact and get the RESTRAINING ORDER as soon as possible; in a way you might be helping her by doing that; it might be the way that se will realize that she needs help.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Get the restraining order, she is a bunny boiler and who knows what she will resort to. Do it before anyone gets hurt, you cant live like this and it doesnt sound like she will stop anytime soon x
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Get the restraining order. There is nothing worse when you start dating a guy and his ex keeps being a pain in the but txting at stupid oclock in the night. Get the order and atleast then any girls you meet will see that you have done your bit to shake off this lunatic. It will make all the difference trust me. If you go all milky and dont get it sorted, she will stick a spanner in the works with everyone you ever meet.
Good luck.
C xxxxxx
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reader, belladonna123  +, writes (9 August 2008):
Trust me, you are thinking on the right track. Get that restraining order as it is the only thing at this point that will stop her. She IS ruining your life, your happiness! She is a manipulitive little B#$%%^, and she needs to be taught a lesson. Go and get that order and don't feel bad about it!Good luck!
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reader, myp +, writes (9 August 2008):
 a bit far.... youre kidding
shes friggin psychotic!!! get a restraining order immediately! if she keeps bothering you or your (potential)girlfriend file charges for harassment, and if it
continues file stalking charges.... so on and so forth
the thing about this behavior is it escalates and can often result in violence. i know that a young woman might not pose much of a threat to a man (in a mans mind) but muscles dont mean much pitted against guns and knives.
take legal action immediately
best of luck
-Myesha
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice. I'm beginning to think that maybe it is a good idea to get a restraining order against her. I don't really know what else to do.
Thanks for all your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): Honey,please put that restraining order on her.It's the best thing for you.She's acting like a child,playing mind games with you.She can't accept the fact that you're with someone else,yet she feels she can have you AND someone else.She's not worth it.Don't think that moving far away,
or blocking her calls is going to do it.You need to put that restraining order on her NOW.Don't put up with that witch any longer.She's destroying your relationships and
life.If you decide to not put that restraining order on
her,which I really hope you do not do,then don't give her any more chances.You've gave her enough chances and she took advantage of them ALL.So,pretty please,with a cherry on top,put a restraining order on this girl.It is the best thing for you.Your mind has got the right idea.wish you the best.message me if you want to talk more about this.x
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reader, AskSusie  +, writes (9 August 2008):
I recommend the restraining order. This girl is a control freak and because you can get over her quickly this makes her mad - she wants you to adore her and run after her crying and begging for her return, she's probably used to this.
Restraining order all the way and good luck with your new love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): Sweetie... A restaining order is NOT going too far. She will continue to do this sort of garbage, until something stops her, and the police might do the trick. I know that at one time you loved her, but remembr, she is the one with the problem....not you. You have to take controle of your life, and filling a restraing order does the trick, then so be it Sugar Booger. Don't let her ruin your life... She seems to be sick and needs help. Major Help!
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