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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone. I've this massive problem bugging me. My relationship with my girlfriend has been rocky these days and i'm not sure of what to think of now. Oh and she has trust issues because of her ex. Okay, direct to the point.My parents doesn't agree in having a girlfriend before this big examination i'm having this year but i've been hiding it from my girlfriend for quite sometime. Things turned out kinda bad like i got caught calling my girlfriend which i didn't admit to my parents that i'm talking to my girlfriend.And so this very one night, when she was all pissed off before because of the incident, she called me to know what's going on. We've had fights about this before but this time it turned out badly than the previous fights. I admitted that my parents doesn't want me having a relationship. I explained why i didn't told her before because of fear for she might leave me because of that. She just deflected that and gets more disappointed.She trusted me a whole lot before. But now, she pointed to me as a big fat liar after i've admitted it. Lastly, after she hung up on me whereby she doesn't even wanna talk to me, she picked up my call and i told her if she doesn't want me anymore, i will leave her in peace because i respect her and we'll remain friends. She was in silence and just replied i don't know what are we now. Does that means she doesn't wanna leave me too?What should i do to make things right, regain her trust and still have her as my girlfriend because i love her so much and i don't wanna lose her. And i lied because i had to, not because i want to. She's my everything, like a completed puzzle.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 April 2010):
 No matter what age you are , if you are still staying in your parents house,it is still their rules.What they say goes.
Give your g/f sometime to think about it. I am sure she will come to an understanding about your problems.
If she loves you , she would understand your predicaments.
Your parents want you to concentrate on your big exams and don't want you to be distracted. After the exams , they would not mind if you have a g/f.
You had no choice and don't blame or judge yourself harshly.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (10 April 2010):
 You did not HAVE to lie to her, ... you simply could have told your parents that you had a girlfriend wether they liked it or not. At 18 (or over as you have indicated as your age), you are practically an adult and need to man up, make your own decisions, and be mature and responsible enough to stand up for yourself instead of being deceptive coz mommy and daddy don't like it.
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reader, anonymous_jp +, writes (10 April 2010):
i think explain that to her in a letter/text, she seems like shes hard to talk to with the hanging up and everything.
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