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writes: I really need help. I'm in my senior year, and I graduate in 50 days. I started to see a new guy a month ago. Up until before I gave in to going on a date with him, I really felt like I had to convince myself to like him. I gave it a really big chance and felt like I started to like him. We've been seeing eachother ever since. I do feel like I like him but those sparks and butterflies and giddiness and strong ATTRACTION just isn't there. There is this other guy who I've had a crush on for 2 years but was too scared to talk to. I recently found out from my best friend in the entire world that he likes me back and has liked me for years. The two of us have been too scared to talk to eachother. When she told me this, I didn't tell her, but I was thrilled. I am over the moon about this. I am so attracted to him and I get those craaaaaazzzzyyy butterflies around him. He's on my mind all the time, and it keeps me awake at night just thinking of him. My face goes red and my heart beats a mile a minute at just the mention of his name. And now I just feel guilty. He really likes me, and unfortunately, I can't stop thinking about him. Ever.I want to badly to be loyal to the guy I'm seeing. I refuse to cheat. He's been true to me and I want to be true to him, but I can't help but CONSTANTLY think about the other guy. I just don't know what to do. My happiness lays in the feelings I'm getting for this new guy. I'm just so confused. I wish he would have just had the guts to tell me this a month ago. Things would be sooooo different right now. What do I do? :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): When you date someone you always look at another person, guys do it too, they start looking for the good in everyone else that their partner doesn't have. However if you feel the spark just isn't there for you then you either need to try and put the spark there or think about breaking up with him because if you keep the relationship going for too long he will get attached to you and it will hurt him if later on you decide you like someone else. Dating someone and feeling something for someone else is a tricky one that only you can really decide on. You can take other people's advice but in the end it's all down to how much you like your boyfriend and how much you like other people. I hope my advice helped you a little bit. Good luck
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reader, anonymous_jp  +, writes (16 April 2011):
imagine if your current boyfriend knew about these feelings towards the other guy. im sure he would prefer to have someone with those feelings towards him so follow your heart with this guy you really have feelings for. make sure the guy you are into isnt a "player" and just wants you in the pants. they make the world such a crap place.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): Only one thing you can do.
Break up with the guy you're with -- go out with the guy you get sparks for. Otherwise you're just wasting your time, and his (the guy you're currently with).
Good luck.
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